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I Am Very Sorry With The Girls

By baiser103 August 10, 2020 12 answers Last updated August 10, 2020

Hello, First of all, I am 24 years old, from a small town, two months ago I finished my master's degree and I work by the way. I have never had experience with girls, as a student I ran a lot on them, but a time came in high school where I was depressed and afraid to talk to a girl I like (excluding acquaintances / classmates) In the same spirit I continued in universities, I was timid and insecure. I don't have friends (maybe a max or two if I can call them that) the others or they have always tried to lie / use me, but understanding directly I beat their line. So, in general, my circle of contacts is very small, I communicate with different people in work / sports (I train fitness), but above / below general fairy tales, people always seem somehow withdrawn from me, I offered to go out for coffee, disco, either it's always with some excuses or I'm cut off. Whatever, however, I don't give up: I work, I support myself, I play sports, I try to diversify, I got used to always being alone without friends, but I've always wanted and I want a person next to me, I know ... someone I just have next to me to we go out, to share, it's not another cliché, that's exactly what I want. I have had 3-4 acquaintances with girls for the last 2-3 years, but nothing special, hello hello and until then, the empty fear stops me from offering a date or the fear of what will happen if she cuts me off or what will happen to herself meeting .. One of these acquaintances was exactly 3 years ago. in the gym by accident, it wasn't my goal to score, I just saw a pretty modest girl, she was smiling, we exchanged stories a few times. It was not difficult to find her on FB, I saw that she had a friend and until then, a year later I realized that she no longer had a friend,

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cory_joe answered · August 10, 2020

   Brother, I was in that situation too. But I realized that when you try to talk to a girl, she will neither beat you nor bite you. On the contrary - most of them are pleased that you pay attention to them. You just have to have self-confidence - speak boldly and confidently. You will see that most of them are in a good mood (well, of course there are those who look to see if you have money or not, but they are obvious). Invite her for coffee - one will cut you, the other too - and you'll still be a little sick, but you won't lose anything. And so - someone will agree. When you go for coffee - don't act like you're stuck. Be confident. And again - you may like yourself, nothing may happen. But - you lose nothing, except 5 levs for coffee. You will see how it gets easier day by day. You just have to be surrounded by different people so that if they cut you off you don't get depressed, but to try again. Success!

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evelyndouma answered · August 10, 2020

   Hello, so bro, you have nothing to worry about, if you liked her, just attack and that's it ... for example, you can ask her about Facebook or Instagram just by accident ... she will hardly refuse you, even if she doesn't like it. she will accept you again..and there you can start a serious conversation with her if you are so ashamed..at the beginning she may not pay attention to you but when she sees that you are interested in her and you are serious something can happen: ) Just give it a chill I know it's easy in words but when you learn you'll see that it's even easier in action! Try to do this if you will do it because there may be other candidates who will steal your girl :) I wish you success! M 18

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elijah answered · August 10, 2020

   True, you are very pathetic when you seek advice on forums from your peers. I am a woman and I will tell you that even less experienced women intuitively immediately recognize the insecure, timid, unsuccessful and inexperienced among men. And they are not too fascinated by them. This is just the way the world works - a woman is looking for a strong and confident man to rely on. And from the point of view of biology - the strongest and most viable pass on their genes and continue the genus. Especially nowadays we women are tired of being strong, understanding, masculine girls, etc. And the most emancipated deep inside hide the desire to have a strong, not just a physical man to themselves. Not a cowardly, anxious boy to calm, caress and encourage - this is a function of your mothers, not boyfriends. Many men never overcome the inability to communicate with women and remain lonely, over the years, the problem even deepens. No matter how hard you try, you will hardly ever be self-confident, sought-after and very desirable, mobile, as they say. It's just whether you have it or not, whether it's character, charisma or nature, as you want to call it, but not everyone has it. And you have a problem with communication, as you write, with people in general. I would seek the help of a psychologist, not advice from anonymous on the Internet, because it is a serious obstacle in life. It is long and difficult to overcome. Now there is enough literature on the subject, so in your free time from the gym, you can read. Good luck. And you have a problem with communication, as you write, with people in general. I would seek the help of a psychologist, not advice from anonymous on the Internet, because it is a serious obstacle in life. It is long and difficult to overcome. Now there is enough literature on the subject, so in your free time from the gym, you can read. Good luck. And you have a problem with communication, as you write, with people in general. I would seek the help of a psychologist, not advice from anonymous on the Internet, because it is a serious obstacle in life. It is long and difficult to overcome. Now there is enough literature on the subject, so in your free time from the gym, you can read. Good luck.

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nagoyagrampus answered · August 10, 2020

   from the Author: Thanks for the comments, I accept the criticism and it is constructive. I don't know if I would determine that I have a problem with communication, but I always try to be punctual with everyone, I'm not a user, I'm not a hypocrite ... how can I tell you I'm generally surrounded by such individuals, I'm sure I I attract exactly those with this thinking, but even with relatives (excluding ours) are one to one as with acquaintances and friends / girls. Everyone pretends to be interesting, they look for you only and only when they benefit from you, a person likes it ... As I had written, I have one or two friends, just the day before one of the two again, without making a mistake, without I've done nothing .. we call each other, we constantly chat, we agree to go out, at the same time I call him to find out in how many hours, where we will drink .. Answer: Brother, I'm at a party ...? !! okay for tonight is the Disco left, Ans. : I won't be able to .. I shout well, then in the evening he sends me photos and videos .. how to consider it a mockery or what .. Somehow I only surround myself with such people, or users, or cramped or hypocritical, how does this movie turn out. Where can I go wrong when I have neither insulted nor neglected a person or used ... I always try to please and in the end I feel "shit" on my head ...

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loucosbotafogo answered · August 10, 2020

   Number 3, do you read the topic or just write on each topic with a single man to tell him how hopeless the situation is. The man does not want to be walking, he wants a girlfriend and if we have to be honest, many people more hopeless than him have found love. However, you have to intervene to insert how strong and emancipated you are and how those who are not "alpha males" should almost commit suicide or seek help because they are almost sick. I think you're sick. If there was a queue of strong charming alphas in front of your door, you wouldn't have time to write in this forum. However, we both know that the truth is not like that - you are a lonely and bitter aunt - an old girl who cannot realize that the criteria for an alpha male are much higher than what she can offer. And your only excitement is to write toxic statements in an anonymous forum. Come on, feed your seven cats and don't worry, when menopause comes and you're still childless, you'll calm down. Greetings from another pathetic chick who will not shine on you in your wildest dreams.

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thaliabree answered · August 10, 2020

   By # 3, you understand a lot about men's things. It's good that a strong man, not only physically, would not pay attention to your female nonsense: D He was considered to be looking for help from other men. That from whom to look, from BG-mama? Or from people like you, who will get him out with psychological problems just because he has completely normal feelings? It's good that most women aren't like you, that if they were, at least I wouldn't want to talk to them at all. To the author, as others have said, anxiety is overcome by communication. Just accept that in the beginning they will cut you, they may make fun of you, you will feel terrible. Keep trying. Without realizing it, you will see how communication will become easier, you will become more confident and it will start to work. At the moment you are afraid because this is a situation unknown to you, you mythologize women a bit as extraterrestrial beings, you expect too much and too fast. Try to imagine that you have nothing to lose. Your rejection is tied in a towel. From then on, whatever you do can only be a plus.

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barbiebumxxx answered · August 11, 2020

   See number 3 how he attacks the boy, typically female, he was pathetic, not pathetic are people like you, who put themselves on various molds and rubbish just because with them there would be thrill and action, and in fact such men fall for the elementary and superficial women, any valuable woman would realize that nothing happens from this type of man and nothing lasting can be built. For the typical bg, let's not say what liners are very big males, they are very good in bed, etc., but often the opposite is true. Behind this behavior of liners, their own complexes are visible, as well as the women who like them. Most Bulgarian women have long known that they do not have a heart, they are very interested and would sell themselves to any unfortunate person for money. Only a very hollow woman would choose a man to show some self-confidence, which is almost always uncoated. But we live in such a world - everything vulgar and disgusting outside in Bulgaria rises on a pedestal, to be arrogant, arrogant and simple is to walk, to be normal, intelligent and decent is not interesting. Even the liners in question, on whom they sigh more bg not to mention what by beating them with a few fists and slaps, still do not learn a lesson and continue to like this type of garbage. What are wrong jobs? You do not deserve the respect of any valuable and quality man. You are so mean and hypocritical. they still don't learn a lesson and continue to like this type of junk. What are wrong jobs? You do not deserve the respect of any valuable and quality man. You are so mean and hypocritical. they still don't learn a lesson and continue to like this type of junk. What are wrong jobs? You do not deserve the respect of any valuable and quality man. You are so mean and hypocritical.

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younoy46 answered · August 11, 2020

   Dude, I was in a similar situation. I have good and bad news for you. The good thing is that this is not a life sentence and you can change it. The bad thing is that it won't happen on its own and you have to put in a lot of effort, maybe a lifetime. We choose what to be, our character is not constant. Until now, for some reason, your brain works with certain associations and you choose certain actions. They obviously don't work. Now you just have to start choosing another type of action and direct your thoughts in another direction. This will change your neural connections and there - your character. This has been proven by research, so don't listen to number 3 that you can't be walking - you can. I'll tell you what worked for me, see if you can get something. 1- Beliefs and philosophy: - God sent you to earth for a specific purpose and your life has meaning. Even if it makes sense to feed a kitten. But don't let anyone - a woman, a parent, a boss - determine human value. The fact that a woman rejects you does not make you less valuable as a man. - Live according to your beliefs and understandings. Don't try to please anyone. The right people will come. 2 - I will share with you a few books that helped me a lot: - No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover - Tamign Your Outer Child - Susan Anderson - The Way of the Superior Man - David Dade - Boundaries - Henry Cloud Something else that much helped me were the personal development seminars. The best I've been to are those of Insight. There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success! But don't let anyone - a woman, a parent, a boss - determine human value. The fact that a woman rejects you does not make you less valuable as a man. - Live according to your beliefs and understandings. Don't try to please anyone. The right people will come. 2 - I will share with you a few books that helped me a lot: - No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover - Tamign Your Outer Child - Susan Anderson - The Way of the Superior Man - David Dade - Boundaries - Henry Cloud Something else that much helped me were the personal development seminars. The best I've been to are those of Insight. There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success! But don't let anyone - a woman, a parent, a boss - determine human value. The fact that a woman rejects you does not make you less valuable as a man. - Live according to your beliefs and understandings. Don't try to please anyone. The right people will come. 2 - I will share with you a few books that helped me a lot: - No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover - Tamign Your Outer Child - Susan Anderson - The Way of the Superior Man - David Dade - Boundaries - Henry Cloud Something else that much helped me were the personal development seminars. The best I've been to are those of Insight. There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success! that a woman rejects you does not make you less valuable as a man. - Live according to your beliefs and understandings. Don't try to please anyone. The right people will come. 2 - I will share with you a few books that helped me a lot: - No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover - Tamign Your Outer Child - Susan Anderson - The Way of the Superior Man - David Dade - Boundaries - Henry Cloud Something else that much helped me were the personal development seminars. The best I've been to are those of Insight. There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success! that a woman rejects you does not make you less valuable as a man. - Live according to your beliefs and understandings. Don't try to please anyone. The right people will come. 2 - I will share with you a few books that helped me a lot: - No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover - Tamign Your Outer Child - Susan Anderson - The Way of the Superior Man - David Dade - Boundaries - Henry Cloud Something else that much helped me were the personal development seminars. The best I've been to are those of Insight. There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success! 2 - I will share with you a few books that helped me a lot: - No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover - Tamign Your Outer Child - Susan Anderson - The Way of the Superior Man - David Dade - Boundaries - Henry Cloud Something else that much helped me were the personal development seminars. The best I've been to are those of Insight. There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success! 2 - I will share with you a few books that helped me a lot: - No More Mr Nice Guy - Robert Glover - Tamign Your Outer Child - Susan Anderson - The Way of the Superior Man - David Dade - Boundaries - Henry Cloud Something else that much helped me were the personal development seminars. The best I've been to are those of Insight. There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success! There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success! There I met my current girlfriend. If you don't like them, there are others, but these are very strong. You can also try going to a psychologist. It helped me a lot. Success!

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hailiebarber answered · August 11, 2020

   I wondered if it was worth responding to the slop flooded by the three big males who wrote after me. From everything written, they knew only one thing - my husband and I have a cat. I do not care about your opinion, I hope you feel better and help the author.

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tianacosmetics answered · August 12, 2020

   M 40. There are some basic things to succeed in communication and to become attractive to women. At your age I had the same problem and I recognize then everything you have written, as already experienced by myself. And here comes the good news - you can change absolutely everything, even to the other extreme, not being able to respond to all the women who are interested in you. I think you need to start by changing your environment. It may take you years, but it will expand your horizons and opportunities. Change the city with a bigger one. Go abroad if you have the opportunity. Meet other people, enroll in some courses. Change your way of thinking, be more positive. Don't take your life seriously. If your current friends don't suit you - dump them. When you change the environment, you will change your acquaintances. Communicate with positive and successful people, without being intrusive. Stop thinking about what is bothering you right now. Find some short-term goals and achieve them. Whether in career, sports, languages ​​or other pursuits. This way you will gain self-confidence and confidence. Automatically, others will begin to appreciate you, from where self-confidence will be nurtured even more for more success. Pay attention to your appearance, that you train fitness is a good start - and always be with impeccable hygiene, hairstyle, perfumes, stylish clothes, shoes - not necessarily expensive, but necessarily stylish and tastefully chosen. Try to take care of your style and status by all possible means. If you can get a spectacular car - do it. If you have the opportunity to travel - do it often, it enriches and makes you interesting in conversations. Be interested in culture, travel, interesting places, people, books, history, and above all read a lot. Reduce typically male interests - football, cars, fishing, drinking, women. Forget them. Try to be Strong, Brave, Confident, Determined. Be kind, polite, gallant and assertive in your desires, but never aggressive, impudent or soft. Put your own desires first. You will notice that with your new way of thinking, style and behavior you will be wanted by every woman.

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lanalat answered · August 12, 2020

   To number 3 Can I tell you what your "males" are - super-egoism, arrogance, wrong self-esteem, arrogance, propensity to lie, femininity, a brain like an amoeba, etc. Not to mention that most of them are so and men, they like to boil something in their parts, you know what I mean.

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a_bissaka answered · August 13, 2020

   From the Author to com10: Thanks for the positive opinion, at the moment I am unfortunately faced with a similar dilemma, in a relatively small town I manage to make money and make money like people, but I have no one to share with ... I am right in front of this dilemma to stay here and continue my monotonous life or to take risks abroad and throw in the trash everything that has been achieved so far, which from a sober point of view does not sound reasonable at all ...