I'm neither crazy nor depressed (anymore), nor will I do such nonsense again. This happened 3 years ago in 2016! Now at Christmas I will make 25. I broke up then with my longtime friend, who was my first, we were friends for a long time, etc. I caught her with someone else and just lost control. She did not say in my eyes, but hid and turned me around. I was devastated to find out. I got drunk like a dog, I was alone in my apartment (I study in Sofia, otherwise I'm from another small town). And the brilliant idea came to me to throw myself that my family can do without me, and the love of my life was my meaning and I can't do without it. And I just jumped. I was in a medical coma for a month, then I woke up and my whole body ached - broken left leg, ribs, I had implants in my back. I couldn't move. The doctors told me I was very lucky, because I have no organs removed and I will be as before, and I did not believe. In less than a year I walked again and returned to my old form with a lot of will, desire and patience. Nowadays I feel perfect, I play a lot of sports, I am at the end of my higher education and I have a good and profitable job. I think I'm a handsome and smart young man, I'm definitely not with the low self-esteem of the past. I changed a few girlfriends, 3 serious, with whom nothing happened and 4, with whom only sex was. I'm not the guy who didn't accept separation. Lots of people, every train has passengers. One day I will meet the right one, now this is not a priority. I went deeper to see my point of view, because it follows what my problem really is. Our family and friends treat me like a complete oligophrenic or some depressed suicide. Because of an event that happened 3 years ago! I know that I caused them a lot of pain and this is not forgotten, but it is high time they stopped worrying about my mental health, which is excellent. I have not been sick, just every person in his life has ups and downs. My mother did not let me go back to university for a year to "supervise" me (after I had recovered). Every day he checks me several times on the phone and God forbid I pick him up, he panics. It's a shame because sometimes I'm with a girl or friends outside and it starts with the questions. She even called me during sex and it's awkward, and if I don't pick up ... I just know what's next. My father constantly reminds me of the incident like - “What had possessed you then, son? ”And“ Never repeat this nonsense, at least for the sake of a woman! ”. He says it for good, but I want the fucking thing to be in the past. I have a lot of new friends who don't know and I haven't told them and it's OK with them, but others still treat me like a cripple. They don't joke like they used to accidentally insult me, they are careful and play the role of psychologists a lot. I appreciate it again, but it's naughty. My godmother constantly sends me articles about depression, overcoming, philosophical and psychological ones and some encouraging writings, as if I am still the lollipop of 2016! I get nervous because they make me feel weak. I am a very different person since then. Even last year I came across the girl, looked her straight in the eye and smiled because I won - I did not give up despite the momentary mistake. God gave me a second chance! I took it. The other thing is, if I wanted to kill myself already, I had a lot of opportunities after that. Even in the hospital, there was a lethal amount of morphine next to me, and I could reach out and put an end to it. But after waking up, I chose to live and robbed life of a handful. So when will they start treating me like a normal person? And no, the story is not fake, please do not comment. Just help or don't hate. I can post links to you when newspapers and websites wrote about me.
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And how old are you actually (calmly! I read! At 24) to allow such an attitude on the part of yours? Especially if you really have a "nice and profitable job". Terminate ANY CONTACT if necessary! At least for a while. You change your phone, you don't tell them the address of the accommodation, before that you warn them, of course, what and most importantly WHY you plan to do ... After a year or two, after they are convinced that without their fluttering you can live if you want it yourself - you can renew contacts. Let me just tell you my opinion: You have done a really great foolishness, and rightly so, people are worried ... Maybe they are overplaying their worries, but there is no other force in the world, except you, to put them in their place ...
It's kind of normal for people to treat you like that after the nonsense you've done. 3 years is not so much time to forget such a thing. Put yourself in their shoes and think that they are worried about you and are not sure if one day you will not scroll again and repeat. In time, they will stop bothering you. Tell them what you wrote here - that you are not happy to be brought back to this incident, that you are another person, you have realized your mistake and you will not do such nonsense again. Be serious and persistently make this topic taboo.
As a bystander, I can understand both your point of view and that of your relatives and older friends. They are worried because you surprised them unpleasantly. You looked good to them even then, that's where the key lies. You studied, you lived, you had a girlfriend, you broke up and your loved ones expected you to feel bad for a few months, to drink from time to time and to be dramatic, but not to commit suicide. That is why at the moment it is difficult for them to forget what happened and to trust you that you are really well and can breathe calmly. I explain these things to you, although you must have established them a long time ago, because you need to understand them, but you yourself must really understand them first. Think a little about the fear these people went through. I went to the hospital and one of my fondest memories is waking up, dizzy from all the drugs, and I find my mother praying by the hospital bed. I have never before and since seen my mother pray on her knees. And she still doesn't know I saw her. When you stop being angry with them, then you will be ready to talk to them seriously. This is my advice to you. Stop being angry with them, understand them and talk to them. You are a great person and you can safely tell your mother that sometimes when you call you with friends outside or with a woman at home and these checks burden you and make you nervous. Tell her all these things you wrote here. If during your conversation too emotional, there will be no effect. Your mother panics, she is afraid for you, your anger will not calm her down. And she still doesn't know I saw her. When you stop being angry with them, then you will be ready to talk to them seriously. This is my advice to you. Stop being angry with them, understand them and talk to them. You are a great person and you can safely tell your mother that sometimes when you call you with friends outside or with a woman at home and these checks burden you and make you nervous. Tell her all these things you wrote here. If during your conversation too emotional, there will be no effect. Your mother panics, she is afraid for you, your anger will not calm her down. And she still doesn't know I've seen her. When you stop being angry with them, then you will be ready to talk to them seriously. This is my advice to you. Stop being angry with them, understand them and talk to them. You are a great person and you can safely tell your mother that sometimes when you call you with friends outside or with a woman at home and these checks burden you and make you nervous. Tell her all these things you wrote here. If during your conversation too emotional, there will be no effect. Your mother panics, she is afraid for you, your anger will not calm her down. that sometimes when he calls you with friends outside or with a woman at home and these checks make you burdened and nervous. Tell her all these things you wrote here. If during your conversation too emotional, there will be no effect. Your mother panics, she is afraid for you, your anger will not calm her down. that sometimes when he calls you with friends outside or with a woman at home and these checks make you burdened and nervous. Tell her all these things you wrote here. If during your conversation too emotional, there will be no effect. Your mother panics, she is afraid for you, your anger will not calm her down.
In my opinion, their attitude is normal. You didn't just have any thoughts of taking your own life, but you did it directly and only by some happy coincidence / fate did you survive. There is no way they can be calm, after all, they are the people closest to you, they worry because they love you. I don't know what to advise you except to talk to them seriously on the subject, and you can even show them what you have written here. And why not visit a psychologist together. They have also experienced a huge trauma around you. They need help. You may be a new person, but they are the same people who thought for a month that their child would leave this world. Put yourself in their place simply.
Your loved ones don't treat you like a moron. They just experienced an incredible shock, they were on the verge of losing you and such a thing can not leave a mark and trauma in them. You have marked everyone who cares about you, not just yourself. Yes - it is stupid to speak to you now cautiously and carefully, but once you are well aware of the reason, it is right to show understanding. 3 years is not that long at all. Be grateful to the people who support you. If something comes to you more or you think it is inappropriate, it is best to talk to the person and explain in plain text why what he is doing is neither necessary nor OK for you. Your loved ones can't read your mind, they just try to be useful in the best way they can - you have to talk to them and explain carefully,
In fact, I think you just think you're ok. The very fact that you are irritated shows that you are not what you think you are. If you are really strong, you will not be angry that they are attentive to you. Be grateful.
What is your problem? People care about you and they care. I would be happy in your place. And in time it will pass. Would it be better to be from some insensitive family that doesn't care? Don't pay so much attention to them, in another year they will forget it. Plus, they don't behave like a moron with you at all, they don't insult you or anything. People are just worried. Their memory of the stress they experienced is still alive :)
Bray! Abe, 3, you gave a unique piece of advice to the boy! Put yourself in the place of these parents - isn't it enough for them to have the other thing they went through, but now even if the author left, hid and even blocked them - what cruelty! As you raise children, you will understand what idiocy you have beaten. I share the opinion of other commenters.
You surrounded yourself with egati people, laughed out loud, sorry, it's ridiculous on my part. Don't you have anything to say to each other that each of them enters a role, a victim, a savior - on your back. Me, take on the role of the aggressor, you. But you seem to have taken it somewhat to the girls, which, I think ... you use. Send this aunt of yours to preach her philosophies elsewhere, because now you have more important things to do. In plain text. Tell your father that he starts with dementia and you are afraid of him after he forgets that he is telling you the same things.
12 and 3, you are freaks.
Little selfish man, someone has to slap you verbally and that will be me. Not because of the stupidity you have done, but because you think only of yourself. How do you think yours will come out of this adventure without mental trauma? Your implants ring on the detector, theirs ring on your phone. Do you know what it's like to be in the intensive care unit every day, to watch this loved one - neither alive nor dead. Do you know what it's like to talk to him and not know if he hears or not. Do you know what hope is to have his tube removed and then what it is like to have it put on again. Do you know how you examine every muscle, every hair on the doctor's face when he comes to give information, in search of hope, of hope, where you are already wondering where to get it ... And what is it like to tell you day after day "unchanged". Do you know how a person adjusts to the thought that his favorite may not wake up. Do you know that you have thoughts on how to organize his funeral in the most dignified way. Do you know what it's like to have such thoughts in a person who is alive, for whom you have to hope ... Because the chance to wake up in a month is nil, the chance to recover and live normally is nil. It tends to zero. Do you know what it's like to wake this person up? Do you think it's a relief? It is not. Then the second phase begins. What is up with him? Will he be able to speak? To walk? To be independent someday. To study. To have children. To have a dignified life. Life after your parents. You are not the only victim. Yours tore your ass to get better. With rehabilitation on the trail is not over. But the worst: they have experienced losing you. How do you think they feel at the thought of going through the same thing again? You know how much you've changed, don't you? YOU and only YOU are now responsible for relieving their trauma. Not to demand more from them. to leave you alone and I do not know what you are. And what did you do about it? He didn't kill himself a second time. Well done. Ame is not enough. Now I want you to invite them to a dinner you made yourself, something they love, not you. Shop and cook it yourself. Sit down and tell them a HUGE honest human "sorry". A huge "thank you". That you understand what they went through because of you. That it is only because of their efforts that you are what you are now. Healthy and normal. That you EVALUATE it. That no one deserves to go through this hell and that you haven't thought about them completely. But now you think. For them and for yourself. That he would not throw their efforts to the wind. That you are happy that you failed to die and that you have such unconditional support to recover. That you feel completely normal and want to live your days, thanks to them - as a normal person. You have to carry these people in your arms, you are sitting there wanting more and more of them. Well, they can't help but want to protect themselves from new injuries. Help them overcome it. Tell them about your plans. Meet with them regularly. Call them, don't just wait for them. Give them the peace they seek. Give them gestures too. Invite them to your coffee, give them flowers and gifts for the holidays. Take them on a trip they dreamed of, go together. Starve her, but do it. It's just time to take responsibility for yourself and the consequences of your actions. Everything is in your hands. We can't change others, but their attitude is certainly changing, when we change ours to them. Because we are such beings - we react to changes. Not on "I want, I want, I want".
You should be glad that your relatives and friends care about your well-being, even if they do not express it in the most adequate way, in your opinion. You can't expect things to be 100% the same as before after what you did. So accept it and move on. My mother calls me once a year for my birthday, and my father never called me? Many people will say that they want this "freedom" from their parents - yes, but let's not. I feel like I'm a burden to ours.
It reminds me of a friend of mine, Joro the Immortal. Once he got drunk like a hoe and called on the phone, played me some ballads, drunk, drenched. This was the last song, some such nonsense. Then he drank some sleeping pills, but they saved him. Since then, he has been nicknamed Joro the Immortal. Now, after so many years, we are still making fun of him immortal. We don't treat him like a moron, we treat him like a clown. Because he actually acted like a clown.
Author, you say 3 years is a long time, huh? To be alive and healthy, to have a child one day and to come here again to write here after such a shock if there are many. How do you want to be treated after you act like a moron? Tomorrow, when you have a child, will you trust him to see that suddenly it has become a cool dude who has the dignity to look for him on the phone while fucking chicks, because no one knows if at some point he will throw himself again? Now you are very open, you had a job, you were confident. But you say yourself that life is ups and downs. Now you're at the top and you think you won't do the stupid thing again, but can you guarantee that tomorrow you will not be beaten by life and you will not decide to throw yourself again after a bottle of alcohol? How can they parents know if you are still in a hole and if someone has infected you again and you will not decide to go crazy on a drunken head again? 3 years have passed. Well, have a child one day and see how it hurts, just to fall and scratch your knee, and imagine for months to stand on his head and hell wonder if he will live, if he will walk and then come again to write here how many are 3 d. Accept them like this - if you have decided to be a moron, now you will bear the responsibility and you will endure another 10 years if they have to call you in 5 minutes. Some things have consequences and you have to think BEFORE you do something stupid. Let it be a lesson for you to think ahead. and imagine for months to stand on his head and hell wonder if he will live, if he will walk and then come again to write here how many are 3 years. Accept them like this - if you decide to be a moron, now you will bear the responsibility and you endure another 10 years if they have to call you in 5 minutes. Some things have consequences and you have to think BEFORE you do something stupid. Let it be a lesson for you to think ahead. and imagine for months standing on his head and hell wondering if he will live, if he will walk and then come again to write here how many are 3 years. Accept them like this - if you have decided to be a moron, now you will bear the responsibility and you endure another 10 years if they have to call you in 5 minutes. Some things have consequences and you have to think BEFORE you do something stupid. Let it be a lesson for you to think ahead.
Until 13 ... Waaaaaaauuu .... Thanks for the attitude. It is good that you are anonymous, otherwise someone can condemn you for such attacks.
Author, you don't have to put up with it. Tell them / tell them exactly the same thing you wrote here.
post the links, it's interesting
to 18 Nima ?! Again, you are a freak - and this is not an attack, but a finding and an indisputable fact. Only a mistaken being, without a drop of empathy and humanity, is able to "give birth" to such ideas and statements. It is very clear to me how much anonymity protects me - not at all. I don't need it either - judge me, I'm waiting.
18, yes, 13 spoke very stupidly. But will you judge anyone who insults you? And how does it prove in court that you are not a freak?
17. And all the rest, whereof ye know much in words, I will bet that none of you shall suffer in the place of the author.
Author, you are incredibly arrogant. This responds to any empathy for you from the readers of your story. Once you reach out, you will endure. If you don't delete numbers, addresses and go live alone. Just don't be so arrogant because you're annoying. What was it taken for? He won ... You defeated pots. You have shown weakness, you have shown stupidity and now you do not want to be treated as a disabled person. Well, it doesn't work. It's your own fault. You didn't even want others to understand, it's not possible, you will wear the stain. And be grateful and humble that you got a chance. Not everyone gets it. Insolence will get you nowhere. I imagine how vicious you are .... Once upon a time I went with one like you. He committed suicide at every separation. Just like you, arrogant, but he was pinching his ears in front of the psychiatrist's office, because when he reached out, I called an ambulance and they said, that he was trying to commit suicide. Then he went to report. Otherwise, he never lowered his head. What is the conclusion - humility and gratitude. Respect for parents, their concerns and reassessment of behavior. Don't yell at us for the way they treat you. Look for the answer in yourself.
23, author, do not pretend to be another user, but understand that people have stated their point of view, have respect at least for their opinion. You went from one extreme to the other. From a weak-minded suicide, you have become an arrogant person with no empathy for your loved ones. Do not confuse what you say you have become confident with arrogance. This is not confidence, but masking insecurity with arrogance. In Bulgaria, confidence is widely understood as arrogance, but the difference is huge.
22 To the court this is his work was a soul. ;) Evidence is collected, these are presented, interrogations are made to find out if you are a freak. ;) Get some credit for body language and what cops and psychologists teach. And many other people, because they just need it at work. ;)
23 to 25: I'm not the author, of course I can't prove it, but that doesn't change the meaning of what I said. Don't you suppose there is another point of view? Well, whether you believe that this is an opinion written by the author or not - say honestly: Would you tolerate?
28, when I am guilty and I have made a mistake, I endure, yes. I'm not pretending to be uninteresting. I can't stand it unless what happens to me is fair. In this case, however, it is fair and completely understandable. You can't jump off the balcony and then complain that yours is afraid for your life and they call you more often out of anxiety. Yes, it's not pleasant, but at least learn, if not to think before you do nonsense, then at least to bear the consequences and responsibility of them. Yes, they may be overdoing it, I'm not arguing, but can anyone blame them for such a shock? If it was your child, you wouldn't be constantly wondering if he didn't want to commit suicide again.
32, my view is that suicides are victims, not guilty, but even if there is guilt, I don't think it should be punished that long. I, too, was about to commit suicide, and believe me, no one would be able to stop me, even such an attempt would be contraindicated. I think the author has a right to be happy, he has suffered enough. Each point of view has advantages and disadvantages, but one of the two is the "lesser evil".
33, why do you accept it as "punishment"? It's just that people are worried and concerned and rightly so. Every normal parent would be worried and it is normal not to pass for 3 years.
From the author: Here I am. Please don't argue, you just have different points of view. Thanks to you, especially the strong influential opinion of number 14, I realized my mistake. So it's a little annoying to look at their attention, it may be. But when you think about what they went through. My mother told me that I was swollen like a donut, all with various devices. I had a tube in my throat (when I woke up there was one too). After waking up for a few more weeks I was shaken with morphine and fentanyl, my godmother had come to visit and I was pulling her and roaring, I also don't know why. Then the rehabilitation, which lasted for months and they were by my side. I would have mentally collapsed in their place, but my whole family was very strong because of me. I owe them a debt of gratitude. I will change my attitude. I will show them that I am fine. And it's time for me to take care of them. They also hid from their grandparents (my mother's parents are alive and old), lied to them that I had gone on a brigade to the United States and later (as I corrected myself) that I had broken my leg there. I will be grateful for life, sorry for my current grumbling.
35, very nice comment and hopefully honest. One day, when you have a child of your own, you will understand them even better. From Joro the Immortal's friend
I know you don't want them to treat you like that, but they still worry about you, your parents love you ... And if your child did that, wouldn't you worry?