Hello. I am an 18-year-old girl from a relatively small town. I soon came of age, but the problems with my mother do not stop. She never allowed me to go out, until later than 7 pm, when I was called outside, even for 30 minutes, she did not let me in again. I have a little sister, my mother always wants me to look at her and stand next to her. I've never been to discos, and I don't want to, but I want a normal life, at least to go out. She has always been against me. She always insulted me, she said that I was rubbish, that I was useless, and I always apologize after every scandal because she is my mother and I respect her. But it can't be that way anymore. I have a dream to study medicine after I graduate, but it explicitly forbids me to separate from it and go. I have good grades, I have never insulted her. The words I hear from her all the time are: hoax, rubbish, you're useless, who will take you like that, you have these 18 on paper, but not in your head, you are stupid, you have no rights .. I started to underestimate myself .. I wonder if the words are not true. The only thing I want from her is to just go out and make my dream come true. I can't watch my sister at night, and always be with her, play with her so they can let me out for 1 hour. Please give me some advice, I don't know what to do. If she continues like this, I will do something she will hardly regret ... Please give me some advice, I don't know what to do. If she continues like this, I will do something she will hardly regret ... Please give me some advice, I don't know what to do. If she continues like this, I will do something she will hardly regret ...
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She tells you the things that SHE is. Watch your little sister if she is still very young and study, if not at least prepare. Then you catch your way and that's it. She wants you to be with her all the time because she "sacrificed her best years" to look after you and now you owe her.
Move to another city and work for a year or two to support yourself. I don't know where you are from, but in the regional cities (except for the biggest ones) there is work and the rents are not so high. Your mother is an energy vampire, it would not be fair to let her beat you. She doesn't deserve respect, nothing that she's your mother. Such people do not understand from a good attitude.
Your mother has no right to insult you like that, what does your sister say about it. I understand you want to watch over her. How old is she? I know you want to go out with friends. You are 18 years old. Just don't get attached to your mother, she's offending herself and not you
When you graduate, go to another city to study medicine. If you don't have money and your parents don't want to support you financially, I recommend you work for a year ... again in ANOTHER CITY and then enroll to study.