Hello. I ask that my story be published because I urgently need advice. I am a woman of 32 years and I have been happily married for seven years. I don't want to brag or exaggerate, but my husband is a very attractive, really very handsome man with Hollywood charm, which has always attracted women. I will say for myself that I am not the greatest beauty, but we did not fall in love because of my appearance, but because of a bunch of other positive qualities. The point is, before he met me, he usually dated women who weren't looking for a serious relationship, so he wasn't looking for a serious relationship either. He definitely knows how to flirt. Until recently, everything was going well, but for some time he began to do me a lot of unpleasant tricks that would infuriate any woman. And the worst thing is that my brother, who from the beginning could not stand my husband, now he is very close to him and apparently they are constantly hiding something from me. A month ago, I was having coffee with a friend and when I returned my husband had disappeared. He literally didn't come home all night, and only the next day - in the afternoon. He was in a super - naughty mood, stretched out on the table and told me "I'm so angry that I'm going to break someone's head" and took his beer most brazenly. I asked him where he had been several times, and he was silent. Then he went to the living room couch and lay in front of the TV all night. The next day I asked him if there was a reason for this behavior, and he told me that his stomach just hurt a lot and his blue eyes were rolling. (I used these numbers when I didn't want to go to school as a child and I'm not such a fool as to be attached to him.) Then things got better and after about a week there was another annoying incident. At dinner he was in a very cheerful mood, telling jokes and we had a great time. Suddenly his mood just deteriorated, he frowned and went out on the terrace to watch Plovdiv at night. I went to bed and probably not until 1:00 and he went to bed. I tried to talk to him, but he always said there was no problem, let alone infidelity, but I was always worried. We lose trust in each other. I also asked my brother, and he replied that this is just a temporary stage when a person needs a little break from everything. I don't know what to do anymore. We also have a two-year-old child and I wonder if I should worry about the child, if I should worry about the man ... Please give me advice! I went to bed and probably not until 1:00 and he went to bed. I tried to talk to him, but he always said there was no problem, let alone infidelity, but I was always worried. We lose trust in each other. I also asked my brother, and he replied that this is just a temporary stage when a person needs a little break from everything. I don't know what to do anymore. We also have a two-year-old child and I wonder if I should worry about the child, if I should worry about the man ... Please give me advice! I went to bed and probably not until 1:00 and he went to bed. I tried to talk to him, but he always said there was no problem, let alone infidelity, but I was always worried. We lose trust in each other. I also asked my brother, and he replied that this is just a temporary stage when a person needs a little break from everything. I don't know what to do anymore. We also have a two-year-old child and I wonder if I should worry about the child, if I should worry about the man ... Please give me advice!
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I don't know what to say, but if you really think he's cheating on you, secretly check his phone, etc. but I really hope he didn't make that mistake.
He comes home the next day, plays it "bad mood", don't ask that I'm evil ... He doesn't give you any explanation, .. apparently he hasn't learned to lie "professionally" yet. So, press it until you pull something out, whatever it is, it will always tell you something. You know, a year ago I had a similar situation, I tried to talk - it didn't happen that he turned it over to me in a scandal, you see, I was getting bored of my questions. And last but not least. I disappeared in 2 days, I just called him the first night to say he wasn't there. to go home, not to worry, and I closed without giving him a chance to ask. When I got home, the washerwoman with dark shadows under her eyes was furious! I tell him, listen, don't get bored, what for you, the same for me. We had to clarify! Aaaa no, it's so good, you get lost somewhere, then it's my turn! Since then (8 years) he has been at home on a clock, if he is late for some reason, he calls, explains, without asking him where, with whom and what he will do. if he is in a relationship, he must invite me.
I don't think it's infidelity, I hope I'm wrong, but it's a health problem
I think he may be involved in something. To do business. It may not be infidelity, someone detained him that night and he is obviously obsessed during the day with what is happening. If he is a business, he can tell you soon. and if he got into a fight with someone, I know. At this stage, what are you worried about. If your brother is involved, it's probably not another woman at the bottom of things.
Maybe your husband and brother have found a common mistress and are dating her together. Seek a private detective to follow him. It is unlikely to cost you much money. But try to be from another city, for example from Sofia if you are from Plovdiv, because he doesn't know who he knows. I see no other way, obviously he is very playful and will not betray himself.
What are you going to worry about, the man is not small ... has he behaved like that before? Don't worry, have fun and that's it ..
I did not understand anything.
He's obviously cheating on you with your brother ... haha. This is a joke. I don't think she's a woman, if she were a woman, she would have made up a lie in advance and been prepared. He would think of something as if he were on a business trip or that he had to go to another city urgently, for example. And he would definitely play him a little better, no matter how bad an actor he was. He would hardly be so obviously blown away. And it's too obvious to think she's a woman. I think he's involved in some kind of scam, owes money, plays gambling or something.
From 8 apparently something unforeseen happened so that he would not go home and be prepared with a lie. He may have had an accident and not want to worry you. Didn't they clean someone up and bury the corpse?
"A month ago, I was having coffee with a friend and when I came back my husband was gone." The man was waiting for you until midnight to take you to a restaurant, and you're screaming, is he guilty? Drive by the logic of №2!
What does it matter if he cheats on you or not? He makes you a fool in any case, such behavior in a married man and father is unacceptable. You must be ugly and you are afraid that you will not find something better, respectively you pamper it, and you do everything possible not to push it away ... But with such behavior you do not help your relationship. It doesn't cheat on you, but at the moment some future problem is forming - gambling, alcohol, drugs, getting involved with bad people ... And if you don't put it in place now, then you will be very sorry. The next time something like this happens - don't go home and give an explanation, don't play with copying his behavior at all, but tell him as seriously as possible "I know what you're getting into and I see you haven't made a living. , I will not let you back home with the child - with this behavior he is looking for a bachelor apartment,
Yes, I can tell by the signs that they are very likely to be drugs. Fellowship with your brother, a shared secret, a bad mood the next day and a sudden change in mood are very likely to have fun with drugs.
Hello, I read your story. My opinion is that your husband has had a varied life and now it is difficult for him to accept everyday life. Renew your relationship make him a surprise outside the home atmosphere. Show yourself that despite the adversity, you are ready to do fun things. Remind your brother that you are his sister and you know more about him than your husband. Problems are solved quickly when they are small.