Woman I am 27 years old. For three months I have been working in a large and successful company in one of the departments. It started spontaneously. I appeared for an interview and instead of worrying, I stood and listened to my supervisor's convictions about why I should start. I felt that he had some sympathy for me, but I pretended not to notice. I try to do my job well, but even for no reason, my boss constantly praises or privileges me in front of everyone. They were annoyed by his behavior and began vicious hints. Until recently, I gave no reason that anything could happen between us. Last week HE had a birthday and of course we were invited by the whole department. He is very nice to me, we talked and there were subtle hints that he likes me. I felt a strong attraction to alcohol or something else. Nothing has happened, only a few non-committal text messages after the end of the evening. I don't want to reveal myself and do anything, it's a commonplace reality between a boss and a secretary, but I feel like I'm starting to succumb to temptation, and I don't need to KNOW that. I don't dress or behave defiantly, but I don't hide that I'm beautiful, no matter how immodest it sounds. So my question is, how do I show him that I don't want anything between us without hurting his ego and without losing my job? I try to be at a distance, but he is constantly looking for intimacy. I forgot to mention that he is divorced and older than me, I am also married. that I am beautiful, however immodest it may sound. So my question is, how do I show him that I don't want anything between us without hurting his ego and without losing my job? I try to be at a distance, but he is constantly looking for intimacy. I forgot to mention that he is divorced and older than me, I am also married. that I am beautiful, however immodest it may sound. So my question is, how do I show him that I don't want anything between us without hurting his ego and losing my job? I try to be at a distance, but he is constantly looking for intimacy. I forgot to mention that he is divorced and older than me, I am also married.
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You start to give up. It's a pity for you, you will fail, you will destroy your family, but that's right, whoever crushes anything will itch.
Well, even if you lose your job, it's better than losing your family! Do not make that mistake. Just ignore hints, etc., don't pay attention and you will see how it will cool down.
I think it's too late to show him that you're not interested in him, especially since that's not true. These "non-committal text messages" have shown him that you like him if you wrote naughty or playful things to him ... If you want to keep your family, you will have to either stop working there and not meet the boss again. , or just start to treat his jokes with a slight disregard, etc., ie it is complete indifference and antipathy to him.
A man needs a little to be deceived that you are giving him "advances", ie NO text messages and extracurricular insinuations, remarks, etc., otherwise the man will curl up more and more until you reach until your dismissal, either because of his excessive frustration with not letting him go, or precisely because you let him go at some point, it will simply be necessary for him to point the door at you in order to stop the unhealthy comments in your service. Ie stop now that it may soon be a little late :) M, 35
Tell him you are married and you never cheat on your husband. And so as not to offend him, tell him that you like him, but things just can't happen in this life. I do so and no one is angry with me;)
From the author: I have not met him outside the office, except for the birthday, which is attended by the entire department. The text messages were a kind of reminder to me of a task, with the addition, "I'm counting on you," good night, ",, don't get tired," and he wrote it all to me, not me to him. I want to tell moralists that I do not intend to do anything, but seek advice on how to repel him without offending him.
Come on. You certainly like bosses.
... TO THE AUTHOR; you soberly imagine that this would be a banal story .... just tell him directly, at the right time, that you would not allow yourself a more familiar or intimate relationship at work .. ZARA
I'm sorry to tell you this, but you actually like your boss (your poor husband). Once alcohol has made you sympathize with him, the point is clear ... and how exactly to show him that you have no sympathy for him ... Well, there's no way, because you have ... Otherwise we understand men as we don't have a chance (they just ignore us and we feel like they're hooked: D) and we know that in cases like this it's a matter of time and alcohol ... (maybe I'll go I'm wrong - after all this is just a forum)
Abe, just tell him you're married, and you don't like receiving text messages, he'll understand your hint, and if he's sensible, he'll understand you and he won't fire you. P. 37.
I understand your concern. You don't need to be cold. Keep up the business and be careful with colleagues. If you don't give in at all, sooner or later he will give up. Another option to get him to back off without offending him is if, for example, your husband comes from time to time to pick you up from work. Even if there is a way for your boss to see you, you can demonstrate intimacy by hugging and kissing your husband or you are very happy for him. If she sees you in love and happy with your husband, I guess she'll back off. But in the end, your boss didn't offer to see you outside the office, because of that, and no one knows how much to worry about. The point is, even if you show him a little that you are not indifferent, he will act immediately. For now, he is asked about the uncertainty ... Have you ever thought that it is possible to just flirt without intending to go further?
the profession of secretary has two families, formal and informal
Alcohol causes inhibitions to fall, and when they fall, your pure self remains. If you are dumb and aggressive you show yourself as such, if you ****** raise your legs high, if you have an attraction to someone you let them understand, in your case it is clear as day that if you think about it how not to it happened, it has already happened in your head, you just don't feel like admitting it and asking for it. On the one hand, this closeness with your boss, you expect to guarantee you not only the thrill but also a more social attitude, on the other hand, your marital status and the fear of being inflated in the work environment worries you. In the end, in order not to get out of control soon, stop things in their infancy or be ready for the hell to bear the consequences.