My friend was very angry about one of my HUGE mistakes. I experienced a very painful, passionate relationship. From 2000 to 2009. Yes, that's right. My friend was from my class, we were together from 11th grade, so from simple jokes it turned into a serious relationship. I was born in 1983, so was he (the former). He kept harassing others at school, and he stayed that way. The first 3 years perfectly - as they say, love lasted three years. Then he started with this disgusting mental harassment. He muttered about everything. We even had an argument because I was cold in the evening and I turned on the stove, and he turned it off and muttered to save, etc. And he himself drank a lot, of course - he did not beat me, but ruined his health, and exhibited. He once said that he has a life and will live it 100%, and I told him: - Then leave the bottle! What a howl, what a miracle. Because of this remark of mine. It shattered my psyche so much that it was even worse than a beating. Constant drinking made me nervous. I loved him very much and stayed with him. After a while he left the cup, but caught his mistress and I ended. I went to the United States, worked on a beach in the summer, and spent the rest of my time in New York with a friend I lived with. But for New Year 2011 I returned to my parents to celebrate together and decided to stay here for a while. I met a wonderful man - an architecture student. He is younger than me, he was born in 1987. A very smart, good and handsome boy. He does NOT DRINK, does not smoke, does not cheat, does not grumble and DOES NOT EXPOSE ME IN FRONT OF HIS PARENTS. We have been together for 7 months now, not much, but we have already bought an apartment and live in it. But it so happened that last week, while we were having lunch, I called him by his ex's name! He said there was nothing,
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You made a big mistake ... tell him it was something like a habit before, make sure you don't think about your ex, and if he's really smart, as he says he'll understand. But of course, you women have a habit of throwing yourself at simpletons, so I wouldn't be surprised if you still thought about your ex. Death_Blade ^
Oh, a lot of naughty things. It happened unintentionally, but your friend was affected. Maybe he's exaggerating a little. Or he just needs to be alone for a few days. Don't push him, but explain at the convenience that it was really a language mistake. You yourself do not know why it happened. Tell him you don't remember your ex at all, because your current friend must have thought that the other non-stop is in your mind when you drop out and call him by his name. Convince him that you don't think about him at all, it's just a mistake. Let him not behave like a child, and if there is no other reason to be affected so much, let him go home.
And still, you can be together for 2 days, but be sure that this is the man! If you love each other you will really forgive, such mistakes happen, especially as you used to. It didn't happen who knows what :)
Why do you call him "I hope" she is pressed by mistake, look for him, apologize to him ... He is a big boy, he can understand that sometimes you make a mistake in language.
Hello! In order not to make mistakes, call him kind. Call him and tell him to come home, that you love him. When you see each other, tell him that you are in the wrong habit, it is not easy to say a name for so many years, and it eventually becomes imperceptible when you say it. An example not exactly for a boy, but I was still ashamed of myself: I have a child! I was used to telling the children oh, how, and when I gave birth in the maternity ward, I kept calling instead of my mother, how. Can you imagine. And the women there just looked at me like an alien. But I forced myself and when I started to say it and fell silent, I thought for a while and then I continued. After 2 days I got on the rails. He needs to understand you.
If he is a smart boy, he will realize, understand and will not turn a mistake into an incredible problem. What if you got his name wrong, big deal :) It can happen to anyone. It has become unpleasant for him, but even to get out and distance you from you, because of one name, is too much. You need a serious conversation. I hope you won't wait for him to think of you. If you do nothing, he may think that you are not interested in him, and everything will go nowhere. This is yours, it's a lot of noise for nothing :) The initiative is now in your field. Call him, ask to see you. And when that happens, first have a normal conversation, expressing concern and feelings for each other. And go back to the incident, tell him you're sorry, but he unwittingly says his other name. Tell him it doesn't matter, and you shouldn't be angry with him, because you have been with him, and not since yesterday, but for 7 months. Express your feelings for him, and ask him now what he thinks you should do, if he will come back to you. And don't worry, sometimes big people behave like children, but if he loves you, he will rethink his actions and come back to you. Unless it's just the name that's the problem. ~ winterfire ~
Give each such mistake an expensive (in money) gift, you will quickly get rid of these mistakes :)