Hello everyone! I decided to share my story with you to help me as a person who has nothing to do with my problem. I have a friend for approximately 5 years. We met while I was studying. We have been living together for three years and our behavior is like a family. In the beginning, for the first two years, everything was like a fairy tale.
He loved me madly, I loved him too. He was constantly giving me presents and kind gestures, he was ready for anything for me, and so was I. However, when he moved in with me, to live together, things changed. He began to behave somewhat colder and more commandingly as if I were his wife, or worse, subordinate. I put up with this because I knew he loved me, and my love for him was too strong. Last year, however, everything turned upside down. He started cheating on me, and I pretended, that I do not feel or see the affairs. The eternal delays, the foreign perfume on the clothes, the absences on the weekends ...
I accepted it calmly as if nothing had happened. I was a model of the ideal wife - outside, at home, with friends, with colleagues, in bed. Four months ago, I scandalized him because I couldn't stand it. He laughed, not even denying that he had other lovers. I told him I wanted to separate because I had no intention of marrying him and enduring the same behavior for another 50 years. In fact, I didn't love him anymore, his behavior disgusted me. I expected him to start begging me, but he laughed again. He told me "Just try."
And then I understood what his words meant. I was fired soon after the scandal - there were connections in my office. I don't know what and where he did, but we live in a not very big city and things are getting louder. I was not hired anywhere else, he intervened again, and eventually one day I realized that my apartment was named after him. He didn't get there to kick me out, but I know that in another scandal this will happen. And on top of that, I'm pregnant! From him, from the monster who deceived me with his gentle demeanor and honeyed words and who will drive me out of my house without blinking his eye!
I don't know what to do anymore. I'm three months pregnant, it doesn't show yet. I want to leave him, but I'm afraid he won't let me. I have a good education and I think that I will be able to find a job in another distant city. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant? What after? When my baby is born, what will I explain to him? That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child? he intervened again, and eventually one day I realized that my home was in his name.
He didn't get there to kick me out, but I know that in another scandal this will happen. And on top of that, I'm pregnant! From him, from the monster who deceived me with his gentle demeanor and honeyed words and who will drive me out of my house without blinking his eye! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm three months pregnant, it doesn't show yet. I want to leave him, but I'm afraid he won't let me. I have a good education and I think that I will be able to find a job in another distant city. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant? What after? When my baby is born, what will I explain to him? That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child? he intervened again, and eventually one day I realized that my home was in his name.
He didn't get there to kick me out, but I know that in another scandal this will happen. And on top of that, I'm pregnant! From him, from the monster who deceived me with his gentle demeanor and honeyed words and who will drive me out of my house without blinking his eye! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm three months pregnant, it doesn't show yet. I want to leave him, but I'm afraid he won't let me. I have a good education and I think that I will be able to find a job in another distant city. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant? What after? When my baby is born, what will I explain to him? That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child? He didn't get there to kick me out, but I know that in another scandal this will happen.
And on top of that, I'm pregnant! From him, from the monster who deceived me with his gentle demeanor and honeyed words and who will drive me out of my house without blinking his eye! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm three months pregnant, it doesn't show yet. I want to leave him, but I'm afraid he won't let me. I have a good education and I think that I will be able to find a job in another distant city. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant? What after? When my baby is born, what will I explain to him?
That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child? He didn't get there to kick me out, but I know that in another scandal this will happen. And on top of that, I'm pregnant! From him, from the monster who deceived me with his gentle demeanor and honeyed words and who will drive me out of my house without blinking his eye! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm three months pregnant, it doesn't show yet.
I want to leave him, but I'm afraid he won't let me. I have a good education and I think that I will be able to find a job in another distant city. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant? What after? When my baby is born, what will I explain to him? That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child? who deceived me with a gentle demeanor and honeyed words, and who would drive me out of my house without blinking an eye! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm three months pregnant, it doesn't show yet. I want to leave him, but I'm afraid he won't let me. I have a good education and I think that I will be able to find a job in another distant city. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant? What after?
When my baby is born, what will I explain to him? That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child? who deceived me with a gentle demeanor and honeyed words, and who would drive me out of my house without blinking an eye! I don't know what to do anymore. I'm three months pregnant, it doesn't show yet. I want to leave him, but I'm afraid he won't let me. I have a good education and I think that I will be able to find a job in another distant city. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant?
What after? When my baby is born, what will I explain to him? That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child? that in some other distant city I will be able to find a job. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant? What after? When my baby is born, what will I explain to him?
That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child? that in some other distant city I will be able to find a job. But to work, to earn and at the same time to protect me from it, as I am pregnant? What after? When my baby is born, what will I explain to him? That his father and I didn't even get married, that he didn't even know he had a child?
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Honey, I want to tell you that this man doesn't deserve you. Ask him (without telling him directly) what he will do if he finds out that he is already a father ?! From his answer you will realize how to act. Think well! What he did to you is not human - they fired you because of him, you can't find a job again because of him, he transferred the apartment to his name. And even if you have a child, he will still remain the same. Don't ruin your life for him. The story of kaka is just like yours and I know that THIS one will not be. I'm just expressing an opinion. You are the one who has to make the decision! Good luck, darling!
How did you allow your home to be named after him? Why you continued to live with him after this harassment - I do not understand. Drop it, evict him first, and if you have to go to a lawyer about the apartment. Live, give birth to your child and look after it, if you go to another city alone with a child it will be very difficult for you. You have to cope while it's time and be strong. Don't let it humiliate you for another day. This is from me, I hope things get better.
It would be better to explain this to him than to watch and listen to scandals at home and live in such an environment. Run to another city there is always salvation, and parents will not turn for help?
hello but if you can really take care of a child run away and start over, you will meet a person who will love you, from what you wrote there is no point in being with him and since you no longer love him I have a 5 year old child I have been watching him alone since was born and I stop father and threatened me in all sorts of ways but I left him will bother you for a few months and will stop looking at another woman, my advice is to leave and continue all men say so be very lucky darling
run away and don't delay as soon as you can so it will be better for you and the child
From the author: I can't turn to my parents ... My mother suffers from a severe form of Alzheimer's, my father I haven't seen him for more than 10 years. I've asked him before, and soon how he would react if he found out he was a father. In the beginning he smiled at me and changed the subject, now he doesn't even make an effort to answer me. To him, I am the maid, the slave, to use for entertainment and - God forbid! - to get pregnant ... And I don't have the nerve - and the means - to argue with lawyers. To bring him to justice - he will find the perfect protection and there will be no difference. To kick him out of the house - I can't bear to live with my child in a city where he is. So I thought, by the method of exclusion ... my only option is a new city, a new life, everything again ...
darling I think it would be best to get out of this city..to go elsewhere..find a person who will really love you and will be with you and the baby ... I advise you to get out of it as soon as possible. .this can't be tolerated..but you still decide..success ...
I want to greet everyone here first. You and those who wrote. Elsewhere, spelling mistakes are brewing, but not here. I was surprised. Greetings. I am a man. On this site you can get free legal assistance: http://www.filibe.com/ukazatel/request/advokat_arh1.html You write "move to me" and "I realized that my home is in his name." Explain if it has ever been in your name under a notary deed or with other co-owners. If so, it cannot be in his name without you signing in front of a notary. I suspect he's manipulating you. Don't you mean it should be official, municipal or ... what kind of housing? Even so if you have accommodation documents, etc. you can throw it away, not him you. Specify how things stand. But why did you pretend that you do not notice infidelity? Why did you encourage him to continue? After he himself said in the scandal that there were other lovers, why did you allow yourself to get pregnant in a month? You write yourself that you no longer loved him. It has already happened, but now first say to yourself "don't panic". I don't want to discourage you, but if you don't find a job before you seem pregnant, things get even more complicated. Even during the probationary period (there may not be one, but this is 1 in ...) they can terminate the contract (employment). It is not required to state reasons or anything for the termination of a contract during the probationary period. I can advise you if you find a job somewhere, better if it does not yet seem that you are pregnant, but also if you agree to even a null one. salary without a contract in order to have witnesses, if possible not only employees of the company, even better if you have the opportunity to sign a document, be sure to copy it before you give it, but even if you can't, then they could ask the company to be a cashier or something else, which you can then present as proof that you have been at work, in court, you can directly file a complaint with the Ministry of Labor and Social Policy, respectively you already want to be insured, maternity, etc. Even agree if there is no other option for a hygienist in a restaurant, shop and if possible ask to buy cleaning products by taking the invoice and copy it. I have been in court, I am not a professional, but ... I have dealt with 3 ministries and other state instances. Always seek your rights !!! I want to help you as much as I can. If you want to contact the administrators here how we can contact. I don't mind giving you an email and keeping in touch. One more thing can be invented. I don't know how many homes are wanted for rent, but if the apartment is yours, you can look for an option to rent it out and rent it in another city for you.
I am the one who wrote the above. I saw elsewhere that Skype was left. You can call me on za_priateli If it's not a problem, write what time you log in to Skype to be detected. We will invent something.
I met emails left. Here is my [email protected] I am 10
Don't go to anyone. Yours has connections. Hire a bitch. If yours doesn't sit on your ass and you don't understand each other, he will regret why he was born. And enough with these spelling mistakes was people! This is not a high school for you! INCOMPETENT.
Number 13, how much alcohol do you have in your blood? She doesn't have a job, she will hire mutters. Will you pay them? Do you know how much they take?
I know how much they take. 20%. And they are not so scary. As soon as pupils and students fulfill orders. They first warn and give a deadline, then act. I'm a moderately intelligent person and I don't deal with mutters, but it's not bad to know someone just in case. Fear the vine guard.
"He began to behave somewhat colder and commandingly, as if I were his wife, or worse, subordinate. I put up with this because I knew he loved me, and my love for him was too strong, too." - the big mistake we allow is to give him freedom to anger and show him that he is stronger than you !!! this may be useless for the mutts..I don't think you knew the man you lived with very well and you shouldn't make such mistakes !!! Get out of town now !!! wherever you go there will always be a good person to help you settle in. don't stay close to him.
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