Hi, I'm a 15 year old girl and I know this is perfectly normal for my age, but I still want to share it. I feel very depressed, I'm on the verge of collapsing just thinking about my life. I'll start with the fact that I have the feeling that I'm not nice to anyone and that no one will mind if I just disappear. Secondly, I can't live in peace, my parents are too strict. And yes, most will say it sounds spoiled, but they really go too far. My third problem is that I'm literally like an elephant. I weigh 86 pounds, and when I think about how I should lose weight, I feel sad that some people don't have to do it at all. The other thing is that I've been liking a boy in my class for about a year, but I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me. And that feeling hurts me terribly. I feel completely useless, even if it would be better if I wasn't there. I do not know what to do to feel better, so I write here in the hope that you will give me advice. Thanks in advance!
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Hello! I am in the same situation. I'm 17 and I have the feeling that there is no point in anything ... no one reflects me. Like you, I'm plump, I don't like myself and I don't have the confidence to have a friend ... I feel more and more depressed every day. I would very much like to help you somehow! Maybe it will be good if we find entertainment and work on our inner self! Try to be distracted and like yourself the way you are. Good luck! <3
It's not "completely normal" for your age at all!
Live more actively. You are only 15 years old now, I understand your feelings, because I was your age too, but life has not grabbed you yet, it has not turned you around and it has not hit you really hard. The cliché is that everything is fine as long as your loved ones are alive and well. There is so much truth in the cliché that I even cry. Another cliché says that one must always be productive in order to feel good. There is too much truth here, too. According to a third cliché, you can't fit in with everyone - it's true. The fourth cliché I will mention is that everyone should be grateful to have a roof over their head and bread on their table. These four things that I have listed to you become clear only when you go to the other extreme. You are so young, you have so many times ahead of you. You will fall much more in love with a person who will love you too. They may break your heart, but you will learn to live with the pain and accept it. You will grow up, you will have many dreams, you will try to do a lot of things and some of them will be successful. At this stage you live to build yourself as a person. You have a lot of time, you are busy with school, a little with the family and then you have yourself. By the age of 18, you have to study, build habits, acquire the ability to think for yourself, learn small chores (for example, to clean up after yourself or to give yourself a well-deserved rest). I know that at the age of 15 this seems like a big and impossible thing to you, but you will touch the fruits of your patience and learning in a few years. So do not give up and do not feel sorry for yourself. Catch the rhythm of the wave, fill your time with good things,
For a start, you can visit a nutritionist and try to lose 40 kilograms, which will not happen in a day or two, but you still have to start somewhere. Why did you allow yourself to become what you don't like? You say you're pretty sure the boy doesn't like you. Not almost, but you have to be completely sure. Reduce your eating and start moving more. Don't spend all day with your nose stuck in your smartphone and monitor. You are now 15 years old and you weigh 100 kilos. And in 20 years, how long will you be? 200? Take urgent action, starting today!
For weight loss I can recommend a ketogenic diet of periodic fasting. Research these methods, they are super effective and if you want to enroll in a gym with a friend or coach to help you.
Author, why do you waste your time liking a boy who doesn't like you ??? I can't find the logic in women - they usually fall for losers who, on top of that, use them overnight. Believe me - I know it's the same with you, because you are no greater exception than 100% of women!
I was in a similar situation. I was 15 and I was huge ... In a year of healthy training and diet I lost a lot, but I am facing a nervous breakdown ... I also have problems at home and at school. I don't have any friends either (only one I don't see often). I don't even think about a boyfriend. My idea is that you need to change your thinking. Some people may like you because of your character, not because of your appearance. Try the boy. Maybe you get lucky :)