Hello! Here is my story, which does not give me peace. After 24 years of marriage, during which we lacked absolutely nothing - no sex, no money. A marriage in which we did not quarrel over anything, we did not even raise our voices - an absolute idyll. Marriage, during which we raised our daughter - sons aged 22 and 23 without any problems for nothing. A marriage even envied by acquaintances and neighbors. One day my wife told me that she was leaving us because she fell in love with a man who was 9 years younger than her and everything at home was suffocating her. Yes, he just left. As always, the last man learns, but we had absolute trust, I'm sure she hasn't cheated on me so far - me too. Therefore, all this came to me like thunder from a clear sky, and since then I have no peace, I can not answer the question of what is happening, I am aware that all ages are subject to love. But a 46-year-old woman to behave like my sons' girlfriends I can not understand it. Just like a 16 year old teenager. They asked me "What's going on" - she answers me .. "and I don't know, it happened, I never believed that something like this could happen to me". She does not want to divorce me, she does not want relatives and friends to know that she has left home. And this has been going on for three months now. The problem is that I still love her and I still miss her terribly. So, I don't have any useful moves either, I don't know what to do, I've left time to decide, and it shouldn't be like that, at least I think so. she does not want relatives and friends to know that she has left home. And this has been going on for three months now. The problem is that I still love her and I still miss her terribly. So, I don't have any useful moves either, I don't know what to do, I've left time to decide, and it shouldn't be like that, at least I think so. she does not want relatives and friends to know that she has left home. And this has been going on for three months now. The problem is that I still love her and I still miss her terribly. So, I don't have any useful moves either, I don't know what to do, I've left time to decide, and it shouldn't be like that, at least I think so.
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Women are lucky, they are born twice - the second time is after the 40th anniversary. They usually think like this: "Just how old are you, the children are already big, everyone is on their way, it's time to take care of myself." Break up with her, reuniting will not lead to anything good, it will never be the same. A crack after it appears does not disappear, it only enlarges.
I am a woman and I am writing to you from the position of a woman. In your place, I would not worry. This is a momentary hobby. It may be very difficult for you to accept it, but let her experience it. Believe me, she will not stay with this man, she will return, because with him she may receive something that you do not give her, but this home comfort that you have created, she will not have it anywhere. Very soon this man will be fed up with her and will start looking for ways to get out, then she will want to be at home again, with you, with the family, then she will be very hurt, and if you now have the strength to accept him. , then just hug her because she will need you !!! I know it's not easy at all, but don't turn your back on her if you want to have her by your side.
Wait for her, she will go home alone, just the critical age is no longer a priority only for men. Besides, she wants to try something new, life is running out and this is clearly suffocating her. It will come back, don't take it in, just wait a little longer and don't bother!
A difficult dilemma ... I am not married and I cannot give advice, I will only tell you the following ... For years I have felt guilty that my mother and father are unhappy and have passed this on to us. Children are the first to feel this. When love is gone, things turn gray and make no sense. You got married quite early, so it can be said your mature choice you may be making now. No one has the right to condemn love - it is a gift from God. You make the choice, but I think you have to take the step. Because that's how you do your husband a disservice - he drinks coffee, grumbles, for me this is an unhappy person who also lives like this - day after day. Either you have to make an effort to stay together, but the two of you, not one or ...
I think she will live with him for a while and come back to you. But trust will no longer exist, and will you accept it again.
Often women do not know what they want! I think in a very short time she will realize that she was wrong!
Hi, I'm a woman and I would like to ask you one thing. When was the last time you gave your wife flowers for no reason just because you love her? Maybe your wife lacked just that: your love for her as a woman, not as the mother of your sons, as a housewife and maid. Give yourself an honest answer to these questions and if you want her to come back to you make her feel like a WOMAN.
If she doesn't want anyone to know she's with the other, she's not sure about him and has left room for retreat. He knows that he is tied up in a towel and if something does not happen to the other, he will return to you and no one will know about her outing. In your place I will change the lock, I will tell everyone what the ... I will file for divorce. The world is full of women. If it isn't, it will be different.