Hello. My story may seem abnormal or dumb to you, but it is a fact and it is something I find difficult. I have been in a relationship with a great woman for several months. However, by coincidence, we often have to be quite far from each other. The problem is that when she goes out with friends she is usually at a restaurant and a disco and then I get really tense and worried about her. This is a very serious concern, it even happened to me that I could not sleep. Last time you were at the banquet? for Christmas ten days ago. I was spinning in bed all night. It's awful. What's worse is that she feels me too and understands that I'm kind of uncomfortable. I don't want to limit it, we are still young people, but I also don't want to bother myself ...
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Well, I understand you ... It sucks. It's pure jealousy, but both you and I hide it behind other names. Think about where this distrust of your girlfriend comes from and if you think she would understand you, talk to her. Tell her how you feel, it may be vulgar, but if you don't want to be bullied, you better tell her directly that you don't like going out to discos alone. She may feel uncomfortable at first, but I think if she sticks to you next time she will save you harassment;)
Well, you can't help but worry if you love her, but you don't have to stop her.
And I think it's jealousy. But this feeling is due to your own insecurity in some things, think about it, not what your girlfriend does when she goes out without you. The problem is with you, not her - unless you have clear evidence to the contrary, not your various assumptions. After all, every relationship must be based on trust, you can't constantly drag yourself everywhere with it, because everyone needs personal space.
Let your partner go out without you, so that you are not in a Turkish TV series, so that he can't have fun without you. And why don't you go out with your friends, you will be calmer. And if you love each other enough, there's nothing to bother about that way. Jealousy ruins many relationships, so it is unnecessary! :) Doriana
There will always be anxiety and worry ... So am I. Even at times I feel how annoying I get, because I've ruined his evening more than once and I'm not proud of it at all. I advise you to dull this feeling in some way, it already works for me, because you will not like it if she does the same as you ... Good luck !!! :))) The lucky one, 19
And I think it's jealousy and distrust of her. What caused your distrust of her? How do you treat others? If there's nothing suspicious about her demeanor, don't waste so much on nothing.
Don't worry so much! Let her go out, even without you, because that's how you deprive her of her freedom. I don't know, you must be insecure about it and jealous! If she doesn't give you reasons, everything is fine - she still goes out with friends. It is very clear that you will feel that you are insecure in it and this can bring you problems! * Natalia
Let her go out without you and don't even hint to her that she shouldn't go out. I have a similar problem with my husband, and frankly I just go crazy just by hinting that he doesn't want me to go out and that he wants to come with me - and I rarely go out without him. This behavior suffocates and irritates when it is constant and can damage your relationship.
You better not interfere with it and overcome it yourself. Judging by my relationship, it is purely abnormal and unfounded jealousy. It's your fault, so suffer alone and let her have fun. Being with you does not mean that she is tied to you. Meg *
Why jealousy or mistrust? He loves her for it, he wants to be with her and he worries about her. What's wrong with her, let her go out with friends and go with them sometimes .. go to a disco together .... if she loves you she won't mind. Of course, sometimes you only have to go out with them .. but don't forbid anything .. talk and understand each other
Believe me, this is a complete waste of nerves and time. For about 10 years I arranged all sorts of scandals for my husband, but I could not stop him. The moment I started praying for him to the Lord, things started to smooth out. There is such a prayer for family happiness. Every night when he went out I read it, and he miraculously returned in 10 minutes. Well, sometimes I cried in front of the icon and strained all my faith, but I have to tell you that God helps. Here is the prayer. It is Orthodox. I recommend it to anyone who worries about their family happiness.
no matter what you do, sooner or later, someone will stretch your wife. whether you spin like a fan in bed or not. so he had better reconcile and sleep peacefully
Number 12, although his unforgiving comment is extremely correct. Go out on your own, don't worry ... what the hell is going to happen. If you're good for her, you'll be good for a lot of other women.
If you love something, set it free. If he doesn't come back, then it was never for you.
I liked the comments of 12 and 13 .. especially at 12 he is both clairvoyant which in this story is not difficult, but he has a sense of humor ... ZARA 36
Thanks to number 12, he's very right. All women say that they go out with female friends, go to a disco because they like to dance and do not pay attention to men at all - full of nonsense. You go to a disco to flirt. Music, alcohol, everything predisposes to this. And I was like you, I believed my wife, that she was just going to have fun, but what turned out to be !!! I just can't believe how naive I was, downright stupid.
I completely understand you ... at the moment I am like that ... My friend is outside, and I am hanging and waiting for him, because my eyes do not close and I know ... anything can happen. The stupid thing is that I don't stop him ... even he asked me for permission before he came out, but somehow I'm annoyed by the fact that he doesn't comply with the trust I give him by agreeing ... So at least I think they can to comply a little with the time in which they return .. so a little will at least make it easier for us and reduce our anxiety ... And realistically, if they are in our place, I do not believe they will be more pleasant .. obviously I am something wrong because I don't understand it
I have similar problems to yours, but the exception is that I am with my girlfriend every day, I am addicted to her and we have seen each other for 5 months ... without 1-2 days in the beginning maybe. I went to a disco 2 times without her (once on the 24th day of her relationship I kissed another girl and danced, but did nothing more), now I would not do it, at this stage I love her, she says the same, I also trust him, but let him doubt whether he will not replace me with someone, whether he will not cheat on me and from time to time without wanting it, it just enters my mind ... she went without me twice too, but it is hellishly unpleasant for me to go anywhere without me, as if I want her to be tied only to me. This is very wrong, because it is clear that if a woman wants to cheat on you, she can always do it, as I can ... for that, we need to have more trust, otherwise it doesn't make sense for us to be together, I think so, but I'm a little impulsive, irritable and for a second I change my mind and go into some movies. I can never have a girlfriend from another city, because we will always be in scandals, I will start arguing with her that she is lying to me and then she will either lie to me or I will think that she is lying to me and I will leave. to get back too ... my thinking is bad
And I can't accept that. It is normal to go out separately. But I'm very worried and I can't even sleep. I know it's not right.