Some time ago I fell in love super suddenly and strongly with a man. I have never felt such strong love for anyone else. Somehow the "like" phase instantly turned into "I love him", and that literally meant and still means that no matter what he does, no matter how he does it, I accept and adore him because I love everything in him, even what I hate becomes adoration. He enchanted me. The problem is, I can't bear to be near him. His presence makes me feel overly tense and nervous, makes me sick and nauseous when I see him, even from afar. I couldn't bear to be close to him and his powerful presence projecting on me, so I decided never to see him again and not to spot him. I do not have the courage to stare into his eyes out of love. I burn with love, but I burn even more as it is around me. Have you ever had such a strong love for someone that you can't bear to be close to him / her and prefer to run away from him / her? Was your love shared? Are you together?
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Such schizophrenia has never happened to me :)
Yes, such love is so painful that it has nowhere to go
And when you had sex, did you kick him, did you push him, did you tell him to stop, that you were sick? There is something wrong with you.
And I had such a period with my husband. I love him very much and I never wanted or thought to leave him. But as you regret too much love, I wanted to have a little freedom, not to be constantly around him. I'm so used to him that even his bad traits seem good to me. In my opinion, the solution is not to part forever, but just to take a break from each other. Do different things separately, talk to your friends separately and you will see how in a short time you will feel the lack of the other and you will still want to be together, of course not constantly, because you will get bored. Just when you have an occasion, be the two of you, when you feel like it, share it with each other, and when you see that it starts to get annoying, just say it separately. I think this would be a good approach ... try it! :)
This is not love, but falling in love at first sight, I have experienced it. Such strong attraction occurs when you are really extremely compatible to create a healthy generation (read the chemistry of love), which means 100% that it is mutual, so act to get together, do not avoid it. Something like that happened to her once in her life, it didn't. This is love that lasts 3 years. Keep in mind that as the action of the raging hormones passes, so will the adoration and you will see the real person. You may or may not be compatible. We weren't with me, we wanted different things from life and we broke up. But it keeps us strong for 3 years. I remember that when I looked at him, he looked perfect, I wanted to marry him in an instant. Three years later, I noticed a crooked nose and a gap between my front teeth. I'm not telling you this because it's decisive, and to understand how blind falling in love at first sight is, even physically. I was amazed. Keep that in mind and if things work out for you, don't rush to get married, because in three years you may turn out to be strangers :). You are not crazy, as they wrote you, because those who have not experienced love at first sight do not know. I also didn't know what it was, but a colleague explained it to me.
'His presence makes me feel overly tense and nervous, makes me sick and nauseous when I see him, even from afar. '- I understand what you're talking about, because I've experienced something similar, but as a child at 13-14 years old when I was. It is a very stressful and frightening feeling. Well, at least I didn't go down without explaining myself first. So this is not love, but a very strong attraction and admiration, most of all, most likely at the same time you feel too inferior in his presence and in relation to him in general, because in your head you have raised him on a very high pedestal. And you value yourself much lower. And that's where the problem actually comes from. Indeed, you rightly feel that it is better to avoid it, because its presence is toxic to you, it affects your psyche badly, and it will interfere with even daily activities, work, study, etc. And at number 1 I will tell, that it is not a mockery, because he who has not experienced it cannot understand how nasty it really is. And if the author is not 13-14 as old as I was, but 20 and older, it is probably much more frightening ... after all, a person of more years expects to be more aware, with a more formed emotionality and so-called
Number 5: Yes, I fell in love with him at first sight, BUT NOT in his appearance, but in his eyes and his inner nature. Love, but on a deep level ... They say that the eyes are a window to a person's soul ... it's true. I love his whole being and I don't care what it looks like because I fell in love with it, not the 'packaging', which wears.
I am 40 and have been experiencing exactly the same thing for two and a half years. I feel it is shared, but we are both married and we try not to get close to each other. I really hope it lasts really three years and then passes, because I broke my sleep and psyche.
It's totally naughty to fall in love, there is chemistry, but this is yours, it's a kind of schizophrenia.
P. it is very strange that your behavior Freud was alive to wonder
I think the author is a man and talks about his feelings for a woman. It was deliberately made to deceive. I would recommend him: 1 / To take things more lightly and be calmer in general. 2 / to try not to blame the object of his excitement and to behave normally, kindly with him. The great tension in this case comes from the strong fear of the author's shaking emotion. If he overcomes his fear and selfishness, does not react viciously, I think he will be able to deal adequately and intelligently with,, the problem,, his.
It has happened to me too ... Literally, even when I was thinking about a possible conversation (in the event of a completely accidental meeting) and my pulse was accelerating, my legs softened and I started to feel sick ... But I think that when I really see him, I manage to control these feelings ... and after a short "hello" or a 5-minute conversation on the street, then I feel hyperactive, crazy ... It's very strange, but I would still like to see him
The same thing happened to me, unfortunately not shared. It was more than 4 years ago. I have known the lady for many years and have had nothing more than sympathy for her. It happened suddenly - in a second. I sank so deep that I fell into something like insanity. I dreamed of her every night for almost a year, and I didn't stop to think about her for a minute. The problem was that we had to see each other sometimes and I was so inadequate around her that I must have looked like a round idiot. I never imagined that something like this could happen to me, I am a serious family man over the age of 35. They say it lasts 3 years, but to this day when I see her from afar my heart rate jumps to 200 and everything turns upside down, my legs are numb, terrible things are happening to me with my body and soul - I could not fight this feeling. Although we don't see each other anymore, due to circumstances beyond my control I measure it from afar sometimes and the effect is the same. To clarify - I am a normal man and I have never had a problem with women, on the contrary - I am lucky in this regard.
It happened to me years ago. When I saw him, I literally ran to the other sidewalk. And when I couldn't escape and pass by me, I was all numb and numb. Very crazy falling in love and emotional. Remember and enjoy these emotions now. One day they will be just a memory. And when you pass by, nothing will happen to you. It will be like all other people.
This is my fifth year. My legs are shaking when I see him, today I could barely control my car after he passed me. I'm totally bad, but I don't know which is worse to see or not to see. I think he avoids me too, but I don't know why he is. I can't get it out of my head, out of my sleep, out of my thoughts ... I feel his presence in a room without seeing him or assuming he's there. It is not true how I want to experience this emotion to the fullest, but it is not written ... I have never in my life felt something like this towards someone, I will hardly experience it again ... I am 35 years old
from the Author to number 16: do you feel tension between you? Do you think he feels something for you?
You're just worried, that's why it happens. It happened to me too .. but when he came a few times and we talked, I was over :) I had no other choice, I was at a food stand, and he was my client and .. I'm used to telling you. I like it again, but I don't tremble so much.
Love must be easy. This is a rule tested by the fates of me and at least five other girlfriends. If it's not easy for you, then it's not love. It could be an obsession, it could be a Stockholm syndrome, it could be anything. "Easy" is the key word. When a person feels overwhelmed, without guilt, guilty or anxious for no reason, in 99% of cases he is simply a victim of manipulation. The manipulator is not necessarily aware of what he is doing, very often he acts with the best intentions, but more sensitive individuals react just like the author. Unfortunately, no advice can be given here, because we do not know the person who causes such emotions in her. If there is one thing I can do to help, it is with the recommendation to distinguish between "love" (that is, freedom, joy, pleasure, tone) and destructive addictions, which are always associated with tension, physical discomfort, anxiety, weakness, etc. In my opinion, author, you are not in love. You are addicted. There are such emotional dependencies. To you, your man is like a bottle for an alcoholic: he knows he's killing him, he knows he'll be sick after drinking it, he knows he's going to ruin his life, but he can't do without it because of the short-term pleasure he'll have. . I think that the first step you can take to help yourself is to become aware of the addiction. Love is something else entirely. It is a holiday, not a torture. because of the short-lived pleasure he will experience. I think that the first step you can take to help yourself is to become aware of the addiction. Love is something else entirely. It is a holiday, not a torture. because of the short-lived pleasure he will experience. I think that the first step you can take to help yourself is to become aware of the addiction. Love is something else entirely. It is a holiday, not a torture.
It sounds to me like falling in love with a very strong energy vampire and obsessing over and making the victim sick - that's exactly how people who believe in these things describe it. Aren't they right? !?