I have something like a problem. My mother doesn't allow me to get a haircut (armpits and legs) or wear a bra (so far she only gives me bustiers), and I'm 13 (I think of course I'm a girl). Except it's from fifth grade, and now I'm almost eighth, so I'm eighth in September. I'm also afraid to tell her that it might come to me because I've had a white flow for a year and a few months. Last week I dared to ask her if I could at least get my armpits out of my hair, and she told me that when she turned 18. I thought of buying two bras myself and hiding them, but then I thought I would scold myself anyway. It also doesn't allow me to go to a manicurist at least once again because I was little. But it turns out that I can cook, watch my little brothers for a few hours, but I can't do normal things for my age. My classmates made fun of me in fifth grade and have not seen me in short sleeves, skirts, tank tops or shorts since. I am told to come at least to school with foundation, because I have a lot of pimples, but I am still small, and my cousin, when she is 6, can put on make-up, but I can't! Please help me because I can't do this anymore!
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There is nothing to ask her mother. Remove the hair only on the armpits and on the legs as well. Explain to her that your children are making fun of you and you don't want to have a childhood mental trauma. That's what you quote her. In other places you are still young to remove your hair. Manicure is for the big ones, you are still young. Bra, if you have something to wear in it.
I understand how you feel! But for make-up: it is not good to put on, it is harmful for the skin, and the natural beauty is 100 times better! It is quite normal to want a bra, and I am, but I am patient because I am comfortable with the bustier. I'm telling you about the manicurist that you don't need it! For hair removal, I agree that you want to do it ... I've had it for 2 years, and it hasn't come to me yet. For the first time today I put on a daily bandage, my mother only now bought it for me. I wish you success! One girl
At the time when I decided to get a haircut, I did not seek permission at all. I just did it. It is not a crime. Although my mother was quite conservative, too. But I just don't remember asking her. For makeup too. But I did not overdo it. I only put a black pencil and mascara. In time, you will realize that your mother is not as scary as you think she is at the moment. When you turn 20-30, you will be equal :) So instead of timidly asking for permission, talk to her, as an adult, with an adult and tell her that you don't want anything who knows what. Just don't sweat with your long legs in the summer and hide your pimples a bit. As a woman, she needs to understand you.
From the author: I already have some kind of tram from kindergarten and now I do not eat any meat. In fact, I was secretly shaving for a month with a razor, but then my brother saw that I had hairless armpits and told my mother and she scolded me and no longer laughs (last week I dared again, but without success. I remember that when I was five, my mother enjoyed everything, put shadows on my eyelids, varnished me, but now I'm not "very young"! I want to develop and tell her that it's not fair because I don't want to live in complexes!
Dear girl, I can only say that I sympathize with you. I understand your mother to some extent, but alas, some parents do not understand when their precautions turn into shackles. If I were you - I would resist and act as I see fit, but I dare not give it as advice. because the consequences of the escalation of the conflict will be for you, not for me. However, I believe that if you want to win at least some freedom, you must be prepared for a few scandals at home. Not to mention that what underwear you wear and how much hair you have or don't have on your body is a matter of such a personal nature that no one, including your mother, has the right to confuse you except with advice. What's more, you're 13 now and you have. difficulties ... but if she really wants you to go like that until her 18th birthday, it will become unbearable. So, after all, I think it's better to resist now. Will you talk to her or just do what you think you should (hair removal, bra, etc.). I don't believe it will be possible without a few quarrels, but she will still realize that you are no longer a small child, no matter how much she wants the opposite. I sincerely wish you success!
I would say that it is quite crazy to apply make-up to a 5-year-old child and to varnish his nails, this is not child's play at all and these chemicals are not intended for children's skin and children's nails at all, no matter how harmless they may seem at first glance. . It is super irresponsible on the part of your mother to allow herself to entrust these small children to you, provided that you yourself are a minor, ie you yourself should be supervised by someone. It would be good to take a housekeeper if she was not so able to judge that she would not be able to look after you before creating you. Well, only from these 2 facts we can conclude that it would be right for your mother to be sanctioned by the law enforcement agencies, but in Bulgaria we are far behind in this respect, unfortunately for the Bulgarian children ... Keep hairless secretly. The next time you get caught, your brother just threatens him that you will betray him for something, his behavior is hardly neat and perfect. Keep an eye on what he does to them and don't feel sorry for him after he doesn't feel sorry for you.
the story is written by a boy posing as a girl
From the author: To number 10: I'm a girl and I don't know why it occurred to you that I'm a boy. To number 9: My mother trusts me to trust my 11-year-old brother. But he doesn't have a tablet or a smartphone, so he always takes mine from my hands and I'm guilty of giving it to him. PP I just wanted some advice or something like how to ask my mother, because I don't like to have even people close to me laugh about it!
Hey, number 10, you have no evidence or anything. The girl (the creator of this story) is just asking for advice on how to talk to her mother, and you and number 9 have opened some huge mouths that you will even eat her! My advice (I've tried it) is to send a message to your mother if you think it would be better. I hope I helped you, author! PP Remember the rules: 1. Be helpful to others with your comment! 2. Hatters are not tolerated! 3. Offensive qualifications are not an argument :-) 4. Keep the wisdom to yourself, others need sympathy!
I'm number 10 - I don't know how it occurred to me, but when I saw the brackets and thought you were a boy. Sorry for the mistake
The apology is accepted :)
For a manicure you are still small, but for hair removal not. Talk to your mother is not good to control you like that. And don't listen to your classmates, in time your face will clear, but if you are ashamed, use a cream, not a foundation.