I met a boy about 2 months ago. I'm 16, he's 24. We started going out completely friendly until, of course, the feelings came. He is from another city, but it is close and he has no problem coming. We started seeing each other more often and we really liked each other. He told me he didn't want to hurry just because he didn't want to get in a fast relationship. I told him no problem, we will not hurry. Until I found out from a girl's mother that she had seen him for 3 months before, but she had no serious intentions towards him and dizzied him as she knew how, of course without him knowing. I asked him if he wanted us to hurry because of her, because at least I think he still has feelings for her. He denied telling me he had no feelings for her. She said that she also failed 2 connections and he returned to her, but it all ended in a few days (I don't understand why he told me that at all). After his words, I really thought about giving up on him, but I didn't want to, because I asked about him and no one said anything bad. We talked about her for 3, 4 days and I learned many more things she did. That they kept in touch, they wrote to each other, made her friends tell him how much she wanted him and in fact she was not with him, she had sent him an SMS about how much she wanted to be with him and how much she loved him, of course he was tied up again, but everything lasted 5 days and until then. She convinced me that there was nothing left for her and that I had to stop thinking about things, because if I constantly doubted him, nothing would happen. I really believed him, I stopped.
Now we keep seeing each other and I really see that he likes me and shows it. I'm worried that he's started talking a lot about sex and how he wants to sleep with me and whatnot, but he hasn't told me to sleep and other things, I'm just worried that that's all we talk about most of the time. Today I asked him now what we do if we go or just see each other. And he tells me ... well, I didn't tell you that I don't want to hurry, I like you very much, but let's not hurry, because I don't want my relationship to end again in 2, 3 months and I don't want to hurt you. Now, after these words, I have been thinking for 2 hours and I can't understand exactly what he wants from me. I see that he is not indifferent, but in his words I understand that he does not want to hurry, because when this girl returns again (she is studying in another city) he can go after her again and not want to be with me and not be hurt so much. Or he really doesn't want to hurry, which I don't understand and I don't think that's really the problem. A lot of things went through my head and so I didn't decide what to do. Should I continue to meet him and forget what he told me. Whether to wait for this girl to come back and see what happens, or just try to reduce my feelings for him and keep colder. If anyone has any other advice please let me know. I will be very grateful to anyone who shared their opinion on my problem. If anyone has any other advice please let me know. I will be very grateful to anyone who shared their opinion on my problem. If anyone has any other advice please let me know. I will be very grateful to anyone who shared their opinion on my problem.
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For me, wait for the girl to come back and see what happens :)
I think he just wants to have some fun with you ... and the fact that he mentions the word "sex" is clear where things are going. The other thing is that he'll reunite with her (since he's talked to you so much about her) and you'll just be out. Not that anything, but I can quickly judge how things will develop;)
So I will share my story, but the difference is that he is not chasing his ex, nor are they chasing him, and I am 22. I think my story will be useful to you. 4 years ago I was with a virgin, as I was and ... he literally dumped me. Like the next one, she was skinny. 2 months ago I met one ... I was taken down, invited and tried a lot, but nothing attracted me. And we started chatting with him. We found a lot of common ground, with the difference I had 1 sexually, and he 17. Scary, ah. My hair stood on end. We have been walking for 1 month and something. He has always told me the truth and is always careful. 3 weeks ago I went to a gynecologist, he was close to me, he did not leave me, but my ex was shaking my mind. He does not look for them, nor do they look for him. But doubts are doubts. And then he told me - I never lied to you about anything. And motherfucker, I need you, but I don't want to hurry ... That's why I'm careful and I answer every question, but if you constantly doubt, forget to have a full relationship. And I have no doubt. He is terribly perverted. He can talk to me for hours about sex as a science and minutes about its application. I did not have sexual intercourse with him, but we had our intimacies. Whenever I needed help, he was and would be by my side. My advice is, give the boy a chance. It may be that he is just a scared man in need of his beloved. when I needed help, he is and will be by my side. My advice is, give the boy a chance. It may turn out to be just a scared man in need of his beloved. when I needed help, he is and will be by my side. My advice is, give the boy a chance. It may turn out to be just a scared man in need of his beloved.
This is complete nonsense. Listen to me, girl, this dude just wants to get in your panties. How come he doesn't want to hurry, but talks about sex? He doesn't want to hurry because he doesn't want anything deep and lasting with you. There is no way this will work well for you, understand it now. It is clear to me that it is very fashionable now for schoolgirls to fall in love with 25-6 year old Batkovs, but it ends the same way every time. Especially considering the history of his relationships ... run away from him. It sucks to hear it, I know, but you're small and it's very easy to turn the head of a smaller girl, I know from experience. In a year or two, it will come to your mind. If you start with this one, listen to me, it will throw you away and you will feel used and you will be much sicker than if you give it up now. USA
See what not to do to the great understanders, everyone with your character, I've been with those who were nice and good guys, but when you're ready, but finally fuck fuck and come with another but I have acquaintances who are very good with some girls do not want to hurry to press them and they finally go fuck each other and the boys suffer then one of my friends mo took a long time to believe but the fact with the other girl are now happy and have a child so you big fuckers don't call everyone is different some want time to get to know you not to suffer as before and others because they want to fuck you people are different I have a friend who still does not have serious relationships because of those who played him I saw how he roars how he drinks because of her yes she will always be in the mind will love her but that doesn't mean she won't be with another girlwho will love will be with her will have a family everyone thinks chi just like that it will be yes but not without knowing there is no way to comment on what he wants from her everyone is different do not scare the girl see get to know do not rush everyone of his age will talk about it is normal but if he does not insist there may be good intentions wait don't get attached and don't listen to what they tell you try to understand for yourself what it is