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I Can't Find A Way Out.

By MaiyaXXX November 09, 2020 14 answers Last updated November 09, 2020

I am a girl from Ruse. The problem is that I was a boyfriend with a boy and I sent him my nude photo, and he sent me his. But he sent it and now the whole school and my city have it and everyone is discussing and making fun of me. I know you will blame me, but the thing has already happened, I want to go back in time, but I just can't. I sent the photo to someone I trusted and didn't expect to be able to do. I'm depressed, I've stopped eating and I think I'm starting anorexia - I've lost a lot of weight, my teeth are falling out on their own, my hair is falling out, but that's another problem. Every day I think about what happened, I am dying of shame and I am even considering suicide because I do not tolerate all this humiliation and mental harassment. Basically, I have high self-esteem and I walk in front of people with my head held high and I don't show them that I'm weak, because they will start harassing me even more, but inside I feel terrible. But what is right in such an exposure - to walk with my head held high and not pay attention as if nothing had happened, or to constantly look at the floor and show my shame. Because if I walk confidently as always, it seems like I'm not ashamed or proud of my action, and that's not the case, I feel terrible and I'm really sorry about all this, but I can't go back in time and change things.

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repelaineluria answered · November 09, 2020

   The situation is really bad, but you don't have to lower your head just because something like that happened. Everyone is wrong, and you have already learned your lesson. There is no point in feeling sorry for something in the past. The boy is guilty of abusing your trust. I've made mistakes too, but there's no point in bothering about it all our lives. Everything will pass, so don't worry. PS And I am from Ruse. I would like to help you.

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BootyCutie69 answered · November 09, 2020

   Hello! You're right, we can't go back in time. But as people say - every miracle in 3 days. People will sooner or later forget about this thing and focus on something new. Don't hurt yourself any more, don't kill yourself. Try to forget this incident no matter how difficult it is. Believe me, everything will be fine in time. Just be strong. :)

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jssipeach answered · November 09, 2020

   Talk to yours and explain to them, they will advise you the best. It's not an exposure, it's just that your ex-boyfriend acted lightly. He is to blame for the whole situation and there is no doubt about that. What will people think? Good question. But you have to know that people can never, absolutely never evaluate objectively. As a feeling, you will definitely not like not having a good opinion of you, but this will not make their opinions more objective. Let me tell you something. That was a long time ago. There was an old man whom everyone loved and who was an absolute saint. His only transgression, throughout his monastic life, was that he liked to eat cherry jam with his tea, which other monks did not look upon favorably, but considered to be gluttonous. Since in those days it was believed that the bodies of the holy fathers, after their death, they had to smell fragrant, then after the old man's body was placed in the small room (in which he lived during his lifetime), with the windows closed, people began to smell unpleasant. From there a rumor spread throughout the city, a rumor that said, "Well, he may not be such a saint," and from there it is known that everyone loves the fall of the righteous. The righteous in quotes, just people always like to humiliate those who do not like - that does not mean that they judge correctly. Here is an example with the models - if they don't know 5 capitals, they call them stupid and the comments are lined up with different types of insults. Of course, one hand that no one will give them a method of how to learn, second hand that, for example, if they learn 5 words in a foreign language - no one will praise them. It will be the same with you. I told you because, maybe, if you understand people better, you will know why they act in certain ways. The common philosophy is that in order to be a happy person, he must be liked. Everyone says they don't care about people's opinions, but they don't - it's a whole driving force (unless you live in isolation, you can't help but care). In order to be liked, people do a lot of nonsense, most of them unconscious. They go to the gym (to make a body that others approve of), they want wealth (to see others that they have achieved something, and to approve them), they go to the solarium, they buy a newer phone so they don't look backward, they want to move with cool people ... Don't fall into this trap, even if you want to kill yourself because of a fool's mistake. The problem is that he didn't even realize it. In the future, he may or may not realize what he has done. People cannot see the effects of their actions. If you take 100 people, each one will be on a different level - as thinking, as a character, as a ball of emotions. Each of these 100 manifests a certain quality, such as love, malice, envy, hatred to a certain extent. If you mark the lowest intensity of quality with "1" and the highest with "100", then in one the malice will be 27, in another it may be 50, in the third 95. You cannot expect understanding from people, you can understand them - what drives them, what makes them think in one way and that, you can accept them as they are, or you may not accept them, but that's how things work. That is why I tell you that their assessments will not be objective, no matter what they judge in their heads. You're really considering suicide for that very reason, and if their (people's people's) disapproval is high now, even if it wasn't a blunder with that picture, even though you wouldn't want to kill yourself then, and even if you were "perfect" everywhere, it would still have people who do not approve of you (this is the reason for the famous to suffer). In the end, though, you didn't kill a person, and even if you did, their opinions would still be subjective — they wouldn't see the reasons you wanted to kill. Here's this galfon left you, some girls start breaking hearts to get revenge. Causation is so deep, but people are so blind. And you want to kill yourself for nonsense ... after all, you're not a tree - you can move to another city, another country. even if it hadn't become a blunder with this photo, even though you wouldn't want to commit suicide then, and even if it was "perfect" everywhere, there would still be people who don't approve of you (that's why celebrities suffer) ). In the end, though, you didn't kill a person, and even if you did, their opinions would still be subjective — they wouldn't see the reasons you wanted to kill. Here's this galfon left you, some girls start breaking hearts to get revenge. Causation is so deep, but people are so blind. And you want to kill yourself for nonsense ... after all, you're not a tree - you can move to another city, another country. even if it hadn't become a blunder with this photo, even though you wouldn't have wanted to kill yourself then, and even if it was "perfect" everywhere, there would still be people who don't approve of you (that's why celebrities suffer) ). In the end, though, you didn't kill a person, and even if you did, their opinions would still be subjective — they wouldn't see the reasons you wanted to kill. Here's this galfon left you, some girls start breaking hearts to get revenge. Causation is so deep, but people are so blind. And you want to kill yourself for nonsense ... after all, you're not a tree - you can move to another city, another country. it would still have people who disapprove of you (that's why celebrities suffer). In the end, though, you didn't kill a person, and even if you did, their opinions would still be subjective — they wouldn't see the reasons you wanted to kill. Here's this galfon left you, some girls start breaking hearts to get revenge. Causation is so deep, but people are so blind. And you want to kill yourself for nonsense ... after all, you're not a tree - you can move to another city, another country. it would still have people who disapprove of you (this is why celebrities suffer). In the end, though, you didn't kill a person, and even if you did, their opinions would still be subjective — they wouldn't see the reasons you wanted to kill. Here's this galfon left you, some girls start breaking hearts to get revenge. Causation is so deep, but people are so blind. And you want to kill yourself for nonsense ... after all, you're not a tree - you can move to another city, another country. some girls start breaking hearts to get revenge. Causation is so deep, but people are so blind. And you want to kill yourself for nonsense ... after all, you're not a tree - you can move to another city, another country. some girls start breaking hearts to get revenge. Causation is so deep, but people are so blind. And you want to kill yourself for nonsense ... after all, you're not a tree - you can move to another city, another country.

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blackthought answered · November 09, 2020

   What happened is terrible, but don't write about suicide because I don't support people who think suicide is the solution to problems. Think that you have relatives who raised you, gave you home and love, don't you think how they will feel. As for the situation, my advice is no longer send nude photos to anyone because you can no longer. believes. almost no one 100%, except your closest family members. In time, this case will be forgotten, but this boy will unfortunately return to him all bad one day, because nothing remains unpaid in this world. I still don't understand what people gain by doing dirty things to others instead of looking at their lives first.

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thearandolph answered · November 09, 2020

   Hi, I'm sorry about how you feel. It's really unpleasant, but like any miracle in three days it will pass. Do not get depressed but accept the situation with a sense of humor.

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October_XO answered · November 09, 2020

   Error. Unfortunately, she learned her lesson too hard and too early. If you want advice - share it with your parents and condemn the unfortunate. But here again you have to bear the consequences - the shame of the natives. Now listen carefully. Every miracle in 3 days! In months to come, something else will happen - everyone will talk about it. They won't even think about you. For a fucking nude photo, it doesn't make a world drama. What happened - happened. Sign up for sports / dancing and vent your anger there. Study and tighten up. Set goals and chase them. One is making fun of you because she is in love with him. The second is thick and cannot be photographed naked. The third one wants to sleep with you, but you don't let him. Fuck them! Remember the lessons - such trust in no one. The next time they make fun of someone, reach out. Now go and eat. If you can - share with parents. If not with the school psychologist. The world is in front of you and everything bad will disappear.

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majmaj06 answered · November 09, 2020

   Why don't you send a nude photo of him? Well this is not a solution to the problem and I'm not telling you to do it or not to do it. I don't know what advice to give you. You can go live elsewhere. In another city, for example. And other times, don't send nude photos or anything even if you trust him.

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Peachy_Vi answered · November 09, 2020

   Post his nude photo! He begged for it himself and revenge is not a bad thing in this situation! One girl

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parisfury1 answered · November 09, 2020

   First, how old are you, and second, don't your parents see any change in you? !! The people who made fun of you are certainly not your friends. You know your act was terribly stupid! One of the options is to live in another city or to walk with your head held high!

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foxytail3000_ answered · November 09, 2020

   Well, don't be the first. Come on. What happened happened. He never does that again. People are napping about you, feeding their egos. They will talk and shut up and you are expected to behave this way. Say, I'm without clothes, I'm beautiful what else do you want to say. You just don't have to be ashamed but bear the consequences and think about what you are doing. Is suicide a solution? Do you want to ruin yours? Life is nothing more than responsibility.

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up2yim answered · November 09, 2020

   Hello! Thank you for your understanding. I'm in ninth grade and I can't move. Mom and Dad don't know anything about what happened, they see that there is a problem and they interrogate me, but I can't tell them because they don't understand me, and it has already happened and they can't help me with anything, they will only punish me and they will quarrel with me for weeks. And I'm ashamed to tell them such a thing. I wanted to distribute his photo as well, but I have no one to send it to, and how something so disgusting is sent, that's how I expose myself. And no one else agrees to send it, for the same reason. Everyone has it on their phones and looks at me badly, others look at me disappointed with a sad look, others joke with me. When I walk with my head held high, I hear, "Isn't there shame?" Everyone thinks I'm a bitch, and they think I'm guilty. I would be like that, if I had sent the picture to everyone myself, but no. It's as if I'm happy for everyone to watch it. After all, this is not their job. I pretend nothing happened, but wherever I go, people talk about me. In fact, girls don't always care much, those who look at me badly and make fun of me are most boys. But how to walk with dignity after what happened ... And on top of everything, the photo is without underwear, I'm ashamed mainly of the fact that my teeth are visible. -The author .. And on top of everything, the photo is without underwear, I'm mainly ashamed of the fact that my teeth are visible. -The author .. And on top of all the photo is without underwear, I'm mainly ashamed of the fact that my teeth are visible. -The author

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i_m_saolin answered · November 09, 2020

   Grains like grains! Tighten up, girl! Are they beautiful - they are beautiful! Did you eat as I told you? Did you tighten up at school? Inflate the music and shout at will. Don't fall low! If you are in front of me I will slap you! Not because of the nude photo. Because you're ruining your life. You will already know how to protect yourself! The smile on your face! Quick! Put it on very quickly!

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hautetime answered · November 10, 2020

   My friends have already given up on me because of the photo. They are ashamed of what people say about me. Now I have no friends and everyone looks at me badly and does not want to approach me. They tell me that it was my fault that I was photographed, not the boy who spread them. I do not know what to do, day by day it gets worse. I don't want to be alone. The author

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housegop answered · November 10, 2020

   In this case, you are a victim and directly tell everyone that you did not give your consent for the photo to be distributed and that this is a traitor and a defendant, which is true. The only option left for you to say is that you will turn to the police, because your photo is being distributed without your consent and everyone who does it is a defendant, especially since you are a minor. Talk to your friends and explain to them that you loved this person and did not imagine that he would commit such a betrayal and you need their support. Say you will file a complaint with the police for distributing personal photos of a minor. Everything is done not by silence, but by speaking. Go tell the culprit directly what you plan to do, and tell the other boys that this photo is not for them and you did not give your consent for distribution, and that this, that the drill betrayed you and turned out to be an asshole could bring him to court. Say that you also have a nude photo of him, but you did not go to spread it and that tomorrow they may be in your place and not know much about their mouths. Only a direct attack will fix them, don't keep quiet, and say what you are guilty of, that someone betrayed you or that you are doing defendants? Everyone says they have an intimate life and they don't care what a man does with his partner. A picture doesn't make you a whore. He explained to them that nude photography is even an art. You will know for yourself that you no longer have to trust anyone for such things. But it will only happen by talking. There is no point in keeping quiet, tell them that every second person has been photographed for their boyfriend, but the fact that someone is committing a crime at your expense can hurt if you turn to the police.