Hello, I know that in today's emancipated world, in which everyone is perceived as a complete person, the concept of a partner would make many people grumble. But I'm looking for and I can't find my half, if we believe Plato, who teaches us that humans (androgynes) were strange creatures, with two heads and four legs, but too strong and powerful. And so, separated from the gods and doomed, each half seeks its own half. I want to believe that I have a partner who also looks for me and waits for me, as I look for him and wait and do not commit to anyone, because nothing frightens me and I do not imagine living with someone I do not like. And my age is passing, and I am already 39, years old, when it is not known whether I will be able to have a child at all. Many people accuse me of being too pretentious and capricious about a woman, a certain age has passed and I should take what is given to me. That is, to throw myself at the first person I meet, if there is one left, and to be grateful that there is one at all. Well, I don't want that kind of life, that would be real torture. Maybe I won't be the first or the last woman to be almost at the end of her life (the ability to give birth) and not die of grief that she won't have children of her own and wonder where she went wrong. I couldn't find him, he's gone, he's gone, the one I should have met a long, long time ago. Where is he and is there one? He who understands me, let me not explain to him what I wanted to say, because he will know, he will feel me. The one who shares my interests, who will be my equal, who will help and support me, as I will him. Where are you?
Where do your thoughts go? f. to throw myself at the first person I meet, if there is one left, and to be grateful that there is one at all. Well, I don't want that kind of life, that would be real torture. Maybe I won't be the first or the last woman to be almost at the end of her life (the ability to give birth) and not die of grief that she won't have children of her own and wonder where she went wrong. I couldn't find him, he's gone, he's gone, the one I should have met a long, long time ago. Where is he and is there one? He who understands me, let me not explain to him what I wanted to say, because he will know, he will feel me. The one who shares my interests, who will be my equal, who will help and support me, as I will him. Where are you? Where do your thoughts go? f. to throw myself at the first one I meet, if there is one left, and to be grateful that there is one at all. Well, I don't want that kind of life, that would be real torture. Maybe I won't be the first or the last woman to be almost at the end of her life (the ability to give birth) and not die of grief that she won't have children of her own and wonder where she went wrong. I couldn't find him, he's gone, he's gone, the one I should have met a long, long time ago. Where is he and is there one? He who understands me, let me not explain to him what I wanted to say, because he will know, he will feel me. The one who shares my interests, who will be equal to me, who will help and support me, as I will him. Where are you?
Where do your thoughts go? I do not want such a life, it would be a real torture. Maybe I won't be the first or the last woman to be almost at the end of her life (the ability to give birth) and not die of grief that she won't have children of her own and wonder where she went wrong. I couldn't find him, he's gone, he's gone, the one I should have met a long, long time ago. Where is he and is there one? He who understands me, let me not explain to him what I wanted to say, because he will know, he will feel me. The one who shares my interests, who will be equal to me, who will help and support me, as I will him. Where are you? Where do your thoughts go? I do not want such a life, it would be a real torture. Maybe I won't be the first or the last woman to be almost at the end of her life (the ability to give birth) and not die of grief that she won't have children of her own and wonder where she went wrong. I couldn't find him, he's gone, he's gone, the one I should have met a long, long time ago. Where is he and is there one? He who understands me, let me not explain to him what I wanted to say, because he will know, he will feel me. The one who shares my interests, who will be my equal, who will help and support me, as I will him. Where are you? Where do your thoughts go? that he would not have children of his own and wonder where he had gone wrong. I couldn't find him, he's gone, he's gone, the one I should have met a long, long time ago. Where is he and is there one?
He who understands me, let me not explain to him what I wanted to say, because he will know, he will feel me. The one who shares my interests, who will be my equal, who will help and support me, as I will him. Where are you? Where do your thoughts go? that he would not have children of his own and wonder where he had gone wrong. I couldn't find him, he's gone, he's gone, the one I should have met a long, long time ago. Where is he and is there one? He who understands me, let me not explain to him what I wanted to say, because he will know, he will feel me. The one who shares my interests, who will be equal to me, who will help and support me, as I will him. Where are you? Where do your thoughts go?
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Hello, I understand you so well. I myself am 27 years old. and I do not compromise with the man next to me. After all, we are the 21st century, if you want to be a mother, there are enough methods, donors, etc.
To jump on the first one you meet? No no no no! You just weren't meant to start a family. I think I fall into the same category as an "old girl," but I don't care. Why? Because nowadays you can't find a real man to trust blindly and unreservedly. I would not start a family with a person who, after giving birth, would abandon me and deprive his child of a father figure and me of a husband. The family is obsolete TODAY. Once upon a time, there was a real family, when vanity, lies, betrayal and infidelity were a SHAME, SIN and something unacceptable to happen in family life. Before, family had value. It was valued, it was created purposefully, out of love, consciously. This is no longer the case. The world is definitely changing at a rapid pace, but it is moving towards vulgarity and scandal, what is your morale and stability nowadays? Not to mention faith in someone! Absurd. I'm sorry for your negative opinion on the subject, but if you want to create an 'artificial family' by hammering and looking after your child yourself after that - you have some time for that, so good luck in raising.
bloated, they will define you as abnormal, crazy, etc. See, if you are a man you will sympathize with them and they will support you by telling you that 'giants with dumb and whores' and all the negatives that the brain of a vicious man to women can create. The truth is that not everyone is lucky enough to meet the person they really want to match. In the end, he's lucky. (and everyone realizes this, but for a number of reasons, most often out of sheer malice, few people admit it) And those who have caught up with someone who really doesn't like them that much, but just because become a family, they separate in time (at best, don't they), and more often they cheat, hate each other en masse, and generally create a hell of a negative home environment for their child / children. It is very clear that people who have come to terms with certain things in their life, be it a person, a job, their life situation in general, will tell you to throw yourself at the first person you meet, if there is one left, and not ... to be grateful to him. These people just see that you are depressed and in this way they are fully charged as they suppress even more with their country stories .. and so their lives become cool ... it is at least for a while while they teach and 5 minutes later :) After all, if you already want a child so badly, but you don't meet someone who you really like as a person and you fit in with each other, you can give birth to a donor or adopt. Just keep meeting new people and if you're from a small town, get out of there right away - I don't think I need to explain why. if there is one left, and no ... be grateful to him. These people just see that you are depressed and in this way they are fully charged as they suppress even more with their country stories .. and so their lives become cool ... it is at least for a while while they teach and 5 minutes later :) After all, if you already want a child so badly, but you don't meet someone who you really like as a person and you fit in with each other, you can give birth to a donor or adopt. Just keep meeting new people and if you're from a small town get out of there right away - I don't think I need to explain why. if there is one left, and no ... be grateful to him. These people just see that you are depressed and in this way they are fully charged as they suppress even more with their country stories .. and so their lives become cool ... it is at least for a while while they teach and 5 minutes later :) After all, if you already want a child so badly, but you don't meet someone who you really like as a person and you fit in with each other, you can give birth to a donor or adopt. Just keep meeting new people and if you're from a small town get out of there right away - I don't think I need to explain why. then :) After all, if you already want a child so badly, but you don't meet someone who you really like as a person and you can match each other, you can give birth to a donor or adopt. Just keep meeting new people and if you're from a small town, get out of there right away - I don't think I need to explain why. then :) After all, if you already want a child so badly, but you don't meet someone who you really like as a person and you can match each other, you can give birth to a donor or adopt. Just keep meeting new people and if you're from a small town get out of there right away - I don't think I need to explain why.
I can't help but smile at the thought now how many men who are your position and thoughts will step up to write to you in response to this desperate cry :) You realize that what you say here is so general and distant, that it's like talking to the stars. And if this activity has had its charm over the years, now I do not believe it crosses your mind that the stars are somehow cold to your torments, too far to hear you. And that they somehow look like people - they see each other but are too far apart to touch, really. But this is the biggest mistake of people - to see things that do not really exist. Not out of their head. In second place is the phenomenon I call "lost in translation" - as if over the years I notice more and more often, that the words don't really convey the information we hope for. No matter how well you think you can express yourself and communicate. Even the irony is that the attitude seems to be directly proportional ... :) More and more often it happens that you realize that the people who are supposedly closest to you do not really know you. For a number of reasons. Good luck with the search for yours :) But most of all - enjoy the conversation with the stars :) If we lose that too ...
Number 2 I don't think I believe much in the terms written and not written. My main problem is the over-intellectualization of things, I never act at the first sign-emotional. It's true that there aren't many decent men left, especially since the type of man I'm looking for is, in fact, disappearing ... Yes, I think the donor option has been around for a long time - it's a little scary because you haven't even seen a man's eyes, but I think motherhood would make my life meaningful. I just don't know how the missing male figure would be filled ... The author
To number 3: Quite a silly comment. I haven't given you more than 20 years.
At 40, you have to do something serious about it. Do not listen to various enthusiasts who tell you about diet and fresh air ... Biology says its word inexorably. Everything happens for a reason. You know why it hasn't happened to anyone so far. You need to change your way of thinking and acting, otherwise you will continue to whine on the sites indefinitely. Keep in mind that men are well versed in a woman's ability to create a full-fledged family. They know up to what age she can give them children. So hurry up!
Haha, in general I try not to be direct, but reading some of the comments, I just can't help myself. Can anyone explain to me the term "complete person" or "simpler people" !? And since when to have a child is considered a minor goal, so to speak !? I am very interested in the position of such high-spirited opinions. Did you feed the hungry, did you heal the sick, or did you comfort the suffering? Yes, children are one of the most important goals in life. Otherwise, we are long dead. It is also incorrect to think that all families were created almost out of nowhere, that they could not look after each other and that they cheated on each other. The point is to meet the right person. For some it happens earlier, for some - not so much. Author, do not lose courage, you will meet the man.
We underestimated the emancipation :) I always forget that lately they have slipped a lot more than the old huntsmen :) But what is more fun with them - they do not stop trumpeting how intelligent, complete personalities they are. How they know and can do everything. And they generously sprinkle advice and don't worry at all when drawing final conclusions based on zero facts in the specific situation. Because they know and can do anything. Of course, they don't stop blabbering on about how unhappy and stupid and hypocritical everyone is, how they just think they have a family. Maybe they are right. In certain cases. But what they conveniently avoid is the simple fact that not all people and families are what they are referring to. But this should not surprise us either, because they always have to calm down with something in the long lonely nights that they fill with TLS, big brother and Facebook. And because they've been doing this for a long time, it's already become an automatic reflex, and you can just see them froth as they explain it all with such pathos. Of course, they would never take a different opinion on the matter :) Dear graduates, let me tell you that the real graduate does not mock so much frankly the people who are from the countryside and "and" -cat. Yes, it annoys me too, to be honest, but I would never look at them as inferior. And I definitely wouldn't make fun of them like that. Not because I'm very kind, but simply because I don't think it's right. And hatred is the most primitive and useless human emotion. It is strange how our developed Homo sapiens specimens in this topic did not come to this simple conclusion of life. To those who confessed - my condolences:
You will have to compromise, it has been seen. If you want, of course. If not - you will continue like this. So much. Almost all of us have to.
There are many people, both male and female, who still do not have families because they have simply not met the right person for this step. We are another generation believing in other ideals and with a different value system. There is something true that the decent are alone. They are alone because they had the ambition before starting a family to achieve something in the name of that family and to provide security. Things like own home, education, good job. And if you fought alone for all these things, you imperceptibly became 40. You went through 1-2 relationships with the wrong person to whom you gave a lot and you got pain and here is the result. You raise the boundaries and criteria and choose carefully because you do not want a future family to suffer. Real men and women carefully choose a family partner. I was wondering why she's my wife when I can do all the housework myself, laundry, cleaning, ironing shopping, etc. For one sex is the problem, I can get it anywhere. The reason is in ourselves, because we have lost trust in people and in order not to be hurt again, we prefer to be alone until someone proves his love to us.
Search, think of approaches as to work and you will find. Sometimes it happens with waiting, but you no longer have time to be passive. Reduce the criteria for appearance, age and other unimportant things for a good marriage. Watch love, but also be practical. Go out, no matter where, communicate with more people. Wake up!
And how much longer can you wait? And if you compare the options donor on the one hand and a real man, although not ideal - on the other, which option is better? I think that even if you break up with the father after a while, it is better for the child to have a father than not to have one. Unfortunately, at this age it will be very difficult to find a decent man, because when you had to look, you looked at the stars, as казва 5 says, while other, more pragmatic girls realized much earlier that there are no perfect things and they just got a normal, statistically masculine man and already have children, and some at that age - maybe grandchildren (I'm telling you to find out how late you are in coming out of childhood, not that you have to give birth at 20) . At your respectable age, you could find some free mold (mom's son) to carry around for a lifetime, but nevertheless I think it is better, if you want a child at all, to have a father, albeit a mold, than - a father - an unknown one. The uglier girls realize very early on that they have to accept the first or at most - the second proposal, because the proposals do not rain like a bucket and the third may not be. You were obviously relatively more beautiful and had suggestions until recently, so you didn't realize until now that you had to make a compromise. There is no family without compromise - even if it is not necessary in the beginning, sooner or later compromises are reached in a relationship so that it can survive. You have reached the point where you have to compromise at the very beginning of the relationship. And the smart one, be careful who you choose, because then you will live with him. Success! than - father - unknown. The uglier girls realize very early on that they have to accept the first or at most - the second offer, because the offers do not rain like a bucket and the third may not be. You were obviously relatively more beautiful and had suggestions until recently, so you didn't realize until now that you had to make a compromise. There is no family without compromise - even if it is not necessary in the beginning, sooner or later compromises are reached in a relationship so that it can survive. You have reached the point where you have to compromise at the very beginning of the relationship. And the smart one, be careful who you choose, because then you will live with him. Success! than - father - unknown. The uglier girls realize very early on that they have to accept the first or at most - the second proposal, because the proposals do not rain like a bucket and the third may not be. You were obviously relatively more beautiful and had suggestions until recently, so you didn't realize until now that you had to make a compromise. There is no family without compromise - even if it is not necessary in the beginning, sooner or later compromises are reached in a relationship so that it can survive. You have reached the point where you have to compromise at the very beginning of the relationship. And the smart one, be careful who you choose, because then you will live with him. Success! because the proposals are not raining like a bucket and there may not be a third. You were obviously relatively more beautiful and had suggestions until recently, so you didn't realize until now that you had to make a compromise. There is no family without compromise - even if it is not necessary in the beginning, sooner or later compromises are reached in a relationship so that it can survive. You have reached the point where you have to compromise at the very beginning of the relationship. And the smart one, be careful who you choose, because then you will live with him. Success! because the proposals don't rain like a bucket and there may not be a third. You were obviously relatively more beautiful and had suggestions until recently, so you didn't realize until now that you had to make a compromise. There is no family without compromise - even if it is not necessary in the beginning, sooner or later compromises are reached in a relationship so that it can survive. You have reached the point where you have to compromise at the very beginning of the relationship. And the smart one, be careful who you choose, because then you will live with him. Success! in which you have to compromise at the very beginning of the relationship. And the smart one, be careful who you choose, because then you will live with him. Success! in which you have to compromise at the very beginning of the relationship. And the smart one, be careful who you choose, because then you will live with him. Success!
Hello! I'm not in your position, but I think you should never compromise with yourself. So don't care that you haven't found the right person yet. Just when you least want, expect and seek it, it appears. Regarding the birth - I have an acquaintance who gave birth this year and is 43 years old. At the same time, her birth was quite easy and painless. So, it's all about the body and the person. If you're healthy and, God forbid, you get pregnant in time, if you monitor your body and visit your doctor, I don't see why you should worry. Success!
I would never have a child from the first time I met. Only if I truly fall in love and I am sure that I will be with this person for the rest of my life. Some people are adamant whether they want children or not, and it depends on whether I will fall in love. When someone asks me if I want children, I say I don't know.
It was said that the author must compromise. I don't think she should compromise, she should be compromised. It is full of young, beautiful girls of childbearing age. I wonder who is this man who wants a family, without compromising, will get into a serious relationship with a 40-year-old? People of this age have grandchildren.
Dear author, I understand very well what you are going through, because in fact there are so many men and women in your situation today. And the question is not limited to "What are you waiting for? Which is actually so pointless. If you look around you will understand how many couples are formed on the basis of "just having someone by my side", "it was time", "I was not looking for another", etc. Finding the right partner is a matter of pure luck, to be honest. You have to fit in with your man on several levels - intellectually, emotionally and sexually. If one of these elements is missing, your relationship will not be particularly deep and will sooner or later lead to childbirth ... or to a not very happy and satisfying family life. From personal experience I tell you that your companion in life must be your best friend and the person closest to your soul and heart. Living with the wrong man can turn into a little hell. People will say, "compromises must be made!" “. Well, yes, that's right, but there is a difference from compromise to compromise. In our daily lives we make many compromises, in family life as well - how and where we will spend the weekend or vacation; where to buy a home; to support your husband in an endeavor that will require a little personal sacrifice; to look lightly at some annoying habits and imperfections that we all have. These are acceptable compromises. However, you cannot compromise on important things such as your personal values, basic understandings and views on life, dreams and aspirations. If you have deep disagreements definitely a happy relationship and family will not work. But your story shows that you are already aware of all this. Don't blame yourself for not finding your man yet. You are not to blame. Just luck. Many people are in your situation. Mine too съм I've made huge compromises in past relationships, but I hurt myself in the end. And that was a lesson to me. It is more important to decide at this stage of your life what is the priority - to have a child regardless of the circumstances or to find the right partner? If it is the first, then I advise you to act immediately and focus on getting pregnant from a donor, because you do not have much time. If being a mother is not the most important realization for you, just move on and sooner or later you will meet the one you are looking for. He's probably looking for you too. Mine too съм I've made huge compromises in past relationships, but I hurt myself in the end. And that was a lesson to me. It is more important to decide at this stage of your life what is the priority - to have a child regardless of the circumstances or to find the right partner? If it is the first, then I advise you to act immediately and focus on getting pregnant from a donor, because you do not have much time. If being a mother is not the most important realization for you, just move on and sooner or later you will meet the one you are looking for. He's probably looking for you too. Mine too съм I've made huge compromises in past relationships, but I hurt myself in the end. And that was a lesson to me. It is more important to decide at this stage of your life what is the priority - to have a child regardless of the circumstances or to find the right partner? If it is the first, then I advise you to act immediately and focus on getting pregnant from a donor, because you do not have much time. If being a mother is not the most important realization for you, just move on and sooner or later you will meet the one you are looking for. He's probably looking for you too. then I advise you to act immediately and focus on getting pregnant from a donor, because you do not have much time. If being a mother is not the most important realization for you, just move on and sooner or later you will meet the one you are looking for. He's probably looking for you too. then I advise you to act immediately and focus on getting pregnant from a donor, because you do not have much time. If being a mother is not the most important realization for you, just move on and sooner or later you will meet the one you are looking for. He's probably looking for you too.
Number 13 is the most meaningful comment.
Number 11, in your text there are gross, obvious grammatical errors, tautology, even semantic contradiction. I think you are one of the people who fill their time with Facebook and TV. Get read a thicker book.
Author, certainly better alone than badly accompanied. Do not listen to various troublemakers here, it seems that they are like that in the way they express themselves and empty their soul. I live abroad and we have a Bulgarian newspaper here. Sometimes I buy it. I laughed with tears at dating ads of two stubborn Ganyovtsi: "I'm looking for a woman of childbearing age" - no explanation for anything but the obvious that they haven't given him "sowing levels" yet "I'm looking for a woman up to 60 cm tall" - also no explanations other than the obvious that he is a man under 160 cm You as a woman have at least 100 times better chances to find what you want than to accept ... "something". Orient yourself on foreign dating sites. Go out to places where you are more likely to meet kindred spirits. Travel at least to nearby countries and visit places you like, men with the same / similar preferences will also visit there. By no means can you accept someone's seed as one Ganyo recommends here, better none. We choose with whose gene to mix ours, only in this way we ensure a desired / loved child. Otherwise it is easier, and at least you will be able to see in advance vision, health, genetic inheritance with a child for adoption. But nowadays there are women who give birth to completely healthy children and over 40 but from a desired person.
Creating a family requires a lot of compromise on both sides. As well as conditions for creating such. Under the conditions, I have a stable home and stable income, it is not necessary to have a top salary, but some secure income with which you can provide this family with at least the most necessary things. Nutrition, heating, clothing, health and access of your children to education. The other are luxuries that more and more women feel that a man is obliged to offer them. Among other things, he has to look good, have good sex, and when he sees it, butterflies always flutter in their stomachs. And at some point they turn 40, live alone with a cat and start wondering how they can't find their mate. The bad thing is that we are seeing more and more such women, and they are supposed to be the ones who choose. Emmy means the problem is only in them.
Hello, author, I understand you, because I am like you. And I did not find my soulmate, nor did he find me. Every time I loved, it turned out to be unshared. I was betrayed and it hurt a lot. It still hurts me from the last time. They always chose another and left me for her. The most recent case - the gentleman chose a chalga girl 20 years younger than him, because her smile is better than mine. No one found a place for me in my heart and in my life. And people point fingers at me and make fun of me as if I'm guilty. What am I guilty of? That I'm not a user? That I don't act like a cocky slimy bastard? That I don't wear false eyelashes, eyebrows, etc.? That I'm open and I'm not pretending? That I don't play games and that's why I'm not interested in them? It must be so ...
Hmmm, I think the author is,, stuck here, not the other screamers on the subject. I don't know, and it's very funny to me when many like the author think that for the rest of their lives they will be the ones to choose. Yes but no. While a man can have children even if he is over 50, for a woman this limit is much earlier. We are talking about getting pregnant and giving birth safely in a normal way, which in my opinion is up to 38 years max. Then things get complicated for both her and the child. That is, if by the age of 38 she has not been able to do this, but strongly desires it, and not only to give birth, but also to have a husband and a normal family, she will have to go on promotion, such as stale goods in warehouses where their expiration date is beginning to come. If he does not lower the price, the other option is scrapping. Sounds rude, but it's true. Unfortunately, life is very cruel, and whether we like it or not, we will have to accept it as it is. childbearing age abruptly and expires. There is no such movie darling. I consider myself a stable man. I live abroad, I have a nice home and a good income, I think the most important things for a family, but I would not have a child with a woman in or over 40, if it were the former Miss California. At least because of which I'm not sure how healthy this child will be. And then, instead of creating a new life, I will scatter three of them. Own, the child and the woman. We both take care of a disabled person for the rest of our lives, and the child suffers for the rest of his life. It doesn't sound good to me and I wouldn't do it if I wanted to stay an old bachelor for 70 years. Her only option is to catch up with someone like her,, a bitch,, like her. I don't see anything wrong with two troubled souls coming together and supporting each other. The only obstacle will be the ego of one of these two troubled souls. You see, she can't be so humiliated and will wait for Mr. California to come and pick her up on a white horse from the nursing home. To the author, I would say, just sharply reduce the criteria if you want to place before your expiration date.
Why does everyone look at the family in a standard, practical and patriarchal way? There are many different types of families and not everything can be put under a common denominator. I did not understand whether the author wants or does not want children, because at one point she says that they are not her priority, and then she deviates a little from her thesis. Anyway. I think she wants to meet a SOUL, not necessarily the husband or father of her children. Few people understand that because we are narrow-minded. I'm 42 and I met the woman of my life at 38, should I whine? We already have 2 children and we are happy. Much younger couples without thinking get married, have children and then are unhappy. Is this love? To live for the sake of society? There are people who met love at a late age. And love is not always expressed in a big house, marriage, several children and so on. I know a couple who travels the world together - they don't want children, they travel and so on. I also know homosexual couples who are happy together. Others who want children and a family but do not believe in marriage. Be a little more broad-minded and stop framing values! We can't all be the same ... Julian
author, you have obviously created in your head the image of the ideal, the so-called half, and when you did not meet him, you were disappointed. most people, when they do not meet their ideal, look for something as close as possible to it, or in other words, lower their criteria. here things are quite delicate, because the descent cannot be endless, but as you have already noticed, it is not possible to stick to the ideal and stomp your foot on why it does not exist. in which case you are simply left alone. I have a question: what is the guarantee that you will meet the ideal in question at all, and if you meet him, that he will think that you are exactly his partner, that things will work out between you, you will live happily and have a child. don't you see how many conditions have to be fulfilled at the same time? and regardless of your high opinion of you that you are a complete person, whatever that means, you also have flaws. in fact, it's not at all clear what men think of you, whether they find it appealing or bloated, whether they think you'll just cut them off, so they don't try, or they just don't want to try. here the point of view of the other side is very important, and we cannot dispose of it only in your words. what can you do? to think about whether you are really good on your own or just trying to convince yourself of that. I suspect it's the second time you write a topic at all. if so, consider which of the things you expect from a man aren't really that important, they're just fantasy. for example, I can immediately give you an example of the following: "He who understands me, let me not explain to him what I wanted to say, because he will know, he will feel me." You will forgive me, but this is quite unrealistic: -) you can't expect a man to read thoughts and immediately remember what you think and you want to say :-) yes, after 10 years together it will probably be so, you will know all the numbers of your husband, and he yours and you will also know your canines. 1 colleague calls: after 35 my wife doesn't need to talk, I know in advance what she will say :-) so maybe some of your ideas need to be reconsidered :-) and yes, after 40 birth is possible, but still more difficult and problematic if we assume that you do not have reproductive problems that you cannot know about in advance. F46 I know in advance what it will say :-) so maybe some of your ideas need rethinking :-) and yes, after 40 birth is possible, but more and more difficult and problematic, assuming that you do not have reproductive problems for which there is no how to know in advance. F46 I know in advance what he will say :-) so maybe some of your ideas need rethinking :-) and yes, after 40 birth is possible, but more and more difficult and problematic, assuming that you do not have reproductive problems for which there is no how to know in advance. F46
To compromise is pure masochism. Compromise is not a high value, but an indicator of weakness, insecurity and fear of operating autonomously with your own life without having any "backup" there (approval of your spouse, family, society, etc.). This is the way of the coward and the insecure, of the one who seeks approval and confirmation from external factors, to think that he is living well, resp. - acceptable to the other sheep from which he seeks some confirmation. I hope the "packages" fail to convince you that you don't have time. There is time for everything and it has different dimensions for everyone. What is acceptable should not satisfy. Communicating with the right person is never based on compromise. What you do without reservations, you cannot define it as a compromise, because it comes naturally to you and you want it. If you haven't met the person yet and you want a child, there are alternatives. Don't be afraid to live your life. He is yours. It is not mine, nor for the others here who comment from the position of last resort. Still, I want to think a little more philosophically, not stereotypically. You want a child - there are ways. And what if there is no father? The absence of a father is a better option than having one that is not ok. You want a man, but don't compromise - don't be with someone because of the social pressure, but be with the one with whom you are ok and who deserves your love. Otherwise it makes no sense. J. 31 rather than stereotyped. You want a child - there are ways. And what if there is no father? The absence of a father is a better option than having one that is not ok. You want a man, but don't compromise - don't be with someone because of the social pressure, but be with the one with whom you are ok and who deserves your love. Otherwise it makes no sense. J. 31 rather than stereotyped. You want a child - there are ways. And what if there is no father? The absence of a father is a better option than having one that is not ok. You want a man, but do not compromise - do not be with someone because of social pressure, but be with the one with whom you are ok and who deserves your love. Otherwise it makes no sense. J. 31
Thanks to everyone ... No, I've never cared about a man's appearance, I stopped paying attention to that a long time ago. What impresses me is the intelligence, that's what turns me on. An intelligent conversation about books, art, literature. Regarding material things - I have a home, a pretty good salary, although working something radically different from me (here, this is a huge compromise, history and culturology do not pay the bills) In general, I'm more of a spiritual person, so I'm looking for a similar, but the last one who impressed me said that he doesn't go after women ... That's why I'm looking. The author
The modern electronic world has killed people's souls, turned them into zombies, turned them into people with programmed intelligence. Such people do not become families, they do not have time for such people, but for children at all. We have to go back to nature, we have to become human again and everything will fall into place. The years of family and birth are given for a career, and then it is understood that the career has killed life, only the glory remains!
I'm number 13 again. The only advice I would give you is to rediscover yourself and bet on the inner beauty of an individual in a relationship. Take down a little guard and the requirements for a partner and father of your children. Women, stop thinking that we are obliged to provide you with everything in life just because you have a vulva that can give birth to children, because everyone can give birth to us. The moment you bet on looking for inner beauty in a person, you will find a partner and not a fucker who runs away from responsibility. Look for the poor man, because he will love you and support you. The right woman makes a man rich because she sits as an ornament on the neck of such a man and aspires to achieve it.
Generally, a man or woman of 40 who has not found the right person next to him is a complex. I will not explain why. But the author has a way out to make her meaningless life meaningful. And not one ...
33, you are a complex! Some people do not compromise with their principles and are not satisfied with the superficial or what they have at their disposal ...
Do you dare stay out? Do you dare go in? How much can you lose? How much can you win? And if you go in, should you turn left or right? Or right and three-quarters? Or maybe not quite? You can get so confused... that you'll start in to race... down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace... and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space... headed I fear towards a most useless place... the waiting place. For people just waiting. Waiting for a train to go... or for a bus to come... or a plane to go... or the mail to come or the rain to go... or the phone to ring or the snow to snow... or waiting around for a yes or a no... or a string of pearls or a pair of pants... or a wig with curls... or another chance. Някак си ми се стори много актуално по темата ... Която просто се уморих да мисля и да се опитвам да говоря,even with your loved ones ... And this is a greeting for those who remember where this is from without an uncle from google google: "www.youtube.com/watch?v=5t5QSiydF9Y&index=225&list=LLDL0Cc3O5qzOEGgLpFFLgFg"
H 33, why should I be complex when I have not yet found the man for myself? I have had some requirements that no one has met that are not at all related to the material comforts or physical data of the partner. In that case, a 47-year-old man, well-realized and world-famous in his field, is complex because he has higher demands on the woman next to him, right?
You're not alone and I'm like that, a lot of people keep asking me how long I'm still alone - well, I don't want to be anyone!
And many women tell me it's time for you to get married. And I don't want anyone, even though I'm 40 and I don't care who gets me what. The important thing is what I want and that is a woman to get to the end with her.
Honestly, if you're 40, you have to think very seriously about why. Sometimes circumstances are to blame, but most often you are to blame. At the age of 40, it is already stupid to wait for the ideal one who meets all the criteria. You have to make a compromise - for example, not to be crazy love, not to be rich or to have this / that. To like each other, to understand each other. And if you fit in with sex - then what more. If at 40 you have the criteria of 30, you will sleep with the criteria at 50.
Oops, I forgot to add that it's ironic that you're number 43 in a row, ahahahaha. J. 30g.
"And get to the end with it" ... at 40 ... Leaving aside the platonic ego (hello, "world famous") that this type of people have already built after so much time, there is no way you can't realize some things, like, when you're in the mood to look your not-too-bright future in the eye. I don't know if you realize, but the "end" is not very far. The fact is that for the most part, you have already walked it. Somehow. Sometime. I understand you very well, and I know the anatomy of "cuckoos" like you. I do not blame or judge you. I just wonder if you're so convinced you're right when you walk past a garden and see a young father, about 25, playing with his child. And you're 40 and you're still hoping to throw your child. Sometime. IF you find the "right" mother for your child. Of course, the pain in your knees and lower back tells you that even if that happens, you won't be the nimble dad like in this picture in front of you. And this "half" of yours, who is also so convinced that it's worth the wait ... IF she finds him at all, and IF she gives birth at all, when she comes to pick up her 10-year-old child from school and they tell her "how beautiful grandmother has come to take her grandson ", will she be so convinced that it was worth the wait ... Of course, this can happen IF you stop believing the tales of the" Woman of 60 gave birth to triplets ". or "a man can become a father even at 55. ehe, how many of them do I know and live happily ever after". As you can see, there are many IFs in these scenarios. "Every thing at a time". At such moments one understands the true meaning of these short clichés.