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I Can't Flirt

By ashlynn07 September 02, 2020 10 answers Last updated September 02, 2020

Hello! I will write in essence - I am a man and I can not flirt. I have no approach to women, I don't know how to deal with them. I don't even know how to meet when I like a girl - I say hello, I introduce myself there ... I stand and keep quiet like a popcorn. When I'm on a date, I also stand and keep quiet. The only thing that comes to my mind is "what do you study, what do you work for, where do you live", a lot of boredom. I'm generally silent and quiet, but I don't think that's a problem. The problem is that I don't know what to say, I know women like to take them off, but I'm a round zero in the dumps. I have no idea how to behave if I'm in a relationship with a girl, but I don't even know how to get there. Because I'm such a jerk, I certainly missed a lot of chances for a happy relationship, but I'm determined to deal with it, I'm still young - I'll be 21 soon. I just want one girl and we're together. I don't want to take down women just for sex, happiness is in love, but you can't fall in love and become attached without knowing the person next to you. I will be happy if you give me useful advice, thank you.

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oooops_sugarlips answered · September 02, 2020

   read for pickup

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renattamoeloek answered · September 02, 2020

   Talk about your interests, ask about hers, if you have common, the conversation is already easy and pleasant. Offer interesting places for a walk / visit, watching the reaction and you will see what impresses and likes it. Also, don't forget to show it, and she will get to know you. Invite her to the cinema by asking her in advance what topic she likes and likes. If you have been to a bar, for example, suggest a walk after that and send home. Call the next day to say that you had a good time and you will be happy to see you again soon. Invite her to a place where you will feel calmer. Don't forget the compliments, without overplaying. Don't forget that she was just as worried as you, she changed her clothes at least three times until she decided what else she would impress you with, and she stuck to the mirror for at least an hour so that a pimple would come out, unplucked hair or the last 300 checks which profile to offer you for better. Topics for conversation in the awkward beginning - music, movies, dreams, hobbies. Don't turn it into a cross-examination, listen, get involved. For a second meeting and offer something that you will already know from the first, that she likes - cinema, museum, walk in a special place for her. For the second meeting you can also give a small detail - for example, I was amused and impressed by one who came for a second meeting with a hairpin. At the first one he asked me why I was with two, one holding my hair and the other on the handle of the bag. I told him that it was vital for me to always have a spare hairpin on hand if one of them broke. And the other one and he with a hairpin gift :) Don't turn it into a cross-examination, listen, get involved. For a second meeting and offer something that you will already know from the first, that she likes - cinema, museum, walk in a special place for her. For the second meeting you can also give a small detail - for example, I was amused and impressed by one who came for a second meeting with a hairpin. At the first one he asked me why I was with two, one holding my hair and the other on the handle of the bag. I told him that it was vital for me to always have a spare hairpin on hand if one of them broke. And the other one and he with a hairpin gift :) Don't turn it into a cross-examination, listen, get involved. For a second meeting and offer something that you will already know from the first, that she likes - cinema, museum, walk in a special place for her. For the second meeting you can give a small detail - for example, I was amused and impressed by one who came for a second meeting with a hairpin. At the first one he asked me why I was with two, one holding my hair and the other on the handle of the bag. I told him that it was vital for me to always have a spare hairpin on hand if one of them broke. And the other one and he with a hairpin gift :) At the first one he asked me why I was with two, one holding my hair and the other on the handle of the bag. I told him that it was vital for me to always have a spare hairpin on hand if one of them broke. And the other one and he with a hairpin gift :) At the first one she asked me why I was with two, one holding my hair and the other on the handle of the bag. I told him that it was vital for me to always have a spare hairpin on hand if one of them broke. And the other one and he with a hairpin gift :)

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showmenoodz answered · September 02, 2020

   Be attractive, funny, enigmatic, impulsive at times. Personally, these things help me, but still the most important thing is the conversation. Without him, even being the greatest beauty with just a charming smile will not work. Be yourself, don't worry. The girl, of course, will be worried too. You are the man, come on!

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rammelnass answered · September 02, 2020

   First of all, I would advise you to stop looking for a "boyfriend", look at women as something normal. From what you have written, I conclude that you are a closed person and that is why I advise you to start going out, find a suitable company of people to have fun with. When a chick gives you indications that you are attracted to her, do not surround her with attention and questions, but just continue to behave naturally and, of course, do not stop having fun. Make a compliment at the right time, but not for clothing or anything else material about it - but for something of the character and that really impressed you, let the compliment be sincere and said so by the way. Smile and be nice to everyone, don't show the girls that they are something special to you. When a girl is already intrigued, it will have a conversation first - listen to her and be honest with her about whatever you talk about. Be different from the downloaders table. I have the feeling that you are a real man, ready to make your beloved wife happy - the fact that you want advice on how to behave on your own shows that you want to be on a level, that's why I advise you to be yourself without a drop of falsehood and learned behavior, just have fun and don't look at women as something special but as people you enjoy interacting with, they feel it. Be original and different - instead of asking her where she studies, ask her, for example, what she would do if she had only one day left to live, what is her bravest dream - you remember where I fight .. I wish you success, you are 21 and life is in front of you, don't take things seriously, just have fun and don't sleep :) Be different from the downloaders table. I have the feeling that you are a real man, ready to make your beloved wife happy - the fact that you want advice on how to behave on your own shows that you want to be on a level, that's why I advise you to be yourself without a drop of falsehood and learned behavior, just have fun and don't look at women as something special but as people you enjoy interacting with, they feel it. Be original and different - instead of asking her where she studies, ask her, for example, what she would do if she had only one day left to live, what is her bravest dream - you remember where I fight .. I wish you success, you are 21 and life is in front of you, don't take things seriously, just have fun and don't sleep :) Be different from the downloaders table. I have the feeling that you are a real man, ready to make your beloved wife happy - the fact that you want advice on how to behave on your own shows that you want to be on a level, that's why I advise you to be yourself without a drop of falsehood and learned behavior, just have fun and don't look at women as something special but as people you enjoy interacting with, they feel it. Be original and different - instead of asking her where she studies, ask her, for example, what she would do if she had only one day left to live, what is her bravest dream - you remember where I fight .. I wish you success, you are 21 and life is in front of you, don't take things seriously, just have fun and don't sleep :) ready to make your beloved wife happy - the fact that you want advice on how to behave speaks for itself that you want to be on a level, that's why I advise you to be yourself without a drop of falsehood and learned behavior, just have fun and don't watch to women as something special and as people with whom you enjoy communicating, they feel it. Be original and different - instead of asking her where she studies, ask her, for example, what she would do if she had only one day left to live, what is her bravest dream - you remember where I fight .. I wish you success, you are 21 and life is in front of you, don't take things seriously, just have fun and don't sleep :) ready to make your beloved wife happy - the fact that you want advice on how to behave speaks for itself that you want to be on a level, that's why I advise you to be yourself without a drop of falsehood and learned behavior, just have fun and don't watch to women as something special and as people with whom you enjoy communicating, they feel it. Be original and different - instead of asking her where she studies, ask her, for example, what she would do if she had only one day left to live, what is her bravest dream - you remember where I fight .. I wish you success, you are 21 and life is in front of you, don't take things seriously, just have fun and don't sleep :) just have fun and don't look at women as something special but as people you enjoy interacting with, they feel it. Be original and different - instead of asking her where she studies, ask her, for example, what she would do if she had only one day left to live, what is her bravest dream - you remember where I fight .. I wish you success, you are 21 and life is in front of you, don't take things seriously, just have fun and don't sleep :) just have fun and don't look at women as something special but as people you enjoy interacting with, they feel it. Be original and different - instead of asking her where she studies, ask her, for example, what she would do if she had only one day left to live, what is her bravest dream - you remember where I fight .. I wish you success, you are 21 and life is in front of you, don't take things seriously, just have fun and don't sleep :)

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stella.manente.official answered · September 02, 2020

   Well, author, what can I tell you, apart from the truth, the best, and it is that I am very repulsed by such people who cannot strike up conversations. And if it's not a matter of flirting, for example, waiting for something somewhere, talking about something is quite normal. Not only do we keep quiet and look serious, as if the whole world is super crooked and black. If a man starts talking to me with the words "what do you study, what do you do, where do you live" he automatically rejects me, as if he wants to check if he will make a good deal with me. It's disgustingly annoying. But the good news for you is that you are 21 and now you will do this thing on time! And how many men are there at 30 and older who do not know how to have free conversations with women and then complain that women are like that and that and dumb and ugly, or bloated, abe still something crooked, and to have money and to be beautiful, they find a wife again with great care, and you realized the problem in time and now you will overcome it in 1-2 years with active communication! My advice is to even find a girlfriend and not stop having light conversations with girls, women, of course not for the sake of a dump, but to communicate freely with all kinds of people, to be cosmopolitan, not temerut, as you now realize .

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lima2019juegos answered · September 02, 2020

   Go out with people more often and practice your communication skills to develop them. Some are born social butterflies, but others just need a little more practice. Find your favorite things, talk about them, seek opinions about them, learn a few jokes, be open to people. If necessary, talk to a friend to help and guide you, tell you when you're not sounding good, and praise you when you're doing well. Read books, talk about the things that are important to you, and learn to listen to others. With a little effort, before you know it, you will become the soul of the company. Then you will already know how to behave in front of others and it will be much easier for you when you are on a date with a girl.

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drunkbitch101 answered · September 03, 2020

   Every woman is different, there is no specific advice for everyone, but still every woman loves to receive compliments and be wanted, in principle, women like men with a sense of humor and not shy, because when you sit down and be silent just look at each other in love. each will, and get bored at some point. You are the gender that needs to take off this is in your blood, now if she is a hotter girl she will want to be accordingly and more desirable to have more desire for something with her to grab her, spank her, etc., but after all, every woman, both for sex and for love, wants to see that you want her, but also that you love her. Any woman would want a man to wake her up with a text message, for example, that he loves her and that it's all for him and can't wait to see each other or if you're together to wake her up with breakfast, a kiss and flowers. Not everything is a desire to get along with exactly these romantic moments, which melts a woman's heart a lot of men miss them small gestures are the most pleasant for example to walk and pick a flower, watch a movie and eat ice cream or just surprise her with a romantic dinner, wine and candles everything else is after some can go to the bedroom and hug others to run into each other, but you understand that at a given moment not before, plans are not made everything happens by itself man you can not help but distinguish at least that. We just want tenderness in addition to desire, but not too much romance and eye contact, and walking after us like a puppy, every woman wants when she is ready to, and compliment her to tell her how crazy she is and how much she loves and wants. However, for accurate advice, if you want to describe the girl in character and appearance so that we can help you, because like I said, every woman is different, so it's best to say what the girl you want is. Excessive gossip about sex bores, but this does not mean heptane to want nothing and seek only love, because then you will be avoided love goes along with sex if one is lame and the other begins to limp. Just be yourself, do not change in order to be liked by someone at the right moment, the right person will evaluate you as you are with all your shortcomings, because there are no ideals and love does not ask. J. 19 Just be yourself, do not change in order to be liked by someone at the right moment, the right person will evaluate you as you are with all your shortcomings, because there are no ideals and love does not ask. J. 19 Just be yourself, do not change in order to be liked by someone at the right moment, the right person will evaluate you as you are with all your shortcomings, because there are no ideals and love does not ask. J. 19

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wired answered · September 03, 2020

   Don't cut so much, boy. Anyway, no virgin dies - life fucks everyone!

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natashaleggero answered · September 03, 2020

   Colleague, I am 21 years old and I have the same problem as you. I will follow the comments on the topic, I hope that people will give some ideas, so that I can see what they are talking about with the ladies and learn more ...

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americanredcross answered · September 04, 2020

   Thanks for the comments!