Hello, dear readers. I want to tell my story and ask for advice. My wife and I have never been happily married. I never had time for her and our child. I always came home late, I never stayed alone with her, nor did I spend time with our son, I was obsessed with my work because of the low income I have. We have a 5-year-old boy who visits a psychologist every week. He doesn't talk, he doesn't eat, he doesn't have contact with other children, he doesn't want anyone - not me, not his mother, not anyone. I blame myself for the fact that once I did not take my family for a normal walk, or for a very ordinary vacation at the sea or camping ... I'm sick, I'm very sick of everything. Once I didn't make her beautiful eyes laugh, once I didn't buy her something to make her happy ... I'm a poor thing. Neither my wife nor my child want me anymore. I can't forget her, I go to bed thinking about her, I wake up thinking about her. I constantly look at the photos of her and the child ... Do you think it's worth talking to my wife about our future, or should everyone continue on their way?
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Ask for a second chance. It's never too late for that. Go outside and talk face to face. Not for you or your wife, but for YOUR CHILD. Because of your mistakes, it will suffer over time. If she eventually gives you one, try to please them a little more, to pay more attention to them. Even on ordinary walks it takes them to the park, just to make them feel good. Good luck :)
If you think you can change your attitude towards your ex-wife and child - change it! They will feel the change and the gathering will come by itself. But a foundation is needed. First the change, then get together. Otherwise, if for some reason she agrees to get together from now on and behave in the same way, you will cause much more pain. Good luck
Ugh, the next one is late. If I'm rude, I apologize, but someone like you doesn't live with his son now. To her - the bad thing is that his son has no idea what a father is and how to live with a real one. Work, these children are always small, they don't need you ...
If you want to be with her, try if you are already divorced, act because someone else can do it, there is still something to connect you.
I sympathize with you, man. I also have a wife and a child and I imagine what I would feel in your place. I think it's always worth talking to her honestly. And most importantly, if you are given a chance not to repeat the mistakes. I know money is never enough, but at least do your best for your people, because there are things you can't buy with money, and one of them is family. I wish you success!
hello, the first thing i want to tell you is that i do NOT think that the problem your child has is because of you! second, whether you should try to keep your family. Yes! especially when you realized your mistake. But don't start with words, but with actions. Show your wife that you are different now. No one will believe you in words, especially her. Show and hope that after a while she will understand that you are sorry for the past and want a second chance (it will be implied by your actions, not by words) I wish you success!
Author, we all make mistakes and we all fail. At least you saw about yours. My advice is to talk to your wife, tell her how you are feeling and ask her for a second chance. Whether she will give you one depends only on her, but if she does - do not waste it. If he refuses to get together, then at least take responsibility for the child - take him often, take him to the fish or to a psychologist and spend more time together. Everything happens in this life and nothing is known - it is not based on clichés - if a person really wants something - it is not impossible. Personally, I know two families who are together for the second time and others who have finally separated - it's all up to the people and each case is unique. I hope yours has a happy ending, because there is no recipe for it :)
I didn't understand how long you had been separated. But still talk. She may feel the same way.
Try to talk to her, apologize and explain, and that you regret that you realize your mistake and how much you care about her and the child. Say and think whether to give you a 2nd chance explain, and say everything and what you think and feel. Collect coins say and that you want to surprise them buy, and something symbolic not an expensive gift rather a bracelet or something small but from the heart and, and say it. Also see where in the city or around it where there is a large children's center makes sense of those that are full of games and toys where you pay entrance, and the child can play everything there take him to such a place there he will feel good there will be games and entertainment for him then visit a store to choose a toy or something he likes to make him happy then take them to eat in a restaurant or restaurant where the kid will not be bored. Show how much you care about them and even if it doesn't work out, you will make your child happy and this is the most important thing. She will decide for herself whether to give you a chance, but no matter what happens, keep looking for the child. Also, if you have a sister or mothers, if it can help you prepare something they love very much, you can surprise them, and if you did it and it was not just bought, it will be even sweeter. Look for the child more and want to go out on the playgrounds, nothing that doesn't play with the other children, play with him whatever he wants, make him laugh, and so over time things can at least get better with him :) Also, if you have a sister or mothers, if it can help you prepare something they love very much, you can surprise them, and if you did it and it was not just bought, it will be even sweeter. Look for the child more and want to go out on the playgrounds, nothing that doesn't play with the other children, play with him whatever he wants, make him laugh, and so over time things can at least get better with him :) Also, if you have a sister or mothers, if it can help you prepare something they love very much, you can surprise them, and if you did it and it was not just bought, it will be even sweeter. Look for the child more and want to go out on the playgrounds, nothing that doesn't play with the other children, play with him whatever he wants, make him laugh, and so over time things can at least get better with him :)