Hello! I have had a very exhausting toxic relationship for the last 3 years. Emotionally harmful. I decided to separate a few months ago. So far so good. Yesterday I found out that he has a new relationship ... And even worse, that he had it while we were together. I can't describe to you the pain I feel. I don't know how to continue my life, everything I fought for, that is my freedom, because I didn't have it while we were together, at the moment it seems not so important. It hurts, I want to go back, the memories we have burn me from the inside, I don't know what to do. In the middle of the new year I sit at home and roar. If you can help me in any way, I will be very grateful. I want to scream in pain, it's very hard for me.
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You can! Give time. Happy New Year! Ž
Hi, I've been through your feelings many times right now. I haven't actually had a non-toxic relationship. From personal experience, I can tell you that it is far better in the beginning if you really want to scream, to writhe in pain, than to go back to a person who does not appreciate you and destroys your self-esteem. That's where this emotional dependence comes from - it has shattered your self-esteem and you think you can't do without it. He almost instilled in you that someone else would not like you, etc. If you stand the test of time, believe me, it's easier. Even if you don't stop loving this person, you still realize that it's better not to be with him. Find things to distract you - friends, new hobbies, whatever. Just don't go back to emotional oppressors.
You can! Your pain comes from selfishness, only pain will cure you of it. Rejoice.
And I was like that for the first 3-4 months, but from then on the pain and sadness subside a little less and it's the same with you, it's just that in the beginning the heart really bleeds, but it passes ...
"I decided to separate a few months ago" .. why separate, if you had given yourself time and not separation .. but if your friend had another while he was with you, do not grieve for him, but watch your life , consider it infidelity.
As long as you say "I can't" - you can't. Say "I can" and you can.
You have rightly decided to break up once the relationship is toxic to you. Now you have to learn the lessons, remember them, and move on. The transition between the years is conditional - just days of rest and variety. Euphoria can be caused in any day of life, not only during the established holidays.
Since he had a parallel relationship while you were together, then he hardly had feelings for you. You cannot force a person to like and love you. By that logic, there is no point in grieving over a broken relationship, it had no future anyway. Even if she hadn't put an end to you, at some point he would have done it - in this case you did the right thing without even knowing that he was cheating on you and you came out "pure" so to speak from this relationship. Not enough time has passed yet, it is normal for you to be tormented by memories, this cannot be changed with the click of a finger, it takes time. But accept what happened as the right development of things, no matter how unpleasant and painful. Just accept it, that's it. Try to think that this is how it should have happened, that it is destiny and that it is for the good.
Wait half a year and then you'll be horrified if I've been with this one. So I was with my ex great love but only on my part he wanted to part What a roar it was and the dude was with me just for fun, but even now I wonder in my mind how I got attached to this
Most of us have experienced this. You roar, you push, you walk like a patient and nothing matters and you know ... Then everything passes. It seems to you forever. But there is an end. Time, time and time again. Your ego is hurt, not to think that this one will be happier with it. I realized. A successful new Year!
New year, new luck, new man.
You will cry and suffer, it is normal once you have loved. I myself am in a similar situation. It is very important not to be misled by the good memories and to forget the bad ones. If you come together again, everything will happen again. I'm telling you like a man passed on
Number 1 is very right, in time everything will pass. I experienced the same thing 3 years ago and after 10 years. connection. In the end, I realized that it wasn't just me for the last few months. Then we broke up and believe me from the beginning I must have felt worse than you. For 2-3 months I lost 20 kg, it was unnecessary for me :) But then everything faded away and I started a new life. If you find someone, it will be easier than experiencing it on your own. Good luck and don't despair and get depressed. Life makes these numbers and we have been through a lot.
Darling, you got rid of a man who doesn't deserve you! He didn't appreciate you, and he was in parallel with another at the same time! Why would you go back to this guy? !! Why would you go back to a person who has not appreciated you? Why would you cause it to yourself? If you look at your relationship from the side, would you like it and wish it on someone? You know what you went through and what problems you had, but would you go back to this hell? I know what it's like to be tormented by memories, and to wonder what it could be. But the cruel truth is that if you didn't like your relationship, there was a reason. There are people who can overcome their problems and be together, and there are those who just struggle and get hurt. Fate, I do not know. It's just that some people are not for each other, or can't manage to build something, either out of reluctance and pride. Everyone, even naughty people, teaches you something and even makes you stronger. It's time to forget, but don't despair! Go out with friends, dress nicely, do your hair. Just change something in your look, buy some clothes. Pamper yourself, go to the movies, for example, or there are a lot of vouchers for massages and beauty treatments. Do all the things you didn't have time for before, or he didn't approve of. You must have a hobby, indulge in it. Listen to music, watch some comedies, read a good book. Enroll in a course, such as dance, and there you will meet a lot of new people. Just do whatever makes you happy. Leave the bad boyfriend where he belongs - in the past. You will come across a man who will not make you feel that way, and things will just work out with him. You deserve the best, and this is not your ex! Go out with friends, dress nicely, do your hair. Just change something in your look, buy some clothes. Pamper yourself, go to the movies, for example, or there are a lot of vouchers for massages and beauty treatments. Do all the things you didn't have time for before, or he didn't approve of. You must have a hobby, indulge in it. Listen to music, watch some comedies, read a good book. Enroll in a course, such as dance, and there you will meet a lot of new people. Just do whatever makes you happy. Leave the bad boyfriend where he belongs - in the past. You will come across a man who will not make you feel that way, and things will just work out with him. You deserve the best, and this is not your ex! Go out with friends, dress nicely, do your hair. Just change something in your look, buy some clothes. Pamper yourself, go to the movies, for example, or there are a lot of vouchers for massages and beauty treatments. Do all the things you didn't have time for before, or he didn't approve of. You must have a hobby, indulge in it. Listen to music, watch some comedies, read a good book. Enroll in a course, such as dance, and there you will meet a lot of new people. Just do whatever makes you happy. Leave the bad boyfriend where he belongs - in the past. You will come across a man who will not make you feel that way, and things will just work out with him. You deserve the best, and this is not your ex! go to the movies, for example, or there are a lot of vouchers for massages and beauty treatments. Do all the things you didn't have time for before, or he didn't approve of. You must have a hobby, indulge in it. Listen to music, watch some comedies, read a good book. Enroll in a course, such as dance, and there you will meet a lot of new people. Just do whatever makes you happy. Leave the bad boyfriend where he belongs - in the past. You will come across a man who will not make you feel that way, and things will just work out with him. You deserve the best, and this is not your ex! go to the movies, for example, or there are a lot of vouchers for massages and beauty treatments. Do all the things you didn't have time for before, or he didn't approve of. You must have a hobby, indulge in it. Listen to music, watch some comedies, read a good book. Enroll in a course, such as dance, and there you will meet a lot of new people. Just do whatever makes you happy. Leave the bad boyfriend where he belongs - in the past. You will come across a man who will not make you feel that way, and things will just work out with him. You deserve the best, and this is not your ex! for example in dancing, and there you will meet a lot of new people. Just do whatever makes you happy. Leave the bad boyfriend where he belongs - in the past. You will come across a man who will not make you feel that way, and things will just work out with him. You deserve the best, and this is not your ex! for example in dancing, and there you will meet a lot of new people. Just do whatever makes you happy. Leave the bad boyfriend where he belongs - in the past. You will come across a man who will not make you feel that way, and things will just work out with him. You deserve the best, and this is not your ex!
I wish this author happy holidays, and may he be alive and well!
Betrayal always hurts. I feel that it hurts you more not because of the separation, but because you realized that there was another. There is hardly a person to whom it has not happened. But know. there is always worse than what happens to you. You know what it's like to find out about infidelity when you're already a family, you have children. When I found out, I had an 11-year-old son and a few-month-old baby. It's awful to fight the pain, and at the same time think about your children first. There is a lot of advice here that children grow up, that their parents will always be their parents, and that's it. I don't think so - children always suffer from the separation of their parents. And that one always swallows many things in their name. You see, there is much worse. My advice is - don't shut yourself in, share with friends - make it easier ... make new contacts, have fun. You will see,
Thank you for the advice, I was really relieved a little ... I'm still naughty, but at least I can breathe a little calmer now .. Thank you
Hello! Like you, I am still recovering from a toxic relationship that ended more than 5 months ago, but I have not experienced it yet. Some days I feel better, other times the memories come to me with full force and I feel crushed ... My ex-boyfriend, like yours, has a new relationship, which totally crushed me. I feel like we broke up yesterday and I can't even think about another man for a second. It hurts .... It hurts a lot !!! I hope you have already met someone who has filled the void in your heart. I'm still looking for him, but I'm a hopeless romantic and I believe that the prince is somewhere out there looking for me :))
Hello from me, and I am struggling with feelings for a woman who rejected me, for almost 1 year now, I still have feelings and it is very hard for me, I hope it will pass, because it is terrible. And I, as number 19, a dumb romantic who only suffers from showing his feelings!