Hello, My story will probably seem very banal to you. Typical of a stupid girl who just doesn't know what she wants and runs after those who don't care about her. More than a month ago, I broke up with my boyfriend. The reason was that we had to be in different cities, we would see each other often, but still maintaining such a relationship is difficult, but then we both believed that we would succeed, even he more than me, I was not so excited. In the beginning, after he left, we wrote to each other often. We had gone a month before. Over time, carried away by student life, he wrote to me less and less, still had no time for me, was busy, and kept saying that he used every spare minute for me. I felt very neglected was always at parties, with friends, work, study, etc. Finally after finally saying he would come back in a few days he told me that then we would not be able to see each other, he had a lot of work, he explained in detail why. I understood it in part, but I felt so hurt that it didn't take me an hour, and I immediately decided we needed to break up. At first he begged me not to do it, but the fact that he took all the reasons that made me break up with him hurt me even more. The fact that he knew that he was being cold to me, that he didn't pay attention to me, that he wasn't interested in my problems made me very angry. Why didn't he do anything when he felt so bad? . Then he said that he did not allow himself to be close at all during the relationship, that I had no right to hold him accountable, but I did not believe in that at all. He shared with me his most personal and deep problems with his family and his life and I understood it because I suffered from exactly the same things. We had common interests and dreams and we like a lot of the same things. We had met long before we left. He had shown that he had sympathy for me a long time ago, he had told me what he wanted in a relationship, and he was ready to wait for me because I didn't feel safe and I was afraid that someone would hurt me.
Many times we stopped writing to each other and then we started again and did not give up. It was my first serious relationship that lasted more than 2 months. We know it's short, but it left a big mark on me. Probably not for him. When we broke up, he told me that he was obviously not ready for a serious relationship and realized it over time. At first he told me the exact opposite. He introduced me to his close friends so quickly and tried so hard. When we saw each other almost every day, things went well, but after he left, he moved away a lot. After we broke up, neither I nor he wrote to me.
But I really want to write to him, but I know that this is a great humiliation. My mind tells me that we have no future, that he hardly cares about me at all, that he hasn't thought of me at all. I even saw that he had a new boyfriend very soon after we broke up and I felt awful, earthy. I think about him almost constantly every day. I am overwhelmed with work and tasks, but my thoughts still creep in. I started dating another boy, but even when I'm with him I think about my ex. My friends support me and say that time heals and one relationship is replaced by another, but I definitely don't believe that. It does not work. A closed person and I need to trust someone so much. He made an effort and I really thought he was holding on to me, but in the end he broke my heart. I feel terrible and I don't know how to move forward. I want to share my feelings with him, but I know he won't understand. I thought to delete all contacts with him skype, facebook so as not to remind me of him and his new one, but even if I do, the memory will remain. I'm already starting to remember our good moments and miss the bad ones. I pretend they didn't happen. This makes me seem to suffer even more and feel even more pain. I know a lot of people have been through this and I want you to tell me how you overcame it. This makes me seem to suffer even more and feel even more pain. I know a lot of people have been through this and I want you to tell me how you overcame it. This makes me seem to suffer even more and feel even more pain. I know a lot of people have been through this and I want you to tell me how you overcame it.
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Honey, don't suffocate. What happened, happened. Apparently it had to happen. First, you have nothing to be angry about, because apparently this boy did not deserve you and did not put enough effort into your relationship. If he cared about you, he would ask you for a second chance, to say that he would change, and on top of that, he has already got a new one ... You have been going for 2 months - not 2 years. You have to write him off from your life completely, because he obviously did that to you!
I'm the same as you, only I'm 26 now. and happily married. I went through similar twists and turns, but now I understand that then I only imagined that I cared about these people until I met my husband. Go ahead, necessarily in such a situation the woman needs to start something that will take her attention for at least a week, then you will not think about it at all. You have girlfriends, I don't have any, but go ahead - invent something with them, be with them, be a masochist - force yourself to think about something else, be strong, it will pass!
Honestly? "Not at all." I'm not saying I still love him now, no, now I have neither bad nor good feelings for this person. The separation was as painful as an open wound. After that, he and I had a relationship, a relationship for 2-3 weeks, these connections did not work out. I think take your time and I, like you, told myself that if I see someone I will forget the old one. On the contrary, it became an even bigger mess - and the new one disappointed me and the old one continued and I got even worse. I recovered for the period of 6 months, I mean absolutely every night - roar, nightmares, bad grades, alcohol, cigarettes. There is no getting out, you just have to give yourself time. Then a boy showed up, we liked each other, we left and spent a year and 5 months (the former was a year old) and now that I realized I wasn't happy with the current one I just broke up with him with good feelings and to tell you not only that I was relieved ,, but I also realized how much I have grown and how this time there is no pain, only nostalgia for our good moments. So take your time and remember that the saying "every end is a new beginning" is not another nonsense! Good luck and don't go into so much sadness, it's temporary.
There is only one answer - difficult. I poured around the clock, and I was only 19. I deleted all contacts with him, forbade everyone to mention him to me, and his name became taboo. I forbade myself to think about him. And our relationship was two years, not two months. Pubs, a lot of new relationships, a lot of alcohol, dancing and music until dawn, and only he is in my head. His best friend came to advise me that I would get drunk. Finally, two months later, he showed up with a bouquet of red roses and invited me to the movies on the eve of my birthday. It was early afternoon, with trembling arms, legs, and a dizzy head, and I told him to come and pick me up in the evening. I don't remember how my afternoon went, but when evening came I thanked him and sent him away. Don't ask me how much I roared afterwards. But that was the end. Now 10 years later, he married a girl 15 years his junior, he doesn't want to be my friend on fb when i call him, his voice trembles and he textes me for every holiday. To be fair, I experienced it a long time ago. So - difficult, but possible. And it passes, but it takes time. He deceived you, he will pay someday. The important thing is to keep yourself and continue to believe in love. "When the Lord closes doors, opens gates" :) Good luck, darling.
4, you may be "okay", but in reality you are absolutely nothing.
6, thanks, and I love you :)
And I want to learn the recipe. For two years now, I haven't stopped feeling angry when I think of him. I wish him bad things, I want him, his wife and their child to suffer. I can't stand it. I have the feeling that someone took my moment, my dream, my wedding day, the family we were going to create. I want to deal with it, not to be so bad, to purify myself. This man hurt me a lot. In fact, I might be at peace with myself if he found out if he ever loved me. Does he treat her the same way he treated me? Does he feel guilty for hurting me? Does he even think about me sometimes?