I give in essence. I've been in hell for a few days now and I'm constantly thinking about what the person I'm in love with said. We've been together recently, everything was honey and butter, even I was surprised that things went so well for us. In principle, I had a different attitude about things between us, but I was pleasantly surprised when we started to get to know each other. In honor of the truth, I ignored the principle of not dating a younger boy. Not that I'm an old woman, we're both 20+ years old, I just don't have common interests, understandings, etc. with peers my age. It's different with him. And it was great until we had a conversation in which he told me that he wanted my body to change. To become perfect // those were his words //. To change the color of my hair, my lifestyle, to start training. And that if I don't, then don't get mad when he's gone. The truth is, I'm not fat. I've never been. I support myself. According to the height I have, I have normal weight // even a little below the norm //.
I have never lacked male attention, on the contrary. A lot of people have even asked me if I train because I have nice, typical female forms. And my ideal for a woman is basically with a juicy ass, breasts. I don't like women with press, nor women who are too thin. I was very hurt when he told me. It hurt because he said it like that ... he doesn't know that I have a health problem and I don't have to work out, nor does he know that I have an eating disorder that I'm trying to cure. He doesn't know because he didn't ask me, he wasn't interested, but he is quick to impose his understandings. The bad thing is that I've always been more anxious, shy and shy as a person. I just relaxed with him, I speak from an intimate point of view. And now I have locked in the shell of shyness again. I don't know how I'm going to undress in front of him anymore. His words stuck in me like needles. I will not be able to relax. I've been cool to him for days, I try to refuse sex when he wants. He asked me what was going on, why I was behaving like that. I told him that I was not the man for him, that he was wasting his time with me because I did not meet his standards. He denies that if he didn't like me, he wouldn't look for me, he wanted me, he was interested. The truth is that he doesn't stop looking for me, but what he said, willingly or unwillingly, touched my sore spot.
Because of the eating disorder, I suffer from is a consequence of 2 of my human losses. And during that time, it hurts me to get caught because ... because there are more important things for me. What is your advice? Should I talk to him again? And now I have locked in the shell of shyness again. I don't know how I'm going to undress in front of him anymore. His words stuck in me like needles. I will not be able to relax. I've been cool to him for days, I try to refuse sex when he wants. He asked me what was going on, why I was behaving like that. I told him that I was not the man for him, that he was wasting his time with me because I did not meet his standards. He denies that if he didn't like me, he wouldn't look for me, he wanted me, he was interested.
The truth is that he doesn't stop looking for me, but what he said, willingly or unwillingly, touched my sore spot. Because of the eating disorder I suffer from is a consequence of 2 of my human losses. And during that time, it hurts me to get caught because ... because there are more important things for me. What is your advice? Should I talk to him again? And now I have locked in the shell of shyness again. I don't know how I'm going to undress in front of him anymore. His words stuck in me like needles. I will not be able to relax. I've been cool to him for days, I try to refuse sex when he wants. He asked me what was going on, why I was behaving like that. I told him that I was not the man for him, that he was wasting his time with me because I did not meet his standards. He denies that if he didn't like me, he wouldn't look for me, he wanted me, he was interested. The truth is that he doesn't stop looking for me, but what he said, willingly or unwillingly, touched my sore spot. Because the eating disorder I suffer from is a consequence of 2 of my human losses. And during that time, it hurts me to get caught because ... because there are more important things for me. What is your advice? Should I talk to him again? His words stuck in me like needles. I will not be able to relax. I've been cool to him for days, I try to refuse sex when he wants. He asked me what was going on, why I was behaving like that. I told him that I was not the man for him, that he was wasting his time with me because I did not meet his standards. He denies that if he didn't like me, he wouldn't look for me, he wanted me, he was interested. The truth is that he doesn't stop looking for me, but what he said, willingly or unwillingly, touched my sore spot.
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Don't listen to him, but to yourself. Be the way you like yourself. Don't change for someone who doesn't like you. The most important thing is to feel good in your body!
Your intuition is the right decision. Only she works for you uselessly and around the clock. Listen to her. My opinion is not your man!
You react quite childishly ... doesn't everyone want to be perfect? And the fact that you get male attention anyway doesn't mean anything ... I'm sorry, but at least you won't get understanding from me. And I think he told you in plain text - if he didn't like you, he wouldn't be with you at all.
Do you have plums in your mouth to tell him right away that you have a health problem as you mention, and you are silent ?? !!!
And you tell him you want to have a perfect body - like Mr. Universe. And if he doesn't get such a body, don't be surprised if you leave him. And just get this guy out of here.
So he doesn't love you the way you are. And you are normally weak, according to the calculations you say
Don't bother having sex with him at all, because that will make things worse. With such a person you have no future and happiness. He acted extremely badly and I say it as a man. Even as a man, I cannot be in solidarity with him.
It's not worth bothering with this juvenile. When you get tired of him, he will beat your jester immediately
Learn to love and respect yourself more. Don't let someone with complexes tell you what to do with your own body. Men have thousands of ways to manipulate women. And this one does. Women with low self-esteem do not have high requirements and please more men who have shown nobility to ask for them - that's what the complexes think. No one respects women who do not have their own opinion and do not love each other. I think you are small and do not have enough experience. You will learn over time how to put yourself first and weed out the naughty men. This is very naughty. Find someone who will respect and adore you!
My advice is not to deal with it. For the lover, his lover is perfect ... at least in the beginning. And you can see for yourself that he is not interested in your essence, but talks about your physique. Don't you think you deserve someone who will accept you and love you just the way you are? F28
A complexionist who thinks he has made a big compromise, that he is with you and you owe him for it. You hardly want to have a relationship with such a person.
Well, it's normal that you can't, no normal woman could. I personally do not understand such inconsiderate complexes as your friend. He doesn't like you the way you did, but he wants to change you. Well, why not look for a girl according to the criteria, and not want to change one. I'll just tell you one thing - be yourself, and dress, hold and look the way you like and the way you feel good in your own skin. You don't have to, and there's no point in indulging in other people's criteria. Find someone who likes you the way you are, and remove him.
no, don't talk to him.
People who want to change you are NOT for you at all! If I were you, I won't stop having sex, I'll just break up with him without giving him a lot of explanations, jerk! Once he has a certain standard for a woman, what does he do with a man who does NOT meet his requirements? Don't you want to change your hair, your body and your voice? Have self-esteem and get rid of this one. Even your illnesses are NOT worth knowing about. People say what they want without caring if they hurt anyone. Don't crush your self-confidence today, tell him to stop and look for one in those descriptions ... Safe from players. - Disobedient
In order to have objectivity in the comments, would you share your measures and what do you think "typical female forms", "juicy ass, breasts" mean? There are quite different views on these things ...
Fuck you idiot! Get away from him, he doesn't deserve you. Real girls like you are rare now. As a man, I tell you that there is nothing better than a normal girl who does not strive to change just to please others. Get away from this geek. Head up, don't be affected by words like these.
I see that no one thinks about the comments you wrote. Here is another point of view. The author is obviously a beautiful girl, she obviously has a character that the boy likes very much. It is clear that the boy is with her because of who she is, but apparently he is an esthete and sees that with a little training and some other hairstyle, the author will become an even more attractive woman. Regarding excuses with problems to avoid training, etc .... sorry, but I can't accept them because there are people without arms or legs and after they have shown a desire to train they achieve amazing things. So for me, that's just an excuse. I don't think the boy asked for anything, who knows what. On the contrary, I even think that when you start training: you will feel better first; second, he will love you even more; and third, you will be happier together. And a piece of advice from me ... talk to your friend about everything !!! He can't read minds. If he hurt you with something and you don't tell him, he won't know. It's as if he has a problem and doesn't tell you. How will you feel? Won't you want to know so you can share his pain and possibly help him if you can? He loves you, be sure of that. Talk to him and you will solve the problems!
What is this goat that wants change ... Beat his jester, there are others. I think he's looking to use you for sex. Regarding the health problem set above the head does not think so you are not the only one.
The augur suffers from typical petty complexes. Why should the boy explain to her that if he doesn't like her, he won't look for her anymore, is that a little? It is also interesting that they are increasingly complex and give advice not to talk to the boy. Apparently the complexes smell and support each other. It seems that the world has turned upside down, over 20 years old, and children and men think childishly. In the past, at this age, young people had serious families, now you are dealing with childhood!
Don't deal with this bastard. He is obviously the type of person who wants to control everything and everyone. Such people do not change and if you stay with him, life will make your life hell. Watch the movie "Sleeping with the Enemy" with Julia Roberts and you will understand what awaits you with this man.
Well, from a man's point of view, I'd say he's at least straight. This would save a lot of time of delusions for you. A man can be injured in the same way. So be straight, that's one thing. And the other is to ask yourself the question, why are you with him, how do you feel, etc. Because there are no random things - "whatever called, such called" generally speaking. I wouldn't judge him, at least he admits to being different from many other men, which doesn't mean he makes him better for you. A man finds it difficult to oppose these strong instincts, much depends on his other spheres in life in general and it is difficult for someone to give him a direct "life" lesson, rather his life / destiny will do it at some point. Like a man, a woman needs passion, but let's say that with you the passion is on another level or in a wider range. Neither can you force him to grow up, nor can you limit yourself to his mania and imagination, try to please him to be beautiful and attractive at any cost (whether you have additional problems or not) So, this, what you can do is talk to him and express your feelings and position to the max, but before that, you need to be very aware of why you are with him. Because if you can change something, it's something in yourself. If he changes and grows, insight / feeling and action will happen only at his will. what you can do is talk to him and express your feelings and position to the max, but before that, you need to be very aware of why you are with him. Because if you can change something, it's something in yourself. If he changes and grows, insight / feeling and action will happen only at his will. what you can do is talk to him and express your feelings and position to the max, but before that, you need to be very aware of why you are with him. Because if you can change something, it's something in yourself. If he changes and grows, insight / feeling and action will happen only at his will.
So you're not afraid to have sex with someone, but you're afraid to tell them important things about your relationship? My rhetorical question contains the answers to your questions.
What is this connection if you haven't told him about your problems so far !! tell him, and be honest with him about the fact that many of his words hurt you because you are very sensitive, but you forgive him because he did not know and because he is not indifferent to you. Now I want to ask you something .... well, take such a paint from the temporary ones and paint the color you like, make a gesture to him, let him be happy, how much he is !! be different and sexy and you will see the difference
Who knows what kind of fetishist he is: YES is he perfect? !? Also, stop shutting yourself in - it's downright self-aggression. Speak openly and boldly about your desires, overcome your health problems and be who you want to be! Say what you don't like and defend your position wisely, because your body is yours, not his. I also like women who exercise and look perfect - tiles, tight ass, back arms, etc .... However, come see my girlfriend - a slightly fluffy cutie, who, however, shares my interest in sports and proper nutrition, but what to make her gene is such that she has to go to extremes to look perfect ... The important thing is that she has a healthy spirit and the right vision (in my opinion) for a healthy life ... We talk openly with her about the shortcomings of the other in his body, because we both have them and together we work to become better, both in appearance and as people :) :) Love yourself enough and you will find a person who loves you in the right way and is your support! (Male 29 years old)