I am a boy of 15 and have been thinking about my sexual orientation for some time. I haven't had sex yet, but these things excite me (maybe it's normal). I've never considered myself gay, but I'm only aroused by boys. On the other hand, I want to have a family with children, and my parents also want grandchildren. The problem is that I get aroused and only boys excite me. I see how every day at school, and maybe everywhere, my classmates and people in general are constantly talking about girls, about relationships and sex with them, and I can't be so interested and aroused by a girl. On the contrary, I'm only interested in boys. In Bulgaria, homosexuals are not well looked after (at least by most people) and this makes me feel a kind of rejected, different from society, if I am at all. This is not a problem for me, because I don't see anything wrong with being gay and having an affair with a person of your gender, but it's not good for anyone to be rejected. I live in a family where homosexuals are seen as sick, a kind of abnormal people. If I'm gay, it might mean breaking up with my family, and that would be a complete horror. And as I wrote above, I want to have a family and children. Children are the most wonderful thing that gives a boost to life, but I don't know how that can happen if I'm gay. Besides, it is best for these children to grow up in a normal family with grandparents. Whether all this is not just a complicated stage of puberty I can not say. I am asking the editors to publish this because I have been super confused lately and I do not know what my future will be and how I will live my life. Thanks in advance to them and to the people who will help me!
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Don't think much of it, because you're going crazy. Well, heterosexual, if he starts thinking and thinking about them like you, he'll be bothered a lot. I think you're gay, but you still haven't had sex. For children, as work goes, soon we will have gay weddings and there will be adoptions. You can catch the wide world. Your life will be in order, calm down.
Don't worry, you're still 15 and it's normal to feel a lot of different things. Even if you are gay, if your parents love you because of yourself, they will learn to accept you as well. And if they do not learn, then you are not obliged to change what you are, for their peace of mind. If you are gay, you can still have children and a family, it just won't be with a woman. And as for how society accepts people who are different, I can tell you that there will always be something about you that someone doesn't like. You can't please everyone and you shouldn't try. Follow your heart and do not be ashamed of what you are. You currently owe (somewhat) an explanation to your parents, but there will come a time when you will be old enough not to have to explain your actions to anyone. Otherwise, you can fail to be with both a man and a woman, to find out where things are going or to let time show. I wish you success and don't think so much, but get to know yourself and find out who you are and what you are :)
You have a problem with the hormonal profile, your estrogen is more than testosterone. This leads to unnatural and strange inclinations. That is, it is hormonal. There are many reasons for this disturbed balance, one of the main ones is the way of eating. Look for information on foods that boost testosterone and are anti-estrogenic. If you are taking medications that interfere with testosterone production, they are probably the cause. There was a case in which a man had been taking finasteride for a long time, it blocked dehydrotestosterone, which is a potent metabolite of testosterone, so that he would not go bald. As a result, his hormonal profile is screwed up, he begins to feel attracted to men, divorces his wife of 10 years, undergoes gender reassignment surgery and becomes a "doll". Yes these things are real, nowadays there are many factors that suppress testosterone and increase estrogen hence many diseases, personality changes, female men, etc. The most general recommendation for a man's diet is that he should consume foods rich in cholesterol - meat and eggs and those that block estrogen - vegetables and fruits. Cholesterol is the raw material from which the body makes its own hormones and especially testosterone. Various vegetarian diets and eating bad foods lead to hormonal imbalances. The environment is polluted and full of xeno-estrogens, etc. not to delve. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/23/mandi-mckee-william-propecia-baldness-drug-woman_n_1695706.html that he should consume foods rich in cholesterol - meat and eggs and those that block estrogen - vegetables and fruits. Cholesterol is the raw material from which the body makes its own hormones and especially testosterone. Various vegetarian diets and eating bad foods lead to hormonal imbalances. The environment is polluted and full of xeno-estrogens, etc. not to delve. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/23/mandi-mckee-william-propecia-baldness-drug-woman_n_1695706.html that he should consume foods rich in cholesterol - meat and eggs and those that block estrogen - vegetables and fruits. Cholesterol is the raw material from which the body makes its own hormones and especially testosterone. Various vegetarian diets and eating bad foods lead to hormonal imbalances. The environment is polluted and full of xeno-estrogens, etc. not to delve. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/23/mandi-mckee-william-propecia-baldness-drug-woman_n_1695706.html
You have escaped, brother ... Admit it and start moving in the appropriate circles. They are not bad by the way - they are very supportive, etc. I have a friend like that. I'm not judging you, but it seems 100% unnatural to me. At least in terms of reproduction, family, children.
Hello! Of course, I can't be sure, but considering what's written, you're probably gay. The fact that you want to have a family and children does not change your sexual orientation in any way. Now you have to think about whether you want a family with a man or a woman. Even with a woman, this may be due to the fact that a family consisting of a man and a woman is the norm accepted by our society. If it's just a phase, you just have to wait for it to pass. If you are really gay, this should not bother you in any way. You wrote that you don't see anything wrong with what is great :). I don't know how to help you with the feeling of rejection, I can only tell you that the people in Bulgaria (and around the world) are much more broad-minded than you think. I have a gay friend who revealed himself to a few people in the last year and everyone supported him or said, that they don't care. This is how it should be. Nobody cares about who you decide to start a family with. Keep in mind that you are still too young to think about children. Focus on yourself, get to know yourself and be aware of what your desires are! This is the most important piece of advice I can give you. Just to reassure you - you can still have children. You can adopt or consider in vitro fertilization, for which you will have to find a surrogate mother. But I am not aware of these things either. I have thought about it, but I am not an expert in this field. About your parents: I don't know what advice to give you. I don't know them and I have no idea how they will react if they find out, but in most cases, at first they are a little startled and confused, but then they adapt and support their children. Girl, 20 years old. Nobody cares about who you decide to start a family with. Keep in mind that you are still too young to think about children. Focus on yourself, get to know yourself and be aware of what your desires are! This is the most important piece of advice I can give you. Just to reassure you - you can still have children. You can adopt or consider in vitro fertilization, for which you will have to find a surrogate mother. But I am not aware of these things either. I have thought about it, but I am not an expert in this field. About your parents: I don't know what advice to give you. I don't know them and I have no idea how they will react if they find out, but in most cases, at first they are a little startled and confused, but then they adapt and support their children. Girl, 20 years old. Nobody cares about who you decide to start a family with. Keep in mind that you are still too young to think about children. Focus on yourself, get to know yourself and be aware of what your desires are! This is the most important piece of advice I can give you. Just to reassure you - you can still have children. You can adopt or consider in vitro fertilization, for which you will have to find a surrogate mother. But I am not aware of these things either. I have thought about it, but I am not an expert in this field. About your parents: I don't know what advice to give you. I don't know them and I have no idea how they will react if they find out, but in most cases, at first they are a little startled and confused, but then they adapt and support their children. Girl, 20 years old. Focus on yourself, get to know yourself and be aware of what your desires are! This is the most important piece of advice I can give you. Just to reassure you - you can still have children. You can adopt or consider in vitro fertilization, for which you will have to find a surrogate mother. But I am not aware of these things either. I have thought about it, but I am not an expert in this field. About your parents: I don't know what advice to give you. I don't know them and I have no idea how they will react if they find out, but in most cases, at first they are a little startled and confused, but then they adapt and support their children. Girl, 20 years old. Focus on yourself, get to know yourself and be aware of what your desires are! This is the most important piece of advice I can give you. Just to reassure you - you can still have children. You can adopt or consider in vitro fertilization, for which you will have to find a surrogate mother. But I am not aware of these things either. I have thought about it, but I am not an expert in this field. About your parents: I don't know what advice to give you. I don't know them and I have no idea how they will react if they find out, but in most cases, at first they are a little startled and confused, but then they adapt and support their children. Girl, 20 years old. for which, however, you will have to find a surrogate mother. But I am not aware of these things either. I have thought about it, but I am not an expert in this field. About your parents: I don't know what advice to give you. I don't know them and I have no idea how they will react if they find out, but in most cases, at first they are a little startled and confused, but then they adapt and support their children. Girl, 20 years old. for which, however, you will have to find a surrogate mother. But I am not aware of these things either. I have thought about it, but I am not an expert in this field. About your parents: I don't know what advice to give you. I don't know them and I have no idea how they will react if they find out, but in most cases, at first they are a little startled and confused, but then they adapt and support their children. Girl, 20 years old.
So, you're obviously gay, you have nothing to think about. Many gays have children, they even have marriages in public, but personally I don't think it's an offer. You have 2 options: accept yourself as you are, or transpersonal psychotherapy
I know so many homosexual boys and girls only in my city, not to mention the country. In my opinion, you should not tighten up so much, but be what your heart tells you to be. And you can be both.
Realize and start watching porn with women. And if an aunt or poop can poison you, it will be best to taste the sweetness of the naked female body. Now there are prostitutes. For 40-50 BGN it will show you what to do. It is desirable to overcome this stupidity, otherwise you will really become such a lower left pedal! Go to a psychologist, a woman, not a man.