We were together for a long time. My parents didn't approve, but we kept going. I think because my parents didn't approve of her, she cheated on me twice. And I forgave again and continued. Just the thought of not being with her drove me crazy. The last time we had a bad fight and I left her for about a week but then I wanted to come back again. But after this case, she found someone else to talk to, write to, etc. and said emphatically that she did not want to return. When I agreed, something happened and he wanted us to get along again. And so we continued for several months. Then we quarreled again and agreed to separate for a week and talk again. This week I met another one with whom everything is normal. And I want to continue with her. But when my ex found out about her, I went crazy. She cries every day he begs me to be together again every day and he will never do anything again. I see her in a really terrible condition and I'm very sorry. I want it to be good. But I don't want to go back. But I really feel terrible knowing what I'm doing to her. I have thoughts of coming back so she can be better. A kind of sacrifice for her good. I am in a difficult situation. Every day I think about how and what to do
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I don't believe she really realized. Twice she has disappointed you, she is more likely to triple and then be systematic. Don't do it to yourself. Yes, it will be difficult for you, but it is for your good (and for her, because that way she has a chance to realize that she must be faithful to her partner). Explain to her why you made this decision (that you are disappointed in her, that you will no longer tolerate making fun of you), and then block her. Everywhere. This will make it easier to forget. I think it's good to take a break, not to start a new relationship right away. A time to realize what you have been through and how far you have come. A time to put in the effort to improve yourself, not to prove it to someone else. Success!
"But I really feel awful knowing what I'm doing to her" - you're not to blame for how she chose to feel. In no case do not give up, she manipulates you, roaring. It will pass. Let him learn his lesson.
You are not in a difficult situation at all, it just seems that way. Break up with her and don't think about it at all. You were wrong from the beginning that you didn't make it clear to her that you broke up and didn't want to be with her. You gave her false hope, which hurts a lot. After all, you've had a week to think things through, not to run after new people, right? It is unlikely that the woman in question appeared suddenly;) You lied to your girlfriend, and this is very mean. Now the only way to get out of the situation is to apologize to her, to behave really well with her and humanely explain to her that things are not going well (not on Skype or Facebook, but in person), to tell her how you feel and to be honest with her. To understand another in this way was simply not right. See her and explain how things are and make it very clear so she doesn't have any illusions, that someday you will be together again. And she deserves to find someone who really loves and cares for her.
You have no reason to feel guilty. The lady has realized that she can no longer hang around and mess with your feelings, seeing that you want to be with someone else, and the option to lose you is really 100%. Dramas and roars begin, but they are more out of wounded pride and self-confidence, and there is no one to run after it. In no case do not give up. Cut nicely, but directly and do not try to fix the situation, because you are not helping either of you. If you don't want to be with her - don't bother. If she sees that you are still tied in her towel, she will continue in the same way until you decide again that you want to separate. The end is clear, there is no need to drag on indefinitely. He's just manipulating you.
Leave the league and don't care! She was crying. And while she was fucking others, did she roar with grief that she was cheating and hurting? Be a man and cut!
Obviously there is a reason for your disapproval, she is cheating on you and they felt that she is not a commodity. In principle, I am FOR you to fight against your parents for love, but only when it is real. She felt that you would no longer walk behind her ass to pray for her to come together, and now she begs you not to break. Now, knowing that you are not in the mind and she is not the "unique" irritates her and can not afford it, because he will lose his "army" of fans (or at least reduce).
And what if he cries. He just manipulates you, and if you are pitiful, ruin your life, it's yours.
These are another female stupidity - when you're warm she pulls, you fight, there are problems. When you're cold - she wants to be with you, shaking with regrets and roaring. The truth is that such behavior is not dictated by reason but by chaotic instincts, momentary emotions and "female intuition", which in a more perfect way lead women into dramas, tragedies, missed opportunities and finally regrets. They simply should not build relationships, make choices and take responsibility for their behavior in general, and this freedom and right to choose comes to them more and they do not know what to do and get entangled like a duck in tow.
Your self-sacrifice will not lead to anything good, but will only prolong the agony. The most "painless" separation is like removing a band-aid. You pull sharply. It hurts, but it goes away faster. Be honest with your ex and cut off contact with her, at least for now. Let him survive the separation. You can't help her with that. The fact that she is crying actually helps her to relieve herself faster. There is no option in which she does not suffer at all. You just have to be consistent in your actions once you have made a final decision. G30
Do not succumb to these female manipulations! If you return to it you will make a mistake and you will realize it at a late stage! Women are like that ... she will want to get hers to come back to you and then she will be the same again and she will cheat ....! Get out of this relationship with dignity and don't look back!
Don't be tied to women's tears, because they are like crocodile tears! You will cry, but she will not care. Once she flies like a butterfly, it's forever!
Stop contact. My friend was like that with his ex. She was constantly shaking and crying on the phone, begging him to go to them, she would commit suicide. For the last time, for a conversation, etc. And whatever he did, he walked - and I would, it won't weigh on me later. But he saw that this was not happening, it was never the last time, terrible circuses were happening. Finally, he was so fed up that he called theirs and told them her madness. She stopped. But this unnecessary humiliation could have been spared by both of them if my friend had stopped communicating at the beginning, if he had not left her room for expression.
Break off all relationships and move on! It's worse for me when you try to help, you give hope. But really stop all contact, not to go to help her or to calm her down, it will bother you for a few months and I will smell. In time she will be grateful to you! ж35
Thanks for the advice. I know it's a good option to end all contact, but I'm also worried about her because she's alone. Locked up at home, rarely goes out, does not eat. He doesn't go out with girlfriends. She doesn't talk to anyone. She wants to interrupt her education and go to her parents, but I really care about her education. I'm just worried about her. Is everything okay. I also hate myself because I have to lie to this girl I'm dating.
If she quickly found two by the way, then you have nothing to feel sorry for her - she won't look long. Don't give up.
Do you want to be good or good !?
Run. For peace of mind, change your phone number if you can. Everyone is crying. It will go away. And he'll tell you about suicides. Don't listen. It passes in exactly two days. They roar with anger, not grief.
Oh, I sympathize. And so am my ex. Great dramas and tragedies on his part. And he roars and complains that he can't eat, he can't sleep, he would commit suicide, he threatens to beat my current friend. I changed my phone number, but I'm still terrified that at some point it might occur to him to do nonsense. I even have nightmares. I know how at some point all this madness starts to suffocate you and you start to go crazy too, because you still love it and want it to be good. Do not give up. And you have the right to be happy. You are not responsible for other people's thoughts and actions. After years of agony in my previous relationship and a stubborn refusal to accept that we have no future, I finally met a man who just behaved normally with me. It makes me calm and happy, I trust him and I know he really loves me. I want him to be together too. The other is past. Success!