I Can't Live With People

   You are antisocial. You write that you are married - you still have 1 person around you, but you better seek help from a psychotherapist. You surprise me that as a lawyer you did not work - maybe on your own as a freelancer. It's too late now. He is looking for a job, if not for the money, then to be with people. However, you do not need to work with colleagues. You can work as a freelancer as a legal consultant - to write contracts, powers of attorney and the like, as well as to be a procurator of various people with companies.

   And I agree with Number 1 ... seek help from a psychologist, a therapist. Believe me they help! You will find the mistakes in yourself and you will rise from the gray world of depression and the feeling that you are lonely. You will make new contacts, etc .... just listen to your therapist's advice! Good luck! :)

   thanks for the advice. I went to a psychiatrist and a psychologist. The first one prescribed me a sleeping medicine, and the second one asked me what solution I was proposing ....

   I'm the same. People with their endless pretensions to impose their opinion on me, burden me and I need time to shake off, even after a few hours of communication. I shared it with a psychologist, he asked me why, I also said that people constantly make claims, a desire to rule, to dominate, to ridicule and that repulses me. When he listened to me, he said, well, no problem, live with your family and do what you like. I have a favorite hobby - floriculture and fruit growing. My husband and I are fine, and so are the children. I don't feel the need for additional things.

   I will tell you that I am super disappointed with psychologists. They are massively incompetent and they don't care if they will help, but how many sessions they will be able to make you do with them. Of course, to ensure a steady income for at least a few months. And their prices are not low at all. And how else, like all "free" universities, do "psychologists" spit out per kilogram, and those who are simply solvent, not capable. Sorry dear psychologists, but I do not respect you. It also irritates me that they often shift the blame for the situation on the family, relatives, upbringing, instead of directing their efforts to bring out the good sides of the person and to inspire him with faith and positivism. And this has hellishly severe consequences - a person sometimes withdraws even more from his loved ones, believing that the blame for everything is theirs. Everything, what I learned from my grief is that the strength is in ourselves and our desire to change our point of view. Author, read books on self-improvement, try to see the good in people and slowly take steps outside of yourself and connect with other people. If you have the opportunity, rent an office and start giving at least a little advice. It will be difficult at first, but you will get used to it. Change your point of view and try to see the positive and not the negative in every situation and person, although this exercise is hellishly difficult. But believe me, he gets used to it. Try to find the good in yourself and increase your self-esteem. It's not too late for anything, don't listen to these wooden philosophers. A person who is healthy and has a desire to live, age is just a number :) Good luck, darling! Author, read books on self-improvement, try to see the good in people and slowly take steps outside of yourself and connect with other people. If you have the opportunity, rent an office and start giving at least a little advice. It will be difficult at first, but you will get used to it. Change your point of view and try to see the positive in each situation and not the negative, although this exercise is hellishly difficult. But believe me, he gets used to it. Try to find the good in yourself and increase your self-esteem. It's not too late for anything, don't listen to these wooden philosophers. A person who is healthy and has a desire to live, age is just a number :) Good luck, darling! Author, read books on self-improvement, try to see the good in people and slowly take steps outside of yourself and connect with other people. If you have the opportunity, rent an office and start giving at least a little advice. It will be difficult at first, but you will get used to it. Change your point of view and try to see the positive in each situation, not the negative, although this exercise is hellishly difficult. But believe me, he gets used to it. Try to find the good in yourself and increase your self-esteem. It's not too late for anything, don't listen to these wooden philosophers. A person who is healthy and has a desire to live, age is just a number :) Good luck, darling! If you have the opportunity, rent an office and start giving at least a little advice. It will be difficult at first, but you will get used to it. Change your point of view and try to see the positive and not the negative in every situation and person, although this exercise is hellishly difficult. But believe me, he gets used to it. Try to find the good in yourself and increase your self-esteem. It's not too late for anything, don't listen to these wooden philosophers. A person who is healthy and has a desire to live, age is just a number :) Good luck, darling! If you have the opportunity, rent an office and start giving at least a little advice. It will be difficult at first, but you will get used to it. Change your point of view and try to see the positive and not the negative in every situation and person, although this exercise is hellishly difficult. But believe me, he gets used to it. Try to find the good in yourself and increase your self-esteem. It's not too late for anything, don't listen to these wooden philosophers. A person who is healthy and has a desire to live, age is just a number :) Good luck, darling! do not listen to these wooden philosophers. A person who is healthy and has a desire to live, age is just a number :) Good luck, darling! do not listen to these wooden philosophers. A person who is healthy and has a desire to live, age is just a number :) Good luck, darling!

   Author, I'm 1 You really have to want to live differently. The psychologist in this case is just a tool, but the problem is yours and you will solve it. He has his methods and you have to trust him, to cooperate, not to show up after 1 meeting. Give a psychotherapist a chance and go to sessions for at least 3 months, and if you don't believe in his methods, change your psychotherapist, but don't wait for a decision from outside. The decision will come from you. However, you will not pass without professional help. It is no coincidence that psychotherapists have their own psychotherapists when needed.

   How come you don't live with people like that and you're lonely with a family. For example, I am completely alone - my husband died a long time ago, my daughter lives abroad. For the other, you are right that relationships with people are painful. But you must learn to love yourself. Even if you have contacts and don't have them, you can't do without them ... otherwise, I would advise you to find some side activity. Yoga, meditation. It helps me a lot.

   Number 6, I'm number 5. It's very annoying that you're writing a psychotherapist. It says "B", doesn't it sting your eyes? That first. And secondly, do not be so categorical that it will not pass without professional help. Why do you insist so much on professional help? I think she can handle it on her own, as long as she wants a change. As long as we have fed parasitic specialists. I did not come across a literate psychologist, but I lost a lot of valuable time. The search for the right one can further break the spirit of the author, because it can last an awful long time and cost her a lot of nerves and last but not least money. In addition, sharing and talking are required, and the author does not like this. As long as you give every second topic advice "seek a psychologist". Give something from within, from yourself, because it already sounds like a worn-out song.

   From number 5: In addition, the author wrote that the psychotherapist, instead of helping, asked her what she offered. I have no words. And don't forget to pluck you 40-50 leva while they ask what your decision is. It's like going to a doctor and being asked "what medicine do you suggest I prescribe ..."

   така както се описваш, си някакъв пълен социопат. аз не разбрах какъв всъщност ти е проблемът с хората: не можеш да намериш общ език, нямаш теми за разговор, не можеш да комуникираш, имаш прекалено високи очаквания...? какво значи да си всеотдайна, а хората да те избягват и не те харесват? явно има сериозно разминаване в позициите ви. нали си омъжена, имаш поне човек до себе си, как така няма с кого да живееш? а иначе смятам, че ще ти е доста трудно, ако досега изобщо не си работила. след университета все вкъщи ли стоиш? извинявай, но дори да работиш на свободна практика, пак трябва да комуникираш с хора, иначе кой ще ти бъде клиент? не виждам как можеш да практикуваш професията си без да общуваш с хора. Ж44

   Psychologists are at a very low level, like everything in Bulgaria. I can only say that the power is in you. What they wrote to you about improvement is absolutely true, read ... I myself consulted a psychologist and I was amazed when I told my problem, instead of advising me about the specific situation, she took a curiosity about the name of the company. I was shocked and then expect discretion from such people. When it comes to communication with people, Bulgarians have a lot to learn, being burdened with personal dramas and everyday life, entering personal space, asking personal questions. Especially in the workplace is a terrible problem, eternal malice, tossing, there is rarely tolerance and a friendly environment.

   I think so too, but this is not a problem for a psychologist. I also don't like to have a lot of people around me, even though I don't live alone. Well, I have almost no friends left, I had many friends before but now I live outside Bulgaria. only to my relatives (I'm not talking only about the family) and so I'm much better. It is always harder for us women to find a girlfriend. I have met with women of higher class, but it doesn't work out much with them because instead of sharing, for example, he tries to command me and in the end it turns out that I'm better alone. If I could find a woman like me, it would be great, but here where I live there are few literate and decent people. I don't mind and I've never shied away from someone trying to get to know me, I'm open to dating,however, in most cases it is done for some purpose and people have become vicious. I don't know what advice to give you because I feel lonely too, maybe it would be good to change jobs.

   Number 5, I really agree with you. I've been through a lot of them and really a lot, a lot of them confuse and necessarily pass the blame most often to the parents, and then they make you withdraw from them .... That's the solution, It was very difficult for me too, but with small steps the change comes. Of course there are ups and downs, but when you act for yourself, you will find the answers you are looking for. Go out more alone, go to the store at the beginning, talk to strangers and your mood and vision of yourself will improve, your vision of the world in general, because now you are closed and you kind of hate everyone (ie they don't understand you), and this is far from the case, believe me. You think things that do not correspond to the truth. If you open yourself to the world, you will understand how many others like you are looking for faith in the good. You can still go to a psychologist,

   I am the same author as you. Married with one child and no other people around me. When I meet someone or go to work somewhere, I am attacked and trampled, I am a good specialist in my field, but I have problems with socialization. I went to psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists, but nothing happened, no progress, no help from anyone. Mine is due to my parents, they wouldn't let me go out until I was almost almost alone until I was 20, and if I went somewhere alone after I told them what happened, they blamed me for my words, actions or inactions in the given situations. I'm literally afraid to comment on someone's face, I'm afraid to give an opinion, I keep thinking that I could be wrong and people trample me because I don't have an opinion or because they can use me to intrigue on my back . I also can't say "

   "I've never had a colleague in my life, which is why I couldn't work in my specialty." - What do you mean by that? I'm not picky, I just really didn't understand.