It's been almost three years since we broke up with my first friend and I still love him and that worries me now. I had a relationship after him, which was very short, because I didn't want to deceive the boy, then in time I had the opportunity for a serious relationship twice more, but it didn't work out. I used to say to myself that this will pass, I need time, but time passes quickly, and my feelings are the same. I know that there are many people in my situation but I need to share this because I can not share with my loved ones, after the first year I shared that I have feelings and no one understood me. When I hear someone say that there was no real love, I feel bad because we had a long relationship with him and we loved each other a lot, and after three years I still love him, if it's not love, what is it? Often my acquaintances end serious relationships and in a few months they are different, and I don't want to try to change boyfriends to forget because I don't want to mess with people. I was thinking of looking for him, he might have thought the same, but I can't judge how he would react to even one "Hello". As I was about to look for him, my time passed and I seemed to change. I hope they approve my story and get opinions, because I have a great need.
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You lose nothing if you look for it. Once you love it, there's nothing to wait for. Better a failed experience than a missed chance. Good luck :)
Hello, dear Author! :) I also lied. I lied that I no longer believe in Love. Years ago, I broke up with the only person I loved. Then I started a new relationship, which is three times longer than the first and much deeper. I wanted to forget him, he hurt me a lot and I moved on. We haven't seen each other for 5 years, and I still love him and it will always be so. I didn't delay it, what is this miracle, we've known each other for 11 years and since I've known him, still ... We don't forget each other, even now we want to get together ... But I think, when two people love each other very much, no.means.that will be together forever. The strange thing about us is that our paths parted (he was also with another and I left the two of them). Yes, but as our paths parted, so after so many years they intertwined again. I have the feeling that it is more beautiful than before. Maybe we are given a second chance. I've been since we broke up. in another city. It's very hard to believe again ... Try, at least with Hello! You lose nothing ... Ms Sadness, 25
Look for him. That way you will really know if you still have feelings. It's one thing to think that way, it's quite another to see each other. He will have changed, so will you. And if you realize that you want to be together - great. If you see that you are already too different, you will be able to move forward.
You didn't add why you split up in 1st place, but I think look for him ... you won't lose anything, and even more so if he was aware that you had a relationship ... no matter how short it was. .. he would not look for you even if he wanted:]]] success;]
I am also in a similar situation, the difference in the years of separation is two, I think to look for him, but I am stopped by the fact that he has a girlfriend. What would you advise me?
And I am of the opinion to look for it :) and I hope you will be really happy
Definitely true love exists. For me, there is no way to break up with someone you loved very much and in a few months you have already overcome it. I also suffered from my great love for 3 years, maybe even a little longer. Don't worry, your grief will pass, you just have to move on, pursue your dreams, go out with friends, etc. I personally looked for the girl I loved so much, but only after I overcame her. I just wanted to know what was going on with her. Honestly, I don't know what advice to give you, but rather seek it to stop this unknown from bothering you. He may be with another, he may be married, and so on. Then it will hurt you, but you will know that you have to move on. I'm glad that there are women like you who really love without being interested in other things. This encourages me that I will find a similar one :)
From the author: Thank you for your comments. I don't want to go into details, but the reason we broke up wasn't very serious compared to the things we overcame while we were together.
It may take longer, but you have to think about what you want. Because the more time passes, the more your person can start a serious relationship, which will deepen, etc. and become even more complicated. Something like that happened to me. I love very much and I can't overcome my last separation, and a lot more time has passed than with you. I already think that there is something serious in me, but for me the person has developed his relationship and there is no easy way to get together. So the sooner you act the better. However, it is good to first clarify to yourself what you want. I wish you success.
If the reason for the separation was anything but a man / woman, look for him. If you see it again after such a long time, many things will become clear to you and your consciousness will change, no matter in which direction. However, I think that if two people really love each other, they will not allow separation like that. I guess the real reason is the usual one - the pride and stubbornness of one and the corresponding insult to the other, everything else is circumstances, not reasons. Therefore, if you see him again before you decide that you should try again, think about other situations in the future and whether your love will be enough to go through them.
to 10. A woman always leaves the safe for another man. Needless to comment, only a naive person would believe otherwise. It is best not to call him, the result will be even worse. No Man with a capital letter would allow such a hoax.
Look for him! See yourself and only then you will get an answer to the subconscious question you ask yourself "Do we have a chance?". Don't stop calling him! One wisdom of life says that it is better to know that we have failed than to say to ourselves all our lives "what if I had tried ...?" I wish you luck and hope that things will turn out according to the longing of your heart! :)
From the author: The reason is not another man or another woman. I am one of those people who cannot tolerate infidelity and it never crossed my mind to cheat. His thinking on this issue was similar to mine, and if he had cheated on me and because we had separated, I probably wouldn't have loved him now. I wrote this because of number 11, because I don't want to leave the wrong impression.
I am a man, and I had a similar situation some time ago. This is how things turned out for me and my friend from high school, that after we graduated we had to separate (I had to go to study abroad, and she had to stay to study in Bulgaria). I thought about her for a long time. I wondered for a long time what would have happened if we hadn't separated. At one point I decided to look for her. He answered me immediately. We agreed to be friends. And I'm somehow calmer now. When I return to BG we go out, but I don't feel anything anymore. And before, while I was wondering, I thought I was still in love. So as number 12 said, call to clarify your own feelings.
Calm down, I've been longing for my ex for 5 years, even though I had two relationships after her, even though I have a boyfriend now, I still love her very much ... my advice is to look for him, don't give up what your heart desires .
If you left him and come back now, I think he will be happy and happy that you have changed. He'll tell himself I was right, then ...