Hi, my story may not be anything you haven't heard. I am 20 years old, I am graduating this year (because due to health problems, I missed 1 year and switched to another form of education) but I still do not know what I will do with my life. I don't know how I'm going to cope, I'm trying to get into life slowly. The main problem, however, is not this! The problem, as you already know from the title, is my father. Constant scandals, insults, imposes his opinion, commands, verbal aggression has been commonplace for a long time. It ruins every single good moment of mine. I cry all the time, I want to move out of the house, and at the same time I don't have money, I don't have a job, because of exams, driving lessons and what not, I probably won't find the time and time to work. I don't have any friends to go to either. I'm tired of this way of life, and I'm at a dead end. Before I became a minor, it often occurred to me to seek help from the social services, but I always stopped, because that way the problems would become even more. But here I am, standing in my room, after another scandal and thinking how to stop this, I think, I think, and I never find a solution to the problem. This man has left such wounds in my soul that hinder me more and more. I grow up and notice how I don't know what happiness is, what family is, what peace and quiet is. This man is ruining my life, no matter how nasty it is for me to say that, because I feel sorry for him. Constant scandals for the least. When my mother and I decide to order food from outside, it immediately starts screaming, how we constantly ordered food when it was full of garbage at home. I am a young person, I have my life, my opinion, my way of eating, thinking and everything, and he constantly imposes his opinion. He is the most right, he is the most effective, there are no mistakes in it. Everyone else is to blame, but not him. He does not understand or even try to understand the young man's thinking. I am disgusted with him, not only because of his attitude towards "those closest to him" but also because of his way of life. I'm sorry to touch on this ridiculous topic, but his hygiene is zero. I don't see when he bathes, he wears the same underwear for weeks, and his problem is that I bathed every day, for him this is not normal and again I am told that I am crazy and wrong. I don't know what to do anymore, I want to stay in this house and he should leave. To go abroad, to work or live with his relatives, but not to stay with me, ruining my self-esteem every day. I'm tired of these scandals! My mother and father quarrel, my father and I quarrel, my mother and I quarrel. In this house everything is scandals, shouts, insults and no one is trying to understand the other. It is constantly paraded that they are older and know more, but this is clearly not the case. Not once did they get into my situation, not once did they support me, only reproaches ... Please give me advice, I don't know what to do !!
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So the fact that your stupid father calls the food God gave him to keep his gut from starving calls garbage? This poor thing is wrong! Who is he to say who buys anything from where? If I were, a lot of teeth would fall out of his chin, because I can't stand having to have someone without my permission. You will suffer a little until you find a good job (your girl) everywhere will want a young woman like you, especially tanned bosses who have no feelings of inferiority. Good luck. M21
You are young, you have your own life, style, way of eating, you even mention that HE pays, a bed. Including your courses and your university. Including food ordered from outside and a surprise - even electricity and water. And how and why do you know if and how often YOUR FATHER changes his underwear? Look for a job and pay for at least the food ordered from outside for you. Oh, just in case and the romantic version: how can such bad fathers wow, wow wow! My dear sweetheart, look for a beautiful one, look for a job or another man to support you (at least you will have a good excuse to know when you change your underwear) and get rid of this bad dad. Let him rest from the cow, where he continues to disguise himself as a calf.
Go to work at sea in the summer. Save your money and get out of there. Go to study in another city. There are dormitories to the universities. Take matters into your own hands and run away. And don't come back. You are young, you have many opportunities. Deliberately go to study in a distant city. Instead of crying, sit down and make a plan. point by point and start acting on it.
Get out, find a job and pay your bills yourself! Then you will have claims. Otherwise, everyone is of the opinion - "My father is the worst!", But why does this bad father pay then? I don't justify it, but there is a saying - "Whoever pays, orders the music". Julian
not your father has to move out, but you :-) he is in the house, working, paying his bills, food and everything else. yes, he may not be an angel from heaven, but he sustains you, pays you for university, a driving course, including the food you order. so if you don't like it, you're an adult, take your bag and get to work.
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The man is right! You order food, how many people can afford it? You only have claims.