I recently left with a wonderful girl - she has excellent hygiene in general, she is very beautiful, smart, kind. We have common hobbies, interests and topics of conversation. I can't find fault with her. But he smokes, not in large quantities, only a few cigarettes a day, but I have a strong intolerance to cigarette smoke and I am very uncomfortable, especially when kissing. I myself am NOT a smoker, I have tried once and I would vomit. For me, the most disgusting thing is cigarette smoke, I'm just sick of it. I know it sounds like I'm grumbling, but I can't leave such a beautiful girl for such a small thing, but you know ... I'm very disgusted to feel tobacco kissing her. Otherwise, I have no right to tell her what to do. She tells herself that smoking only slightly reduces stress. He is not a heavy smoker, but I have a strong sensitivity and feel the tobacco even after she brushes her teeth or chews gum.
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Realize it, boy! Smoker and hygiene are two incompatible things. How you kiss this one at all, I just don't know. Smoking is the easiest way to find out how empty someone is. I understand that she must be beautiful and you have sunk, so you try to justify the "flaws" but sooner or later you will see that it is not worth it. Find a decent girl. By the way, there is not much and a lot of smoking, it is pure and simple addiction and it stinks, as you yourself have noticed. The girl is addicted to nicotine opiates and is a passenger. Choose for yourself whether you want to fail with her.
Talk to her to stop after smoking a little anyway. If she doesn't accept it - who is from where. And, yes - you have no right to restrict her, but you also have the right not to kiss an ashtray after you are very uncomfortable.
But what are you complaining about here as a woman, and you don't talk to her directly as a man .... your character is weak, author, emphasize this (I don't hate you)
Also tell him to wash his mouth or take chewing gum or mints. I told mine before it was refreshing that she didn't remember.
I was in your situation too. I told him to stop, he liked them. Now he doesn't smoke, we go around the doctors because he got sick from one of those crap out there on the boxes.
Excellent hygiene, but smokes cigarettes? I'd rather smell sweat than smoke and shit :)
No one will stop smoking because of you.
I would not call smoking a "small problem". I agree with №1, you really are obsessed with her beauty. But keep in mind that smoking seriously damages the appearance. Search the internet for what causes smoking not only on the internal organs, but also on the appearance and think about how long she will stay beautiful ... And if one day you get married and have children, then she will be able to stop smoking while pregnant?
Break up with her, what are you really complaining about here? Smokers are very stubborn with their smoking and would not stop because someone does not like them, even their partner.
Apparently only smokers who hate wrote here. Well, no one started smoking because they wanted to become addicted. Note that I also do NOT smoke and never have. But I have something interesting to tell. Nobody smokes at home, but most of the people we visited when I was little were smokers and they smelled like cigarettes. To me, people always looked cleaner than at home (that's how it was). And from there I associated the smell of cigarettes with ... pure. For the treatment of cigarette addiction, I have heard of a cured friend of my father's with Japanese acupuncture.
I was in a similar situation. My husband was partly a passionate smoker in his youth, and he and his ex-wife used to smoke in their garden in the evening, and today both of their children are passionate smokers. When we met, he smoked less, and in times of stress he smoked 1 box, so to speak, but he used to want to hang out and smoke every night. I went out at first, but then I got tired and told him once how much his habit and smell bothered me, but also that I was worried about his health. He reduced his cigarettes, but did not stop them. On a camper trip, he used to go out in the evening to puff, and I stubbornly boycotted these outings. One night after puffing on the dog's cold outside, he just said that he didn't like smoking alone and refused them. He refused them once and today he smokes 1-2 times a year in some company, but that's it. My father was a passionate smoker and bought Arda with stacks, but no smoking at home. When he turned 40, he began to get pneumonia every winter and was hospitalized. At the beginning he said to himself that it was not from cigarettes, but because of the cold and so on, but maybe some doctor influenced him, because after 3-4 consecutive pneumonias to suffocation he also stopped smoking and Oh, miracle - not since caught pneumonia. So smoking is poison. You may not get cancer, but something else will catch you So smoking is poison. You may not get cancer, but something else will catch you So smoking is poison. You may not get cancer, but something else will catch you
Pffff, and I really hate kissing with ashtrays! I can like a woman, and even fall in love with her, but if you see her smoking - my attitude towards her changes completely ... Directly falls off the list "serious partner, possibly for life" and goes into the category of "flirting , adventure, cannon fodder for 1 or a few times, I'll be with her until I fall in love ", etc. Number 1 is absolutely right that" Smoking is the easiest way to find out how empty-headed someone is "!
You all talk so superficially, as if you don't have a bad habit? If the author says that he smokes 1-2, then what is the big problem? Would it be better if her mouth smelled of rotten eggs? Do not exterminate, because you also have flaws! Author, and you love so much. I will tell you only one thing - Beauty is up to time!
These smokers are useless. I feel the cigarettes from 50 meters away (without exaggerating), and they put them in their mouths.
Well leave it and someone else will appreciate it. First you say it's an unbearable problem for you, and then you can't leave her for such a trifle. Isn't there something you smell like - socks or feet. I hope she didn't find any "small" flaws in your way of life either. If a friend of mine teases me like that on the sites and hesitates in his feelings at the time, I beat his jester. You are great people and take a seat and talk about it both. "For" and "Against" will be written here. If the girl takes a note, she may have conditions for you after that.
Yes, yes, you are right. The fact that someone has made a decision that you do not agree with, instantly makes them unsuitable for a serious relationship. It has been scientifically proven that non-smokers are kinder, more cheerful, smarter, more beautiful, just the perfect partners. The same goes for people who chew gum, as well as for those who use deodorant instead of perfume ... however, if they were good people, they would not have habits! Author, talk to your girlfriend. If someone stops and tells a smoker that it is not possible, he will not stop smoking ... if he tells him that he is worried about his health and that he thinks that the habit is too harmful, the person will at least reduce them if he does not stop completely. Your girlfriend is not a heavy smoker, we are talking about some 3-4 cigarettes a day, she will break the habit easier than a grandfather of 50, who smokes 1-2 packs a day. Learn to communicate and not judge others for nonsense. She has made a choice, even if she doesn't stop them, she can smoke on the balcony, take a bath, brush her teeth, perfume, and only then go out with you. Often the conversation fixes all the problems.
Author, once you have a total intolerance to cigarettes and it is vital to you, choose! The girl will not give up because of you exactly. At №1 I will explain that there is little and a lot of smoking - there are smokers who smoke just from rain, wind or stress, but do not need to wake up when they wake up. For me, these are not smokers. The author's friend is probably one of them. I smoke, but no one smokes at home and I only smoke on the terrace, no matter if it's summer or winter. And as long as you're moralizing, because someone's cigarettes are the most negligible problem in a relationship, especially if the smoker tries not to disturb the non-smoker.
As I read the topic and the question, I see three options for the outcome: 1. She refuses the cigarettes she gave you; 2. You break up and find yourself a non-smoker; 3. You do not kiss her, but go straight to the essential part. The problem is big, and there is no fourth option. And enough with these negative comments about smokers. Maybe all the commenters are angels. Almost everyone has some vices - one drinks, another smokes, a third shakes, a fourth walks abroad. It is very important that she smoked. And I smoked two packs of cigarettes a day, I started with a cigarette when I was 16, and at 38 I gave them up once and since then I haven't lit a cigarette because I'm addicted. But my husband still smokes, though much less than before, and I didn't leave because of it.
Number 16 .. grandfather at 50? !? !! I'm 20, but it still sounds a lot too old for 50-year-olds to be called grandparents!
I don't like people who smoke - they always smell bad, and I'm very sensitive to smells. Second, they always quit their jobs to smoke. Well, I drink coffee too, but I don't go out in the hallway or on the street. Third, sitting in a smoky room is hell. Kissing a smoker is like kissing an ashtray. Well no. Everyone chooses, but I run away from smokers. I don't respect them simply because they always interfere with others. Author, rinse your mouth with alcohol, all this. Either stop smoking or just find the right woman for you!