Hi, I'm a 22 year old boy, and I can't stop thinking about my ex, although it will soon be 1 year since we've been together. We are not separated because we had a problem in the relationship but because my parents did not like it. I wanted to live with her but she didn't want to live with my parents I was of the same opinion I also didn't want to because it's hard to live with them I as their son had a hard time living with her, telling my father that I wanted to to get out to take care of myself almost to a fight we reached for a cover they brought me from somewhere a girl at home to marry her neither she liked me nor I liked her. So we broke up but I miss her a lot, I think about her all the time, it bothers me a lot in my daily life, as for her, she found another one with whom they already live together and she doesn't even remember my name after we were together for 1 year, I made so many sacrifices and in the end I was left alone and something was wrong with me I can't find another girlfriend I don't think she is from my appearance, I think I just haven't met a girl who likes me. So tell me what to do to stop dreaming and thinking about the former? thanks in advance :)
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Amy is very clear that she will continue with another. You have not fought enough for your love, but you are a 22-year-old man who still lives with mom and dad. And this with the other girl and the wedding ... I honestly ask, I don't want to offend, but are you Roma?
Look, man, I'm gonna tell you for your own good. Your parents will probably be a big obstacle to building a serious relationship. They don't have the right to interfere with you so much, you are already an adult and you can break your head as you see fit. You are young, it is not bad to live with someone, I understand that they may find it a mistake, but even if it is a mistake, it will be yours and you have the right to experience it without being stopped by a fight. You gave up at that moment, and I think you should have gritted your teeth, resisted, and followed your heart, your own path. If you are not able to do this, you will have many more similar sections. Few women would be inclined to get into such serious family problems from the very beginning of your life together. As for the former, you will pass. With great love and lack is greater after separation. You're used to a woman, you loved her, you wanted to live together and external factors separated you, not a lack of love. It can't take you a week, it makes sense to suffer for at least a few months and it's no wonder you miss it for a whole year. Do not judge cruelly, almost everyone has experienced this feeling. Stop following her on social networks, even if she stays on your friends list, it would be much better not to get notifications from her. As long as you think about her life and find out, yours won't really move forward. Roughly or not, you now live in the past and this hinders you from the present and the future. I'm not judging you, it has happened to me, I'm passing on some information that helped me get out of the cycle with the lack and roar of ballads. If something reminds you of her, remove it, throw it away, hide it, give it to a friend to keep it, just so it's not in front of your eyes. If it's music, don't listen to me. If it's a movie, don't watch it. Become more independent, get away from you, it's for your own good. You will go to a place where you have no memories with her and you will start clean, so that your heart is pure in the future. This way you will know that if you want to live with someone, third parties will not interfere with you and you will not have any problems. If it is difficult for you to live without her, live in her honor. Take out every lesson your relationship has taught you, then apply it to your life. Solving your own problems is often the first step toward moving forward without thinking about your ex. Give yourself time, don't worry that you haven't forgotten her for a whole year. Come on, you care less, give it a bucket. A year, two, three, no matter what, it doesn't matter! You will succeed because you will have no choice. Sooner or later you will meet a woman who will take your mind. It hasn't happened yet, but it's coming.
Get out of here and things may work out. I'm quite serious. It took me 20 years to realize that parents are not gods and that they also make mistakes and in some cases pull their own children down. I have some friends who were from different religions, although the boy's mother was also Bulgarian / his father was Arab, they lived in a village in Bulgaria /. They loved each other a lot, but they broke up because of stupid religion and stupid parents. Not to mention that he works for the whole family, but he is 19 and they constantly ask him for money. It may sound rude, but an hour sooner get away from you and start a normal life. Find a job or a second job temporarily and set aside money first while you are still with yours, and finally when you have more set aside for a start, leave. And I myself would not go with a boy who makes me live with his parents, who hate me and will ruin my life every day. Get out of there and start a civilized life.
Some parents are like that and they don't feel like they are ruining their children's lives. Although they love them. Once your ex has a new one, don't deal with her. Just look ahead and look for a new one. And when you get to the point where you want to live together, find a way to be in a separate home. First at the accommodation to see how your life together will go, and then look for an option for your own home. I have a friend who is 39. To this day he lives with his parents. His mother recently complained to me that she had lost hope that she would bring her daughter-in-law and look after her grandchildren. How could he not lose, when when we were your age, I went out with boyfriends, at one time I went to live with my current wife, and he was holding on to his mother's skirt. She didn't let him be late one night, she kept calling him, asking him where he was. While my parents, the moment I told them I was planning to get married, told themselves that young and old should not live in one place. Accordingly, my brother and I raised money, bought them a house in a nearby village, and they left their apartment to me. My brother already had his own. Thus, they both live peacefully in a house with a yard, they are close to us, and we do not interfere with each other. Listen to №2, learn from your mistakes and success!
Find another one and you will forget it in no time.