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I Can't Understand Him, I Don't Know If He Still Feels Something For Me?

By incherpincher October 21, 2020 3 answers Last updated October 21, 2020

Hello, here is my story, you may have read quite similar ones, but I need to share and hear some opinion on the matter. I am 22 years old, at the beginning of the summer I met a boy, he is 21 years old, and it turned out that he is from my stream at the university, but we have not met before, until the moment when he started writing to me and to look for me. At the time when he was writing to me and we were going out, he told me that he was single and everything was fine, I liked to write to each other ... He is not from Sofia and after the session he had to return to his hometown before we left. ... Then we wrote to each other for three months, months in which we wrote to each other every day in every free minute, until one day he called me to tell me that his ex-girlfriend would visit him and then her visit. reunited, then he had blocked me and I felt terrible, but I'm one of those people who passes quickly, and it was just writing ... But after she left, he called me again with the words that I meant a lot to him, after all what we wrote to each other, the revelations, and that he fell in love with me at first sight, and wants to try what can happen. Of course I was against, I didn't want to be second, to hide, etc., I told him that we could only remain colleagues, but he didn't give up, he kept explaining to me and so on until one day his girlfriend found out about me ... She felt a change in him and started digging and writing to me, she invited me to see you, unfortunately I agreed, although I knew she would rejoice at him, but he is not innocent either, yet he mixed up the whole mess. They had a 9 month relationship, no matter how much he tried to hide his disappointment, the pain of betrayal was written on his face ... He found out about our meeting, followed by a series of comic situations, if one cut him off, he went to the other and back until I I got tired and lost them both. There were two weeks left until the beginning of the school year, weeks in which I was calm and carefree, and they both didn't bother me until he returned to the school for the new school year. He started looking for me and apologizing for involving me in his problems, he wanted us to try to have something between us and to experience the thrill, at first I was pulling, I didn't want to be in the shadow of his ex, for whom he he said it was in the past and over. We started dating and became boyfriends, it was nice until he started comparing me to his ex, he was telling me about her, he was sorry that he hurt her, but he wants to be with me and we are happy, but he started to be more reserved, not to look for me much, he told me that I don't deserve this behavior, that he is confused and doesn't know what he wants .. Of course, I didn't allow myself to give myself completely, precisely because I assumed that such a moment would come, and I didn't want to suffer. I endured a lot of contempt on his part until I got tired and told him to stop, he kept looking for me and so we were fine for two days, then we didn't hear and see each other for a few days. After the last period in which we have not heard or seen each other (a period of two weeks), he told me that he has a new girlfriend ... I thought that during this period he will think and clarify things and know what he wants, even if it's not me, at least it's clear, not to stand in ambiguity and tell me " ex, even if we are real, I even confessed my feelings to him, and he replied that his were mixed and that he wanted something new, from the beginning, to be calm and now he is with the new, which, ironically, I know. They have been with her for a week, I don't know what their relationship is, but I see that he is not indifferent to me. When I asked him if his godfather was feeling anything, he tried not to answer me, he just said that it was better to leave things like that. I'm terribly sick now, I want to go through it faster and not think about it ... ex and we are real, I even confessed my feelings to him, and he replied that his are mixed and that he wants something new, from the beginning, to be calm and now he is with the new, which ironically I know. They have been with her for a week, I don't know what their relationship is, but I see that he is not indifferent to me. When I asked him if his godfather was feeling anything, he tried not to answer me, he just said that it was better to leave things like that. I'm terribly sick now, I want to go through it faster and not think about it ... When I asked him if his godfather was feeling anything, he tried not to answer me, he just said that it was better to leave things like that. I'm terribly sick now, I want to go through it faster and not think about it ... When I asked him if his godfather was feeling anything, he tried not to answer me, he just said that it was better to leave things like that. I'm terribly sick now, I want to go through it faster and not think about it ...

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berthiaume answered · October 21, 2020

   Honey, dump this one! You look like a smart and stable girl to me, don't deal with jerks! You see for yourself what it is - today with this one, tomorrow with that one. Like bees - from flower to flower. You don't deserve such a thing! Let him enjoy the new "acquisition" and look for someone more decent. Or give yourself some rest and freedom, it will work well for you. Don't let your feelings lead you, this boy is not worth it. I wish you success!

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aecioneves answered · October 21, 2020

   He has the right to make that choice. Indeed, the story with his ex greatly burdens your relationship and compromises him in your eyes. Now you are in love and this fact does not have such a weight, but in time it will have an impact and is very likely to be used by you against him in critical situations. In a sense - you will remind him to reap dividends in your favor. In my opinion, it is not so much your love for him that makes you feel bad, but your hurt ego.

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nothingsecret answered · October 21, 2020

   Hi, a month ago I was in a similar situation .. I fell in love with a boy who couldn't decide if he wanted me or the other girl (who was also my girlfriend and plus she didn't like him). Plus before that she told me that I was the only one for him, and at the same time she told him to her .. I caught him lying .. Then he apologized to me and it was a difficult week - whether to be together! I respected his decision that he still couldn't forget her, as he said. he doesn't want us to start a relationship so as not to hurt me. Then we just became friends, but you know, it's hard and he completely forgot about me. That's why I advise you to leave them like that, who don't know what they want - now you, now someone else ... In the beginning you will be sick, I know, and I was like that, but you will pass! Success! ^^