Hello! I've been following this site for a while and I really like it. I decided to write here because I need help. I have no people close to me. My story will be long, I want to thank everyone who will read it in its entirety. I am 25 years old from Sofia. I have been married for 3 years, and 6 months ago our first child was born. I can't describe the feeling I felt when I hugged my boy, it is irreplaceable. I always wanted to start a family, to have a wonderful husband by my side, many children and to understand each other. That was one of my main goals in life. My husband and I met through mutual friends and we liked each other. He is sincere, correct, smart, handsome, a good person. I love him with all my being in me, I have never thought of anyone else but him. To me, he was everything. In the beginning we got along perfectly, we talked about every problem, we looked for solutions together, we helped each other, we loved each other. When I got pregnant, something happened. I do not know what. He became cold. He didn't talk to me, he wasn't interested in the baby's development, he didn't help me, he insulted me. I started to gain weight, and because of the hormones and my hair started to drip a little, my breasts also relaxed a little, but it's not fatal. During this period I heard remarks like: - "Now that we have sex, do not undress up! I do not want to look at your bacon." - "You seem to be ahead of me with baldness" - "You eat like a hundred people, you will become an elephant "-" Don't take a swimsuit to the sea and don't expose yourself "All this, and I heard it a lot during the whole pregnancy. I've always kept quiet, but it's awful for a woman to get such comments from a man, who loves so much and tries to always be beautiful to him. I did eat a lot, but I just wanted to eat. I know I wasn't in my prime, but what can I do? Does not matter. I gave birth to my little happiness, which changed everything in my life. Only I deal with the baby, he doesn't even want to look at it. Last Saturday, while he was watching TV and talking on the phone, I was cooking and the little one had dropped his teddy bear on the floor, I just asked him to pick it up, he started shouting at me that I had done nothing, that I was lazy and only I'm bothering him with nonsense. Well, take your jacket and go out with friends again. It's been awful lately while we're having sex. It does not contribute to the general pleasure at all, he is only interested in it ending, and I am not interested in it. I asked him several times not to slap me so hard because it hurt. Do you respect my opinion? Of course not. I was silent. It hurt that he didn't want me so much anymore. That's why I organized a wonderful week, just for the two of us. I left the child with my mother. Immediately after that I ran to choose a new sexy outfit, a hairdresser, etc. I went shopping to cook something special. I just wanted to fix our relationship. When I was still at the door of the apartment, I heard some loud moans. I unlocked it immediately in front of our bedroom door. I knew what was going on, I could hear very clearly how another was fucking. I started to open, but I cried and walked away from us. I am currently with my sister. He calls me to ask where I am, why I'm not coming home, etc. He doesn't know I've heard him do what. I feel ... I don't even know how to describe what I'm feeling. I'm devastated ... I want to ask you, and now what? What should I do? I want to keep my family, I don't want to ruin everything. Should I admit to him that I heard him? Should I keep quiet? I'm confused. I will be grateful if you give me useful advice!
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Is it possible he watched porn?
You found purebred trash somewhere, but the way you write it ... I'm not surprised.
First of all, think about it, and then decide if you want to keep it. It's not a joke you have a child, it is not worth living without harmony and understanding. But my advice is not to stay like that and talk. Good luck. I hope everything is fine !;)
Your story brought me back to the same moment I went through, I cried too. I'm only 17, but I'll give you some advice. First of all, you didn't open it, it crossed my mind that he might have watched porn after you have not seen, there is no way to know - so as not to lie to you - ask him and say that you saw through the door lock or you opened - so that there is nowhere to run, if it is true. It is difficult and infidelity befalls many couples but I think dignity is much more important, you are young and you have a chance for a new good relationship. Do what you think will be best, but still personally I could not be with a person who has made fun of with me and myself because he cheated on his choice. Good luck, darling. I hope I'm right, but if it really was different, I'm very sorry ..
Number 1 - I think a man can tell porn from a real woman, and in the end no one watches porn with a loud sound enough to be heard behind the walls. Author, I don't think it's porn, it's just infidelity, and even if it was just porn based on what you wrote, I still don't think he's a literate person. In a little while he will start beating you as I watch his attitude. Admit that you caught him. This rubbish doesn't deserve a second chance, but if you really want to keep your family a family counselor (something that needs to be done before marriage actually), and if he doesn't want a family counselor you collect his luggage, change the lock and buy. I know you want to keep your family right now, but not always a couple are as productive, healthy and good as setting an example for their child when they are together, some people do it better separately, and others do not become parents at all. Obviously, your husband doesn't know what it's like to be a pregnant woman and how it affects your body.
He did not want this child. He started behaving badly with you during pregnancy, and after he was born he doesn't look at him. Tell him what you heard. And tell him that if things continue like this, you will split up. Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection. The situation is serious, there is a possibility that you will separate and you have to realize and accept it. Think about the environment in which your child grows up. One day he will begin to understand enough, ask yourself both questions whether in such an environment I want my child to grow up. . . You are already a mother. The moment you choose to give your life, you must always think about it first. So romantic and dramatic outbursts like "but I love it" are not appropriate. He will start pouring his anger on the child as well. Is that what you're waiting for?
Up to 2! Wow, what's so great about writing?
Big family, nothing! What do you want to keep? His disrespect and dislike for you, his infidelity, betrayal, insults, his servant role? Or do you think that it will be a miracle and you will live perfectly with Mr. Idealen? Open your eyes wide and accept the truth - it will get worse. Throw away the garbage from your life, move on with the child and be careful with the next one - wonderful men live in movies and novels, not around us. Your mistake is that you allowed HE to be everything to you, not YOU yourself. And you will suffer much more until you realize that you should not turn another person into the center of your life, nor idealize him. You do not have to give him any explanations, in response you will hear only lies - for example. that it happened for the first and last time. Personally, I think he did it another time, and most brazenly - in your bedroom, that is, he does not care if you catch him, otherwise he would have gone to a hotel. Think again - do you want to spend your life with this one? That he not only does not become a husband, but also a father if he does not look at his child. To him, you are not a beloved woman, but a free maid and sex toy. Be strong!
If only he was a good father, well ... You lose nothing but less care and less negative emotions.
You gave an interesting description about your husband in the beginning - correct, sincere, good, smart, etc. The description of the situation during and after your pregnancy completely contradicts these qualities. A man who is smart, kind and correct does not offend his pregnant young wife, nor shouts at her that he should raise the bear of their common child, respects her requests for elementary things and most importantly - does not cheat under her nose, in their own bedroom, in the family apartment, of the woman with whom they have a 6-month-old baby in this disgusting and vile way. Your husband is more than rubbish and I don't understand what kind of family you want to keep with such a freak? Are you crazy or not? He has you for a rag, and why the hell are you constantly silent? Shout at him, slap him twice, threaten him and kick him out. Tttttt, I have no words. And he writes here that he wants advice. You are not well at all. You have no family. You have a baby and a worm next to you. But if you do not respect yourself, you will write on the forums. Divorce immediately otherwise I do not see you in the future.
This is a sketch - there is no woman to limit herself, to humiliate another woman-competitor. To do nothing - just go into the bedroom and frown at the two naked throbbing beats in time. What follows is baseness and abomination, confusion and emptiness. I don't want to be in the place of the mates, it's not fun. She will leave leaked and not finished, as he did. And our heroine will only have a reason to play him "offended and bitter"
I don't think you have a normal family right now. And I also think that from the very beginning you were blinded to this person because of your dream of having a husband and a child, he thinks he has always been like that, you just know him better now. I wonder how it doesn't reach you. I personally would not be with such a person not only because of infidelity, but because of his COMPLETE disrespect. I don't understand how a man can humiliate the woman who is carrying HIS child? The bad thing is that you already have something to do with such a person - your child. It suffers the most from the bad example of a father who will get or a broken family. Try to talk to him, although I don't think a person can change. True, I do not know what advice to give you, but I would not stay with this person in your place. I'm very curious, how old is he? Saturn
Focus on raising the child! Alone! I'm sorry to hear that, but it's true. If you forgive / which will be difficult / there will be a temporary lull and then everything will be repeated even worse. Who would call the chosen one the mother of her own child with such epithets? !! It is this woman who brings life! His genes and blood! You will cook for him and he will rest and scream! I have never raised my voice and been extremely nervous. Of course you will eat more. You feed two. A pregnant woman's breasts and body change significantly. She wants to have breasts like a 20-year-old? There is no more beautiful female body when a woman is pregnant! When did you see a bald mother? It will not change for the better. There are men who dream of a family, children and a partner in their lives. This man is sick! Grandpa Tosho
Of course, I'm not reading here and I'm totally desperate for Bulgarian men. I am 30, single and already planning how to be a single mother. Otherwise, what awaits me - a life with a mold that does not work or a life with a man like yours - a great choice. And I don't listen to the rude optimistic nonsense, there are passengers for every train. For so many years I have seen so much that I already understand. Who wants a healthy family sits without sex. Mani this nonsense where they tell you what amazing sex you had with your husband. They saw how amazing it was, you saw for yourself. To tell you the truth, I would be torn apart by lovers. I will look after my child, at least you have a child. I don't have that either. And my husband to graze grass. I'll tell him by the way that I heard him fuck another with complete indifference. And I will not give him a divorce. Level it to the ground. He expects you to roar at him there. You will be a bitch. And you can have the sex you want. You like a man, you like lovers. And you take them home ... But the inn has learned where the soft pie is ... You can do it too. What are you going to roar about. When you look at his child and he waves, that's why. This child is yours. He will pray in time for the child to pay attention to him ..... come on. By next week, brag about a lover. Start with tinder.
This is a fictional story! No man will bring a woman into his home, while his wife can return at any moment !? Apparently the author is bored and annoys the audience with similar topics. But there is nothing wrong with that, they are still instructive!
Hey 15 - shhhh, alouuu princess get down on the ground a little! You have already begun to realize that men owe you NOTHING, including sex, and you begin to appreciate these basic things, but you still hold on to the idea that you are special and can have pretensions and set conditions. It doesn't happen that way! I hope that when you turn 40 you will understand that they love you, that they are faithful to you and other things that you take for granted, because like many other princesses absorbed in yourself, you think that you are special! You have to deserve them and with such an attitude this will not happen! If you want a good relationship - you try to ensure the maximum pleasure for your partner and not your own, you know? "But I expect him to love me, to be faithful to me and to satisfy all my pretensions, because I am a princess and I just have to wait, wait, wait, wait for the prince,
Because you caught a naughty man for a family. And he did it before, you just didn't catch it. An ex-boyfriend has no problem sleeping with me, no matter that he has a girlfriend. If only she didn't know, because she knows very well that she will dump him, and I don't want him. And he presses his rags against her, but his eyes are streaked. With such a hypocrite neither relationship nor family. Just luggage and through the door. The other is not superior to you in anything, neither as a woman, nor as qualities. Just wants a variety of reptiles! And for the child you can handle it yourself, she doesn't need such a parasite next to her.
And I don't care what the author wrote. So her husband takes another woman to their bedroom while she's at the hairdresser's and shopping, so she can come back at any moment. Well, there is no such simple man, unless he deliberately wants to catch them. The author's motives - perhaps another topic to pour slop against men in general. If it's still true, the man may have just watched porn out loud, and such a drastic change in behavior is not without reason. Either he was like that before, and the author wore pink glasses, or something serious went too far with the requirements and restrictions. However, if he doesn't want to look after his child, I don't know what kind of person he should be anymore.