I Cheat With Pain

   I'm very interested in how you love a man when he makes you suffer and how at the same time with your love for him you are in love and another abe is this I do not understand some of the people I quickly fall in love "I saw a man" or " I met a woman "and come in love already, taking physiological needs straight. I do so when I find out that it doesn't work, I separate, why should I make some people suffer, then eventually it will be understood sooner or later everything comes to light and then it becomes very naughty and when you have a child, guess what opinions it will remain for you after a while.

   You say yourself that it hurts, so you don't feel well why you are struggling alone, I don't understand. what more do you want than for the man next to you to love you, of course, and to take care of you. Think if he deserves it ...

   What love? - you have certain habits towards this person (your wife) - not love - you have to distinguish between the two situations on your own. The first thing I think about infidelity - everyone does it - it's hard for me to believe that no one breaks - MAYBE THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS - no argument, I haven't come across such ... The reason why everyone breaks is that something he misses, it seems that you started like that, you lacked something - a little, but you lacked - understanding, communication, passion, attraction - small things that change you, that make you feel depressed. Yes, you can love it, but this is not love but affection .. And now, suddenly, someone appears who literally changes the air in your boring everyday life, brings a new rhythm, impulsiveness you feel your blood pulsing, there is some attraction between you, it's normal to give in, I also don't like infidelity, but I understand you, you cannot be loyal to someone who contributes to your painful daily life. In my opinion, you are depressed, aware of the situation and self-punishing with the guilt you feel, and do you ask yourself the question - are you the only one who contributed to this situation? Don't you understand that that's why we need two people - there are always two culprits - both for good and for bad ... You succumbed to attraction, but you had a reason for that, didn't you? Don't punish yourself or hurt yourself - what you feel is unnecessary - don't be mean, because here your decision simply came from a number of small events, but quite harmful ... Enjoy what you have, but be aware of how far you can go. Are you ready for separation and a new life with a new man, and also is he (the lover) ready? which contributes to your burdensome daily life. In my opinion, you are depressed, aware of the situation and self-punishing with the guilt you feel, and do you ask yourself the question - are you the only one who contributed to this situation? Don't you understand that that's why we need two people - there are always two culprits - both for good and for bad ... You succumbed to attraction, but you had a reason for that, didn't you? Don't punish yourself or hurt yourself - what you feel is unnecessary - don't be mean, because here your decision simply came from a number of small events, but quite harmful ... Enjoy what you have, but be aware of how far you can go. Are you ready for separation and a new life with a new man, and also is he (the lover) ready? which contributes to your burdensome daily life. In my opinion, you are depressed, aware of the situation and self-punishing with the guilt you feel, and do you ask yourself the question - are you the only one who contributed to this situation? Don't you understand that that's why we need two people - there are always two culprits - both for good and for bad ... You succumbed to attraction, but you had a reason for that, didn't you? Don't punish yourself or hurt yourself - what you feel is unnecessary - don't be mean, because here your decision simply came from a number of small events, but quite harmful ... Enjoy what you have, but be aware of how far you can go. Are you ready for separation and a new life with a new man, and also is he (the lover) ready? which you feel, and do you ask yourself the question - are you the only one who contributed to that situation? Don't you understand that that's why we need two people - there are always two culprits - both for good and for bad ... You succumbed to attraction, but you had a reason for that, didn't you? Don't punish yourself or hurt yourself - what you feel is unnecessary - don't be mean, because here your decision simply came from a number of small events, but quite harmful ... Enjoy what you have, but be aware of how far you can go. Are you ready for separation and a new life with a new man, and also is he (the lover) ready? which you feel, and do you ask yourself the question - are you the only one who contributed to that situation? Don't you understand that that's why two people are needed - there are always two culprits - both for good and for bad ... You succumbed to attraction, but you had a reason for that, didn't you? Don't punish yourself or hurt yourself - what you feel is unnecessary - don't be mean, because here your decision simply came from a number of small events, but quite harmful ... Enjoy what you have, but be aware of how far you can go. Are you ready for separation and a new life with a new man, and also is he (the lover) ready? You succumbed to attraction, but you had a reason for it, didn't you? Don't punish yourself or hurt yourself - what you feel is unnecessary - don't be mean, because here your decision simply came from a number of small events, but quite harmful ... Enjoy what you have, but be aware of how far you can go. Are you ready for separation and a new life with a new man, and also is he (the lover) ready? You succumbed to attraction, but you had a reason for it, didn't you? Don't punish yourself or hurt yourself - what you feel is unnecessary - don't be mean, because here your decision simply came from a number of small events, but quite harmful ... Enjoy what you have, but be aware of how far you can go. Are you ready for separation and a new life with a new man, and also is he (the lover) ready?

   What kind of mental harassment does it impose on you, if it is not a secret? And when you love him and he gives you his best, why do you cheat on him. You seem to be contradicting something or I don't understand you.

   Get clear what YOU want and who you want to be with! It is clear that you cannot be with both of them because sooner or later your husband will understand and become naughty for him and for you and especially for the child who is not guilty of anything! If you think that this new one will accept you with your child, if you eventually get divorced, just act! There is no point in tormenting yourself because this with your husband is not love but a habit! If you don't change something now, in time it will happen so "from 2 chairs and on the ground"!

   You can be with both. Everyone gives what he is capable of. Infidelity brings color and taste to the gray of everyday life, where we all repeat that we must be depressed and impersonal like them. Especially the thrill of the first meetings, this can not be compared to anything. Our husbands have long considered us "given in the task", why should they look for us as "unknown", so that they are not crazy !! It is more convenient for them, why shouldn't we act as it is more convenient for us ?! For example, my husband has not brought me flowers on any occasion, maybe for 3-4 years. If there is a holiday, the children buy them ... not to mention more attention. When we talk, he only talks about his work, once he didn't say - how is it with you? etc. etc.

   Hello! Don't let him subject you to mental harassment, it will destroy you. This is not love but a habit of living with this person. You say you're jealous, and I think jealousy is a disease. You love someone else, I agree, but you have to be careful. If you are ready for a divorce, do it, if you are not yet, think very well ... I wish you success and a lot of love ... be careful.

   With my first lover, I felt just like you, darling. I was tormented for about a year. My husband is very good, but he also inflicts mental harassment on me, especially since he began to doubt me. This forced me to take another lover for granted, and the good thing was that my conscience stopped eating. I caught the third one so as not to harm my husband's honor and self-esteem. When he forgets to buy me a gift and flowers for a holiday, I go to the third, because he always gives me something nice and valuable, and then I tell my husband that I took the money and I chose a gift to my liking and at the same time I am his saved shopping. This is how I raise his self-esteem and there is no murmur on my part, let alone a quarrel that he has forgotten about the holiday again. Illegally set aside money helps me against mental harassment - I just put on my shoes and let him harass the walls until he passes, and during this time I am with my first or second lover. Now I'm looking forward to his return from work and I'm thinking hard about what to do to make him shout again and start harassing me.

   Mine is also mentally harassing me, but thanks to the advice of № 8, I will now tell him the game ..... maliii .. how stupid I have been so far ...

   Ole male what happened to you were girls .... fuck. You are very jealous, but he harassed you. You're the same as my wife ... you just broke me. You are very strange when we are kind and caring men we are uninteresting and you lack thrill, and when we are like men we harass you and look for tenderness. Fuck. You want men but to be like women who are like men. I, on the other hand, want to know if someone is sleeping with my wife ... why should she present herself to me in one light and actually be another, let me choose for myself whether to be with her or not. You don't say to yourself that they were psychiatrists and they didn't trust you, but they also harassed you because they are worried about kissing you, who is eating it? And let me tell you that the man at number 8 is hardly so unaware of the scheme .... this is a male scheme most likely knows what you are doing and even more likely does the same with your best friend. To pretend that you don't know and you are jealous, but you are stupid, the ideal option is to swallow that it is clear that you do not stop and your wife has this right. Believe me, we invented this with the gifts .... we give them as gifts and not always to our wives :)

   When you change three, readable lovers and you get used to it, it will even become a habit. 10 years of marriage is nothing. If you know what awaits you. Don't get divorced. Just clean yourself. If there are no people like you, we men should stay dry. And that for the children to know. Small children, small problems. Big kids, big problems. What can I tell you? I fuck my wife every day in disgust, but she doesn't know.

   Hello. I read most of the comments. I would like to tell you that I fully understand you. I also know what you mean by your allegation of psychological harassment at home. In psychology, this is called the "Stockholm syndrome" or in other words, the victim falls in love with his tormentor. This is a survival strategy. One would say that she is not a victim. This is the mild form and has been present in too many families lately. There is no physical harassment, but there is a difficult life, financial dependence, insecurity and the unpleasant feeling that you are wrong, but nowhere. This set of factors leads to dependence and addiction with the only motive - security. And in order not to fall into a new trap, try to talk to the person with whom you feel good psychologically and emotionally and remember when you read the comments that your choice is the most important, you are important and you are responsible for yourself. Neither reproaches, nor excessive advice or slight hints of nagging will help you, because this is your life, your pain and because it is about you. Help yourself through dialogue with the one you truly love and I will be grateful if you answer me. I went through it too, but I went through a difficult time because I was fighting alone - through my own prison, loneliness to save myself, through fatigue and exhaustion from responsible work, through the collapse twice and through the love I don't have now, but I feel free, at the same time I have been married for 18 years. Help yourself through dialogue with the one you truly love and I will be grateful if you answer me. I went through it too, but I went through a difficult time because I was fighting alone - through my own prison, loneliness to save myself, through fatigue and exhaustion from responsible activities, through the collapse twice and through the love I don't have now, but I feel free, at the same time I have been married for 18 years. Help yourself through dialogue with the one you truly love and I will be grateful if you answer me. I went through it too, but I went through a difficult time because I was fighting alone - through my own prison, loneliness to save myself, through fatigue and exhaustion from responsible work, through the collapse twice and through the love I don't have now, but I feel free, at the same time I have been married for 18 years.