I cheated on my husband and he understood. Now his attitude is very nasty, for the second month now the only thing that makes me do it is to blow, slap and swallow him as he swears. My life has become hell, I ask for advice if someone has suffered the same.
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It's your fault. Infidelity is a great sin. To cheat means that you do not respect the person next to you. Talk and solve the problem.
Not that you don't deserve the treatment, but do you have to put up with it? After the infidelity, your paths forked, what did you expect - to love each other even more than before? It is normal for him to react negatively to your actions. Unfortunately, from now on, nothing good awaits you, because you have already jumped the bar, and he has allowed himself to be rude to you. Why are you with him at all, if you want to sleep with others? I do not understand such women. Don't you have self-esteem, can't you truly love?
Did you expect fanfare and French champagne? I'm going to fall, the man caught her splashing like an uncombed tap and she complains that he had a bad attitude towards her, hahaha ... you're kidding, aren't you?
And what did you expect? As the saying goes: "eat our meatballs riva". There will be no fixes. Be sure. And it is better not to, because even if you calm down now, years will pass and with each, even a slight occasion, this will come to light. And don't be tied to rumors that he will forget that he will forgive, etc. Or to the wit and "personal" experience you will get here. Just accept that you did something that can't be fixed. That you have reached a point of no return. And it no longer matters who was to blame, how, with whom, when and why. And as for the way your husband expresses himself ... it's a matter of personal culture. Maybe that's why you cheated, who knows. I'm talking to you from personal experience. I am a man and I have been in your husband's position. It took me years to fool myself that nothing irreparable had happened, but in the end things got scary. Whatever the woman was doing, it still seemed insufficient to me. And now I believe it. I just always thought that trust was like a glass - whoever breaks it first stays thirsty. And so. It's a pity about the situation, but first you think, and then your instincts, instincts, etc. Because instincts and instincts can be suppressed, and living life, relationships with people in 99% of cases get out of control. And lastly, think about it, if your husband had forgiven you sincerely and started to love you even more, how would you look at him? And in the future, won't it again ... this time because "my husband is such a weaver that ..."? It's a pity about the situation, but first you think, and then your instincts, instincts, etc. Because instincts and instincts can be suppressed, and living life, relationships with people in 99% of cases get out of control. And lastly, think about it, if your husband had forgiven you sincerely and started to love you even more, how would you look at him? And in the future, won't it again ... this time because "my husband is such a weaver that ..."? It's a pity about the situation, but first you think, and then your instincts, instincts, etc. Because instincts and instincts can be suppressed, and living life, relationships with people in 99% of cases get out of control. And lastly, think about it, if your husband had forgiven you sincerely and started to love you even more, how would you look at him? And in the future, won't it again ... this time because "my husband is such a weaver that ..."?
What about some infidelity? If you've played with him for months ... Give information? !!
And how do you agree with this "punishment"? !! Your husband drives at the first signal, and you let him! I can't imagine anyone forcing me to do all this. You don't have a gram of self-esteem, that's it! Apart from drawing the sad conclusion of what you married, I see nothing else. Eli
Bo. M39. And mine cheated on me, but I don't behave in the way described. Even sex got better. But mine continued to cheat on me for another 5 months after I found out. Are you still cheating on him?
Hi, I don't understand just why you are still standing with him, there are so many men in this world, you will always find a partner somewhere to complement you ... Why should he make fun of you, you may have cheated and in my opinion a person cheats only when he doesn't is satisfied enough, he didn't remember what it was like before the infidelity, but apparently he didn't do everything to keep you ... listen to me, don't let him make fun of you, don't lose the rest of the dignity you have, maybe you were wrong, maybe it would hurt a lot, but what you did will not be corrected so you can't take it anymore ... I hope I helped you with my advice
Come on, the double standard - if she is a woman and cheats, she is because her husband does not give her enough feelings and security, and when a man cheats, they start insulting him, what a scoundrel and a pig he is.
This is not true.
Number 2, it is not impossible after infidelity to love each other even more than before - sex is better than before. It just depends on the people. Apparently the author wants the man to be aggressive, so far he has behaved manners, and now he can afford it, because he always can? he shut his mouth ... both literally and figuratively ... Kubrat
Baba Penka does not approve of infidelity, but agrees with Eli's comment!
To Eli (number 6) - should she draw the sad conclusion about what kind of person she married? !? !? !? Hahahahaha. And why not - let him conclude what the fuck he married? !? !! How can you talk like that, Ellie? In this case, she is to blame and NOT him. It deserves the "punishment". Even that is not enough for her. You are very funny to me all of you here who will jump in to defend her and blame her husband for imposing this type of punishment on her. You are pathetic ... PS A woman marries, not "marries", as you put it :)) Eclipse
13, it is not at all clear for what reason the chick cheated. Do you remember that there will always be a reason and it is not necessarily the reason that she is k .... but by nature. But for whatever reason, it is absolutely unacceptable to behave like a total complex, as her so-called husband does, and for her to tolerate his complexities. This aggressive behavior, as Kubrat said, speaks precisely to the fact that the idiot has no other civilized way to deal with the situation, because he has so much brain. Not that before the infidelity was something different, just the author now sees it in all its glory most likely. PS Thanks for the correction, it is especially important - yes, a woman is getting married - what does this change in general in the direction of thought? Eli
God! This one doesn't even deserve to be pitied! If he was suffering, tormented, even scandalous to do - to understand him, to love him, but this is his joke! If you don't want to part with this complex, cheat on it again, and again, and again ... He shouldn't know, but you will feel revenge and retribution for the ugly and even more disgusting "smoking, swallowing and slaps ". I would not tolerate this idiot; to start cheating on him - something has pushed, bored or repulsed you in him. Honey, nothing good is waiting for you with your husband, he will not forget it and will not fail to tease you. He will even blackmail you for "your sin." This is disgusting! Poof! He hates me without knowing him! Get rid of him, he's pathetic!
Number 13, another's simplicity does not justify one's own. If he doesn't take your wife out, you will divorce her. In this case, the man? he uses her mistake to have a reason to do what he wants, and what he may have always wanted, but was not "decent." Not that the author sends from the mind, but also the man? he is not right ... Kubrat
Everyone deserves their destiny! As long as there are thugs, there will be fools. By allowing yourself to be trampled, they will trample you. Wasn't this the Arab world aloooo ??? Let's get her on the ladder and stone her, shall we? I am a woman too and I have cheated. But then, in addition to confessing, I made it clear to him that I would divorce if I had to, but I would not have sex with him again. And I don't! He prays for me for a year and a half, offers me money, finds all sorts of reasons to blackmail me to sleep with him again, but it won't happen. I live with him only because of the children and because I don't mind. I don't feel anything for him and I don't feel obliged to have sex with him. The fact that I am still his wife according to documents does not make me his mistress. And you, allowing them to behave like that with you, let them. In what century do we live at all? Have you heard of any self-esteem? Wow,
And why should she cheat on him, or fix the problem, or collect her rags and have no smoke. Yes, he is not right, to behave like that, but how you condemn him without knowing what is wrong with him and whether what is being told is the truth, or otherwise such a sincere and faithful girl, has not exaggerated. And by number 14 lol you seem to know him and you know what he was like before. What kind of women are you, they will kill you live, but otherwise you unite and defend against men as if for the last time, no matter who is guilty and who is not.
To be stoned to death by an adulteress! ... I'm kidding. Nothing can excuse what you did. If you had a problem with your husband and it did not satisfy you, it was right to talk to each other and openly and honestly clarify the situation. Not to "look for milk in someone else's barn" and lie to him. And if you stumbled and got carried away, the red light should have come on in time and you should refrain from the irreparable and withdraw. I think I can understand you, but I can't justify you. Now your husband is subjecting you to humiliation, which shows how disgusting he is that you have not preserved his dignity. Apologize to him and ask his forgiveness ... if you can. If not, pack your bags.
"blow, slap and swallow" - well arranged, I hope you come to your senses
Yes, no one knows who is guilty and who is not. But even if she is guilty, there is no man who can afford to behave in this way for this reason and a normal person to admire him! This is pure nonsense! However, obviously the male writers here are not a few, where you are on his mind! You are right - women's solidarity is a great job - just as much as men's! In most cases. There are exceptions, but this one is not among them. And the author and she are for e ... is where she tolerates it. № 14
18, that everyone deserves his destiny, and you deserve yours. I don't believe it's very nice to be in the company of someone you don't like every night. and the fact that you are pretending to be very great here does not change the fact that you are as guilty of your situation as your husband. But here, of course, you won't say to yourself ... You shout not to be humiliated, and don't you humiliate your husband in this way? What was it that was said above about the double standard? Probably the author's husband talks about her as you talk about your husband. The fact that you happened to a man a fool, which is left to you, does not do you the big job ... Kubrat
22 what do you expect them to write? On the Internet only sociopaths.
No normal uncomplexed man will do that. Where did you find it? Magicians
18, some time ago I lived with someone like you, very open, after 1 month I was waiting for the evening when I came home with a basin of water, washed my feet and drank the water ... you found a church to be baptized ...
Author, we just didn't understand, do you still love him and do you want to fix your relationship? Because many of us set out to insult and qualify him. We didn't really understand, are you sorry at all? And at least it was worth it? №25 - you are cute!
To 23 - Kubrat, from 18 - There is a saying - either you are good or you live well! I personally prefer the latter. I do not like such family "events" such as "fight, sex and Serbian music". I do not humiliate my husband, on the contrary, I have given him the right to personal choice - other women, divorce ... whatever he wants. And the fact that he prefers to be with me even after infidelity does not make him a fool. It is quite far from the simplicity that apparently moves the few brain cells left to the author's husband.
Very dumb performance chick. He will not believe you for anything in the future. So you either last or you disappear. Because it's your fault. Andy
Number 18/28, well, why is she with you then, since she's not a fool, she doesn't have sex with you and obviously you don't care much about him? I see no reason to stay with a woman I don't? she cares about me and I don't even have sex with her. Even if I can date other women, why not go straight to them? Something is wrong with your story ... I don't know if and to what extent you don't humiliate him, but your previous comment was definitely not very respectful to him ... I'm of your opinion about the hero of the story, I don't justify it, but this is not yours it was very far from the female version of the same thing ... Kubrat
It's better for everyone on their way ... once trust is broken, it's hard to come back ...
I want to tell you that you are really guilty, but I shouldn't treat you like that. Although infidelity is a very serious thing, it can't make you a rag. In my opinion, if you do not solve your problem SOON, you better separate!
I would be your penalty right away! I wouldn't even approach you, let alone "slaps and swallows." yours is obviously very upset to use you as blood ;-)
Number 27, thanks for the compliment. Author, you say nothing. Are you still fighting and blowing or are you already separated? It can be complexes, but his are in excess. Still, he didn't share how he found out about the infidelity? Because with us there is no understanding, if there is something everyone says to himself. And in general, how do you tolerate such an attitude? Magicians
almost the same thing happened to me, but after a while it passed, now I'm fucking others again but I'm careful, I only do it if I'm sure he won't understand
36 - tried to lie, but failed.
I'm sure almost everyone here knows firsthand what infidelity is, but you say it's normal to treat it like an animal! Why? !! Because is she a woman? !! Author, honestly, you are very simple. They make you rubbish, and you agree. How can we help you here? !! Let's stop his hand from hitting you so that you can safely swallow it ..
You're glad he's still with you
Hahaha well, does it just seem to me that he is an unhappy complex, and she is in a hurry and enjoys a little sadomasochism? I got a little aroused at the thought of blowing, slapping and swallowing;) ... because, unless she's addicted in some way, there's no real reason to stay with him if she doesn't like it.
this man of yours is wrong to behave like that with you and what you allow to get rid of it is not that men are over it is disgusting how you will live with him he has to harass you for life
Well, after reading here I became convinced that no woman is not a WHORE !!!
My story is similar. After 4 years / lost / we divorced by "mutual consent". Now I am happy with the woman I live with.
45 - don't do that, I lost 25 years with an interesting girl. I was hoping she would cheat on me so I could find an opportunity to dump her. In the end I found a girlfriend and got divorced with a lot of fuss, but in the end I kept the companies and the apartments and mine got absolutely nothing.
If what is written is true, such an attitude is unacceptable no matter what you do. I would report the domestic violence to the police. 44, long before you came to that conclusion, I came to the conclusion that all men are whores.
Woman: Why when a man sleeps with 8 women is a dude, and when a woman sleeps with 3 men is a whore? The man: When a lock can be opened with 3 keys, it is useless, but when a key can open 8 different locks, it is priceless ...
Many commentators, but you have not been in such a situation. So when my husband found out about the infidelity, he immediately asked us to divorce. I couldn't deny it, I just couldn't. I was guilty, and no matter how much I explained to him that I loved him, nothing worked. He was adamant. I became convinced that it is very difficult to explain to one person that you love him and you are cheating on another. My husband used to say "how do you love me so much and you licked someone else's balls". Go explain yourself .. I was very scared of the divorce, I cried and begged him not to divorce because of the children. I know they won't find a better father. I cried and told him that I would take revenge on him, I would carry my cross all my life and it would never happen again. He yells at me it will never be the same between us. I again insisted that we not divorce, I told him to humiliate me, to be rude to me, to cheat on me, I will tolerate just not doing it in front of the kids when we are both doing with me whatever you want. Then he screamed and shouted at me to take off my pants. At first I blocked, he repeated. I took them off and he turned his back on me at the table. I stood there waiting for tears to flow from my eyes. Nothing followed. I turned and watched him sit on the couch and cry. I cried too. God calls me how far we have come. We didn't get divorced, I keep blaming myself internally for what I did to him. I imagine what was on his soul. I took the lessons. However, our marriage was strengthened and we raised two wonderful children. I did not betray him anymore, I am his whole body and spirit, there is no other man for me. I love him much more than before because he never rude to me, hinted at me or reminded me of my infidelity. He never shows doubt in me.
up to 50 - And yet you are impudent, because you say you loved him, you swallowed someone else's balls. Would you try to explain it because I don't understand that either.
Abe, if one woman bumps into another, don't expect her to be a man with you !!!
Number 50, your story touched me and is very instructive. The important thing is that in your heart you deeply repented and eventually repented. Your husband is an exceptional man once he has found the strength to forgive your betrayal. It is good to learn more of such examples of the great power of repentance and forgiveness. No one is insured against such a transgression. In fact, among the grave sins, reading is the most banal, but the devastation it inflicts is often cruel. How many women are killed for infidelity, how many families break up for infidelity, how many children's tears are shed because of one fucking of us adults ... That's why it's good that he shared his story, which shows that this is not always the end and that one can find the strength to get back on track. I will also share my personal story. 7 years ago I divorced my first wife because of her infidelity with my "friend". When I learned the ugly truth, I was overwhelmed. I was inclined to forgive her if she had repentance, but the duck was in love and it was over. The result of her stupidity is that our family broke up, and the child bears the trauma of divorce to this day. That's why I was glad that despite your madness, your family survived. In principle, families in which female infidelity is detected very rarely survive. your family survived. In principle, families in which female infidelity is detected very rarely survive. your family survived. In principle, families in which female infidelity is detected very rarely survive.