I don't know how to start .... maybe I should mention that I am 24 years old and I have had a serious relationship with a man of 28 for almost 7 years. I left my job a few months ago because I experienced a tragedy in my family person). This somehow affected my job a lot and I left. Since then, the problems in my relationship have started - accusations, insults, attacks that I can't work and look at my life like people and other things I want to save. And all this from the man I considered the closest, namely my friend. At the beginning of August I started a new job with new and exceptional people, with whom I complemented as a team and as a person. And then I met HIM! Kind, considerate, caring, everything a woman needed and I didn't have. I'll save the details from the courtship to how I ended up in his bed ... it just happened. The worst thing is that I do not regret and continue this relationship. My friend suspects me, but I stubbornly deny it. My colleague also has another relationship, but later admitted that he has strong feelings for me ... and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I still love the man next to me, I don't know how I feel about the other. My boyfriend and I also talked about marriage, and I don't know if I want him anymore. I don't know what to do, should I admit it ??? Should I end my other relationship or the one with my friend. Please give me advice, and if you want, then blame me. Thanks! My boyfriend and I also talked about marriage, and I don't know if I want him anymore. I don't know what to do, should I admit it ??? Should I end my other relationship or the one with my friend. Please give me advice, and if you want, then blame me. Thanks! My boyfriend and I talked about marriage, and I don't know if I want him anymore. I don't know what to do, should I admit it ??? Should I end my other relationship or the one with my friend. Please give me advice, and if you want, then blame me. Thanks!
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Hello! Why should anyone reproach you? You didn't do anything wrong. You just fell in love :). If you are more in love with the "new" - discard the previous one. Talk to the new one to find out if he will support you in your decision. Things are very complicated, you know best, but know one thing - do not turn your back on love with one person because of the habit with the other. The person next to you should support you, not scold you when you are in difficulty. You are now 24 ... Think, will you be able to count on this person when you turn 40? Even if the relationship with the new one does not turn out to be very long - experience your love. This is my advice, I know you will make the right decision .... SUCCESS
Hello! There is really nothing to blame you for. You are a young 24 year old girl. Life is in front of you, do not doom yourself to the first one you have feelings for. You can easily cheat by having sex with another person. This happens every day and will continue to happen as long as the world shines, you are not the first nor will you be the last. Having sex with someone else is not a problem. The problem is that you do not regret what happened. Only from this fact, I conclude that the love for your former friend has disappeared. And the question is not whether it is so, but how long it has been so, whether from August or from one, two, three years, if you go back and look at your behavior and communication between you, you will see that maybe you have nothing to stay for. with this person, especially since he did not support you in a difficult time when you needed strength, not reproach. I don't know if the person you cheated on with will be the person to whom you can direct your feelings, especially after cauldrons you will meet someone else, but don't enslave yourself with your current partner. As far as I understand he is the first serious man in your life, I do not know if he is the only one, but even more so if so, my advice is to end your relationship. Meet other men until you are engaged, you will see that among them you will find another more suitable than him, you do not have to have sex with everyone just look to meet men of all types to understand what kind of man suits you at most, this way you will save yourself problems after a while, when you will eventually have a family, then you will live and be surrounded, and you will not have the opportunity and then the infidelities will really deserve reproach. I have a cousin who started a relationship at the age of 15, which lasted 7 years and we all thought it would be the man, until one day he told us that he was engaged to another, and after 5 months he married a third with whom they already have 2 children and are very happy. So judge for yourself, but as hard as it is for you to break away from me, to know that everything is experienced over time. Success!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the advice, I felt much better :)
You know, look at things this way. When you don't live with a man he will look very attentive, kind, you will just say to yourself, isn't there a flaw ... he thinks a little soberly ... he probably hasn't shown his darker side yet..because usually in the beginning is both a little intoxicated by the thrill, but it's not all ... just because you get along with this boy now doesn't mean it will be the same in the future. Don't dump your boyfriend just because you've met someone who's doing everything for you now, not for anything else, but because you're not his yet. I don't know, maybe the boy is really good, but keep in mind what I said above. Such a connection is not deleted just like that ... You will decide ... success !!!
I also support the comments! SUCCESS!
Hello from me too! I have almost the same problem at the moment and it is very difficult for me to make any decision. Its terrible! I think on the one hand, I think on the other ... and I seem to be even more confused. So it seems that it is best to wait - that is, if your new friend wants a relationship with you more serious and engaging, he will show it to you. After all, he also has a girlfriend - if he hasn't broken up with her, why should you be fucked and do it first. In one of the comments above, I read that they advise you to share your intentions with the new boy, and I advise you to do so. See how he will react! And then let's think about it. Maybe he will withdraw, get scared and then what ... what is such a man for you ?! I'm squeezing your thumbs! BE HAPPY!
Every new thing is a thrill, and whether it is more time shows. Just remember that an old friend is worth as much as two new ones!
Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for the advice. I am now much happier with my new love, we got together and I feel wonderful. Thanks for having people like you because I really needed advice! I wish you from the bottom of my heart all the happiness on earth :)))
HELLO, I READ YOUR STORY WITH GREAT INTEREST AND I AM VERY HAPPY THAT YOU HAVE MADE THE RIGHT DECISION AND ARE NOW HAPPY. I WISH YOU SUCCESS !!!
Live your love !!!
haha, how can you compare the person who has been with you for 7 years with someone you met yesterday .... what so, everyone has bad moments and he, like his people, happens to lose steam, and the new one .... what to Wouldn't your friend not have been nice and romantic in the beginning, huh? we are all "nice and romantic" in the beginning, the question is .... who is really ready for something more than the initial kind attitude and a few times in bed
Talk to your official friend and why he is like that! Then think about what to do!
darling, I think you should leave your friend and not admit to him what you did! Obviously, your relationship has cooled down since the infidelity occurred, and if you admit it to him now, you will complicate things even more! -If you love two people, choose the second person. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t fall for the second one Johnny Depp
No. 13, this story is so old, and now you remember to give advice. Besides, I doubt Johnny Depp put it that way. I don't speak perfect English, but as far as I know it's called fall in love, not fall for love.