And I don't even feel guilty ... I've had incidents without feelings ... But now it's not that simple. I slept with my best friend! We have known each other for about 20 years. Haven't I been in love with him all my life without knowing it? !! We've never done anything before, why last night? And how will we continue our relationship after that? !! I am confused and do not think soberly. Everyone has known for a long time that we are just friends ... but since last night we are not just that. And I miss him ... I even miss his hand holding my bye .. I remember crying, wondering what we created under the influence of the party and alcohol .. And he laughed and kissed me .. he said I think a lot .. True is that I think a lot and wonder. I have other problems ... in 2-3 days I will give notice to work, the situation is painful .. could this have affected me for the nonsense I did ...
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If you haven't cheated, nothing so terrible has happened. There may have been some feelings for him over time. Or it may be the same with him. Sit down and talk about what happened. Who knows, you can start a relationship, and friendship in a relationship is priceless and few people have it with a partner.
When I read the headline that you did something terrible, all sorts of scenarios went through my head. And the fact that you slept with your best friend will pour water into the mill of those who claim that there is no friendship between a man and a woman - ever It comes down to sex. And from the fact that neither of you feels guilty, it is clear to me that you both had feelings - you just did not show them.
You will experience it, somehow.
In general, I am terribly negative, but this post awakened in me a long-dormant optimism .. Tighten up to get married. These are the strongest marriages! And the most wonderful families in which the most wonderful children are born! Sex is just a decoration to all the trust you have built with each other. Relationships are trust, nothing else. The other is everyday life, dramas and instincts, which are not important at all
it's so awful! You use very strong words :-) I was expecting to read some bloody drama with elements of thriller, action and incest, and she slept with her best friend, please :-) What do you think of him? Maybe it's time for both of you to go to a new stage in your relationship. If you've been friends for 20 years, you're not a teenager who doesn't know what they want, take it and talk about your relationship. Not a big drama, calm down :-)
Another one that doesn't count its cups. If you don't drink, why do you drink and drink on an equal footing with men? And then your pants fall off easily. And the next day, when some dramas, some miracles begin ... Calm down, you are not the first, you are not the last. If he liked it, he would look for you for more. He does not consider it as shock and horror, but simply as it is - no.
You had "events" and without feelings ??? !!! It is clear what the "events" are. Some behave like ..., act like ... ("events" for example), but if you tell them ... - they get angry! If you call that "events", then if you "slept" - then it was a terrible orgy! Nothing bad. And let the "male-female" friendship specialists get involved. And in the meantime, you can be "just friends" - until next time. And ask him if he will be your "friend" in case you are not sexually attracted to him! No, no - if you "burn" curiosity!
In my opinion, there is no best friend of the opposite sex. Sooner or later the feelings escalate. Of course, there are exceptions, but I think that is exactly the case with you
Wow, she did something terrible because she slept with her best friend, but you don't say if you did anything but hold hands and kiss. If you still know each other from kindergarten, 20 years is a long time. Before you slept with him, how many others did you sleep with and was it awful with them? Come on with these horrible female experiences of yours.
You're dramatizing .... What, you made me have sex that you're leaving .... part of life. As one reads the title, one imagines an apocalypse.
In my opinion, now you have even become closer! Nothing bad has happened, love and its physical incarnation are a wonderful thing! As you wrote it, it seems to me that you are both experiencing friendly love, which has grown into something more sentimental and an idea more intimate!
Since when is pleasure "nonsense" !? What has happened is that you have made each other happy (as long as he has performed well), so the friendship will be strengthened, and maybe grow into the next stage, that's how things happen.
I opened it just to see if it was something I didn't do.
It is impossible to think about any connection between us, I am engaged, he has a girlfriend, but he told me that it is not something serious ... His wife cheated on him some time ago and the result is that he is no longer married, and then drove him on connections. There was a period 8-10 years ago we were both free, he asked to be with me ... but I could not accept sleeping with my best friend and tactfully did not agree ... And I was drinking again, and I did not accept .. so alcohol is not the reason .. We are as close as characters, tastes, thinking, if you will and zodiac sign and music ... I feel so close to me .. And I'm convinced that he me, it is obvious . I think he took over .. x life when I refused him then ... Now I will pick up my cock - we should have been together 10 years ago and I am responsible for this with the nonsense about friendship, in which I believed for 20 years .. I was not aware of myself and here is the result. Number 2 hit the mark obviously - there is no other explanation.
You will say it is the big deal. You expose yourself to these topics. It seems that only Bratan writes well here. Black Sabbath
You have no idea how much I dreamed of what you did - at least a few years, even now after many more years I remember my best friend. She never shared my feelings while sighing at her beloved prince, and our friendship died after a time when I fell in love with another woman. So if you're still reading the topic, act, don't leave it at that. As you were told, this is how the best, most stable and lasting relationships become. Clarify your relationship with your best friend and if you are both single, get married, have a nice wedding and have a bunch of kids :)
If 10 years ago he wanted to be with you, and now you regret that you cut him off .... It's not a pure friendship and never was!
Applause for the man who came out of the friend zone !!!
From n. 16, now I saw the author's comment. That's why I gave up my friendship with my best friend. Because sooner or later the same situation would come. She did not want to be with me after years and I went to fuck and listened to the complaints from the Prince ... Finally I got tired and caught another girl with whom we fell in love strongly and sincerely. At that moment, I just realized that she has no place in my life, of course there was a lot of drama, but we ended things with her anyway. Which doesn't stop me from thinking about her from time to time after so many years. As advice to the author - you have already cheated with feelings, so your relationship is going to hell. If you don't have children, try to reunite with your "best friend" anyway. If you have children ... hard work. Don't think these things in time, such a friendship between a man and a woman exists if both grams do not like each other physically, and yet there is no guarantee that such attraction will not appear in the future. Then things go to hell, as you can see ...
We've been writing to each other every day since then .. we haven't seen each other, but we're sitting on FB non-stop ... and we're already planning again, our chat turned to sex chat .. He writes that he wants me, I want him too ... Obviously I will we are together when we can, rarely that we both work hard and are at both ends of the city .. In any case, we live one life and I will take the chance to be a woman again. If it matters, we are both 43, and our halves are completely different ... Author.
You're right, life is one and short so do what you feel. And after so many years of friendship, you will not find a deeper emotional connection. No boyfriend can match what you have with this man