Hello! I want to tell you about my relationship with my friend. I am 20 and he is 27. We have been together for almost 5 months. So what happened. One night I went to them and we had a good time - we talked, we laughed. Because I'm a student and I had to finish my homework. Anyway, I wrote my homework, my friend even helped me and it was late and I had to go home. He asked us to have sex (we hadn't had sex for 1 day), and I told him it was too late, I had to go home. And he began: -Oh, so if you want, I will refuse you. -Ammy, you're a man, you don't want to refuse me. -Oh means you can if you want, and I can't if I don't want to? What do you want - to look for another? The moment he said his words, I just couldn't believe he said it and slapped him. He got very angry and hit me in the face too .. I wanted to leave, I just couldn't stand watching him, I didn't want to be in his house, but he stopped me, started explaining to me how I should treat him, that I had started drooling a lot lately, started telling how and that's what happened to his ex ... and at that moment I was furious (I hate him talking to me about his exes and everything related to them and he knows very well) .. I came home a while ago and now I'm writing on this site. I want to hear opinions from both sexes. I want to know if it's my fault or he ... and what to do, because I'm so confused and I never expected this from someone who thinks he's a MAN! he started to tell how it happened to his ex ... and at that moment I was furious (I hate him talking about his exes and everything related to them and he knows very well) .. I came home a while ago and now I am writing in this site. I want to hear opinions from both sexes. I want to know if it's my fault or he ... and what to do, because I'm so confused and I never expected this from someone who thinks he's a MAN! began to tell how it happened to his ex ... and at that moment I was furious (I hate him to talk about his exes and everything related to them and he knows very well) .. I came home a while ago and now I'm writing in this site. I want to hear opinions from both sexes. I want to know if it's my fault or he ... and what to do, because I'm so confused and I never expected this from someone who thinks he's a MAN!
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You are both guilty. You just don't love each other and you don't fit. He who loves himself wants to be with the other in the first place. The woman in love does not refuse her lover, because she also has a desire for him, longs for intimacy and love with him. A man in love would feel the mood of his beloved and would not behave like that, let alone hit the woman he loves. But you didn't owe him anything at that point either ... You're playing with fire, because every man is stronger physically than you and this one may have controlled himself, but the next one may beat you up. Don't hit a man! This is vital for a woman, as long as not hitting a woman for men is a matter of culture and upbringing, but once you crush them, no one will lie in the hospital. Hitting someone weaker than you is a sign of weakness, but hitting someone stronger than you is a sign of insanity and is life threatening. ... I don't know you why are you together when you don't love each other, but in your place I would end such a relationship. The reasons are very deep, but now you have a reason. Leave while you still can. You are not for each other! Guilt doesn't matter, you just DON'T LOVE YOURSELF.
How and why are they together? Did it ever occur to you that the girl might be a whore?
The boy felt neglected and unwanted. Then you tried to annoy him by hitting him. Where is his fault? That he responded to your slap? Well, that's an automatic reaction. If you want to be respected, respect! As for sex: if there is passion and desire, there will always be even 5 minutes for a quick fire extinguishing. Think about whether you love your partner and if you are sure, talk to him and try not to touch each other too easily and talk before you impose on yourself the meanings of what the other has said. F27
You are both guilty. First, you are not an inflatable doll that you can use whenever you want. Everyone needs a little free space to do their homework, in this case your homework. Your friend must learn to respect your moods, and your refusals, as well as you his. Being a man DOESN'T MEAN that he can't deny you sex !!! He may have a headache, be tired, have some work to do ... so BOTH, change your attitude towards sex!
Off, the kindergarten again ... Horror! When will you grow up ?!
It's normal that you don't always have sex, as you do, even if you love each other a lot. No general conclusions can be drawn from one or two refusals, but you both behaved immaturely. Slapping him for such remarks is ridiculous, and for him to retaliate is a rude rural event that you should not allow to happen again, ie you should not be with a man who attacks you. And you heal your nerves. You are probably not for each other.
First, he may have joked that he was going to look for another woman, and after you hit him, what kind of slap did he give you back? If he was strong - yes, get angry, leave and don't turn around anymore, but if he was light enough to give it back to you, it wasn't intentional, what are you worried about? Do you love each other It is not normal to behave this way at the beginning of a relationship, you should be crazy about each other and everything should be rosy for you.
7, this pink usually for this time interval has already subsided and if it has not passed into love the relationship falls apart because the eye was love there was no accidental refusal to become an occasion for scandal.
From the author: to number 1: I don't know if you have sex with your boyfriend / husband every day, but this is not the case with us. When we started doing it every day and for 2 weeks, he started having erection problems, not every time he was "ready" for sex. I understand him, I think it's completely human, and I've never had a problem with that. Yes, there have been cases where I wanted him to, and he couldn't, but I've never done it to problem .. I always understood it .. So I want to say that when for example we have not done for 1-2 days and for him and for me sex is much better. Not only did I have to go home, I also refused him from that point of view. True, I may have gone too far, but I don't think he has every right in the situation. I love him very much, I think he loves me too, because he has proved it to me many times.
Author, believe me - it is not normal to have such a relationship. How often there will be sex is not the problem, the problem is your attitude towards each other and you will see for yourself - your relationship will not last long or you will end up like another noisy and thrashing bg. family.
Well, at first you are furious and you complain to us, but the next day you impatiently ran back to them. some women are very uncharacteristic ... you obviously let him know he told you 2, 3 dear storytellers and now you are singing another song! people tell you what they think, from interrogation, etc ... stay with him to do with you whatever he wants!