Hello .. thanks in advance to everyone who will respond .. ..my story in brief..3 years I went with a wonderful boy .. I went 400 km from our hometown to study..and one fine day he decided that everything should end .. he told me that it was best for both of us .. He gave me thousands of reasons ..which I seemingly accepted..without thinking I tell you that I deserved it..by these years I treated him like a stranger..I didn't show him how much I love him..and I only now realize the reality .. I cheated on him .. he caught me..he begged me not to do it anymore .. he cried is to stay with him .. where and what I did not ask he did not give it to me .. several times it happened to me to catch me with coca .. then for the first and last time he allowed himself to slap me .. here's what I had a man next to me ..he was ready to enter the fire for me .. And our plans for the future..they were the best I remember .. We haven't been together for a little over half a year..everyone has their own life ... I deliberately avoid to go home so as not to see him .. several times through tears I asked him to get together .. but he is adamant .. he says that he feels calmer without me .. that he was better that the one with which is currently good and dedicated .. as I have never been .. There is the problem that I can not always run away from the place where I grew up .. almost every time I go home we see each other .. we talk about the past things .. we remember how nice it was together .. we have sex and so much..and all this is repeated many times .. on the eve of the New Year holidays we quarreled very fiercely ... he shouted in my face that last year was a torture to be with me ...that he no longer feels a drop of that love in which he once swore .. after a few days he called me and told me to go to ... I felt that something was wrong and ran .. I found him drunk and drugged ... he cried again and said that he loved me .. for 5 months we had not heard from each other..no seen until last night ..... He started drinking a lot..I also hear from our common acquaintances that from time to time he was shaking. .and I don't know what to think .. neither the mind .. nor the heart is in my favor ... I can't decide for myself how to act .... If only I believed that he loves me .. and that he doesn't look for me only for sex ..again once again I would swallow my pride and talk to him about us ..but the problem is that I can't judge how he feels about things..is because he is tired of the same thing for 3 years and that's why you are now has disbanded the chain in pubs and restaurants ..or because he suffers from our separation, he does all this .. The other day he told me that love like ours can't end like that..he said that we will be like some of our acquaintances..even after they broke up 3 years later .. "My request to you is to comment on what has been written .. I will follow the comments regularly and I hope that someone will give me guidance on how to proceed .. although I guess what will be your reactions .. please do not judge me too harshly ....please don't judge me too harshly ....please don't judge me too harshly ....
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At the moment you understand how he felt all this time. I would end things obviously a lot of pain and frustration has accumulated on both sides and you will hardly be able to avoid the pursuit of revenge if you get together. After what didn't happen before, it is unlikely to happen now. Those things either happen or they don't happen with relationships. Beauty does not happen by force :-)
And I'm thinking of advising you to leave this man..I can't judge if he's looking for you just for sex, but what you did to him won't be able to swallow him..even if he has the biggest heart in the world .. always you will remember each other fondly .. but listen to him dear girl .. accept your separation peacefully and meekly and so much ..after time, if it is written to you you will gather again ... From me so much ..I will also follow the comments you receive and if you wish I will respond for advice again ..
There is no point in looking for it. Whatever it was! It is normal for him not to love you anymore and it is normal for him to feel calmer without you. Now he can only feel sorry for you and ask you to see him sometime. You hurt him a lot and you did it yourself. Dull your selfishness, which you confuse with the love left in you!
If you try to talk to him, I guess he, like you, will feel better, maybe he'll realize that he has to go in the right direction again, just like you. That when you lost it you realized how much you love it ... it doesn't surprise me because with all of us it's like that when we lose some of whom we held dear I realize it late. No one has the right to sue you..and I wouldn't do it..just you have to realize what you lost and win it again ... but you also have to change..I wish you success..and hope everything goes well .. Upside down .. you have the rest!
You missed the moment both, and with these drugs - this is the greatest possible stupidity .....
I think that if you live together for a while in a flat, it will be clear if you are for each other. And without drugs. I wonder what you're waiting for not to get married. You make him an offer and if he says goodbye and that's it.
from the author: Dear people, you all tell me to forget him..I came to this conclusion myself..And today how I cried when I saw him driving around with his new girlfriend ... I know I have no right to I'm angry..but it hurts terribly..today I cried all day..my mother saw me and that's how she made me ..And I've always been so firmly on my feet ... I can't believe myself .. how could I get to such a place degree to miss and at this age to cry for a man..you know..I'm only 22 years ..and I even thought to end my life..but I looked at it from another angle..6I live in defiance of the world ..because if he hasn't been able to love me .. another will have this happiness ... there are passengers for every train ..
So I also loved a boy, but I didn't show him, while he showed me his love all the time, and I pretended to be interesting. But now things have turned around and for almost a year now I have been very much in love with him, but I am still with someone else, but only he is in my heart. Otherwise, the boy I'm just adoring me and I feel very nasty and guilty that I can't reciprocate, but that's another thing and I want to tell you that if you really feel love for your boy, don't you miss. It doesn't make sense to just bet yourself, if you really love him, fight and don't miss him, because I'm so sorry. Change your attitude towards him and show him every time you have the opportunity to love him;)
I think you should hear your heart and show him what you failed to do before, even later, but better late than never. so that you don't regret it, at least try it.
Hi. I want to tell you that my story is a bit like yours .. but there are quite different things I want to tell you that he does all this because he really loves you and wants you to come together .. but his pride has become as unwavering as yours. I suggest you see each other in private and talk soberly about you and your relationship. And if you love him, you still have to insist on coming together and helping him get on the right track. Tell him that alcohol and drugs will not solve his problems on the contrary. Talk to him without even thinking ... because life goes on and no one can stop him ... I wish you success
Look people, I may seem small, but internally I'm not. I like a boy, and I don't know if he likes me. So he has already changed about 10 boyfriends, and I'm obviously far behind with the material. I really like him, we are in the same class and I have known him for as long as I can remember. He's amazing. In some cases, he treats me and others terribly, but no matter how hard I try to be angry, I can't. I really like it. But what to do ... I have no intention of exposing myself if I tell him and he cuts me off. And again, I say I'm small on the outside, but not on the inside ... not to mention how big my heart is.
I know what it is and I am so ..
I am in a similar situation from the boy's point of view. I love my ex-girlfriend, but as much as I go she begs me I would not come back because after everything I experienced revanchism in me will ruin our relationship.