Hello, I am 20 years old and have been having sex for 4 years, I have been with both of them and I have not had an orgasm with either of them. My current boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and a few months now, during which time we have sex almost every night, but I can't have an orgasm, I've been simulating for a long time so as not to make my boyfriend feel bad. At the same time, I feel very bad, because I'm sure the problem is in me, neither with the first boy I slept, nor with the second I had an orgasm, I don't even know what it is. ; (I have almost no desire for sex, if I'm without a friend I probably can't do it for years I feel like half a woman. Please give me some advice what to do
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Go to a gynecologist first to rule out a physical cause - hormonal imbalance, cysts, etc. If you are physically normal ... the question remains - did you first experience an orgasm during masturbation? If you haven't masturbated, that's your main problem. Buy a lubricant (for example on Durex) and start! Another important factor is to rule out the possibility of pregnancy, because it kills desire in many women. There are two options for unborn women - contraceptives or condoms. There is no middle ground ... go to a gynecologist and let him consult you. Otherwise - your body is yours. Everything depends on you. And to change 10 partners, if you have never masturbated and you do not know your body alone, how do you want others to know it?
Are you masturbating? Do you reach orgasm on your own? If this is the case, then the problem is in both the boy and you. He should arouse you for a longer time, you should find the right posture and not bother to help yourself in the act with him. It will work out. If not, then you may need expert advice.
So what are you simulating like you've never experienced !? Stop this as soon as possible, because one day you will start experiencing real orgasms and then your boy's light will come on. A little about the reasons: you are too young, many people did not experience an orgasm until their mid-20s, regardless of the number of partners. Another possibility is not to be excited enough, to be distracted by some thoughts, worries; your partner ends too quickly, you have hormonal problems, etc. Be sure to consult a gynecologist and, if necessary, a sexologist. And don't worry. Orgasm will happen to you!
I can't masturbate alone, I've tried and still nothing becomes a pleasure.
I will follow the topic.
Well, author, I already told you - go to the doctor to rule out a physical cause. In most women, the problem is hormones. However, you may also have a psychological problem. There are generally no frigid people, but there are people who choose to live this way and not be treated. Not bad, because asexuality is also a form of sexuality and everyone has the right to choose their lifestyle. However, if you are not happy, I advise you to do something. If there are no hormones, cysts ... it is not a shame to undergo psychoanalysis. Otherwise, the problem is not in your partners, obviously if you "can't" masturbate. And to change ten partners, if you don't get to know each other, if you don't do something - the situation will remain the same. I hope the reasons are physical and you can be cured by going to a gynecologist and some hormonal pills ...
I went to the gynecologist many times because I have a lot of menstrual problems (I have a very irregular cycle) and I take hormonal pills, but I have never told the gynecologist about this problem because I am a little worried.
To Number 3: I'm sick of not knowing what I'm simulating. I start making louder noises and shout that I'm done stopping, that I've had an orgasm. If you say that up to 20 years it is normal then not to worry. With all my friends, who are about 20 years old and we are constantly talking about sex, I explain that every time they almost reach the end, how cool it was and so on, and I feel very sick.
... well, author, if you have hormonal problems - tell your doctor, because obviously this is the reason. Otherwise - no, it's not normal. Most women end up as young as 12-14 when masturbating, and even before that. At the age of 20, it is not normal not to experience sexual satisfaction. Read, watch porn - there is no sexually mature healthy woman who can not cum with clitoral stimulation. At age 20, most women have had hundreds of orgasms. It's harder with a partner, but it also happens. Don't relax and don't think things will work out on their own.
Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like I'm 20 now, I have sex almost every night and I don't really enjoy it. It's just not normal, I'm so young and I have no desire for sex, it really sucks. I want to ask you do you know any ways, herbs or any other things that I can easily reach orgasm?