My husband and I have been together for more than two years and we have a child. During pregnancy, he began to be not very nice to me and sometimes allowed himself to insult me. He kept hinting to me that I wasn't doing anything, etc., and I had health problems. After the birth of the child on the way out of the hospital, he quarreled with me. Over time, sex thinned out (he claimed to be eternally tired). And I'm a woman who always wants to look good. I loved him very much, and now I have no desire to be with him, he constantly makes me nervous. Maybe there is one, I don't know what to think anymore. It is good that the child brings joy into my life, because I live in America and I am completely alone. I only really love him and I don't want him to suffer because of his mother's whims. I want to have a father by my side. This is the reason why I am afraid to leave my husband ..... And I really want to change things for the better ...
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Your child does not need an angry father and an unhappy mother. I think I answered you. Be bolder. You will do it.
Leave him, you can't be with a person who makes your life unbearable because of the child. It is not good for the child to live in the environment that his father creates.
If you ask me, it is best to sit down and clarify the issue, because all this will not have a happy ending. The sooner you finish, the better for all of you.
It is not important for the child to be raised by two parents, but to grow up in an environment that will make him a full and significant person.
I lived with my ex-husband for 18 years because of our son, but things were getting worse. For the last 5 years before the divorce, we lived as roommates and it was humiliating for me. I am sorry that we did not divorce in the third year after our marriage, because he was not good for my son anyway, and my youth went to insults and tears. You don't want your life to go that way, do you? Rethink once again all the pros and cons of this marriage and make the best decision for yourself, because for the child you will always remain his mother and father even if you are separated, and your life will pass so quickly without you knowing what is to love you truly.
Oh my! We need to start a club for the unhappy! We are many! And I can't muster the courage to end this miserable existence of mine called "marriage." I've been so married since day one that I don't speak. And I stand because of the child, and I don't know where his end will come ... Why are we so crazy and don't realize things in time before it's too late ... Life goes on and we won't get younger ... And we waste it ourselves standing and trembling with horror at what we will do alone with the children .... Our men rely on it ... Well, my advice (which also applies to me) - if you don't feel well, disappear from there and don't even turn around. Things will get better with time ...
Your child will still have a father, even if he sees him less often. And if he wants to be at least a good father, he will do everything possible to give love to his child and I will support him. If not - then you will have nothing to regret. The fact that you are fighting on the way out of the maternity ward shocked me - things in your marriage seem quite immature and conflicted. Is it worth living like this in the future? Keep in mind that the smaller your child, the easier it will be to accept a divorce. Be strong!