Hello, I am writing in a forum for the first time and I apologize for any grammatical and spelling mistakes! It doesn't matter if I'm a boy / girl or my age! Everything from a completely normal even more than a perfect life (going out with friends, going out with family, vacations) just a dream life of all, at least I think so. But here that not everything remains perfect .. Like thunder from a clear sky everything turned around. Family scandals started more and more often for months and we come to the truth that my mother's sister / brother and I wanted to know ... why he was withdrawn with us and not as before and he cheated several times! Yes, some of you will say that something is happening, unfortunately someone has experienced it, yes, and I think that such things are happening, but the thing is that it's just all so nasty, stressful and for other reasons horrible, and no matter how I hide it from all my friends, this thing is sitting in me and no matter how much I say I'm fine, maybe I'm not! My mother wants my father back, knowing how things will go wrong, but I understand that if everyone had been married for 30 years, it would be so! However, I do not want him to return because I know what he did and it is not normal for me! I don't want to arouse conscience or anything like that, I just wanted to tell someone, albeit anonymously. Just if someone is experiencing it, I ask for advice and not of the sort talk to them because it does not happen, and if someone experiences the same it is important to know that he is not alone! but I understand everyone who has been married for 30 years will be like that! However, I do not want him to return because I know what he did and it is not normal for me! I don't want to arouse conscience or anything like that, I just wanted to tell someone, albeit anonymously. Just if someone is experiencing it, I ask for advice and not of the sort talk to them because it does not happen, and if someone experiences the same it is important to know that he is not alone! but I understand everyone who has been married for 30 years will be like that! However, I do not want him to return because I know what he did and it is not normal for me! I don't want to arouse conscience or anything like that, I just wanted to tell someone, albeit anonymously. Just if someone is experiencing it, I ask for advice and not of the sort talk to them because it does not happen, and if someone experiences the same it is important to know that he is not alone!
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Is your father cheating? It is difficult to understand what is written. Do not interfere in their relationship. How old are you? This is a relationship between two, and you children to judge. Let them solve their problems with each other. Apparently we are big now, you don't know what you will do tomorrow.
If I were your mother, I would never involve my children in such intimate problems that they cannot comprehend and experience. I understand the ego of every woman, and I am a woman, infidelity is not a pleasant thing. But to indirectly adjust children, at the age of 30 together, and yes, some men cheat, I do not approve of this. Let yours deal with problems on its own that you don't like to get involved in.
Well that's right people want side trips if done discreetly is not a problem. One only needs to know who the person in life is, to hold on to it, but then maybe there will be no infidelity.
Can not be! "No" is written SEPARATELY from "I know"!
How do we understand this? That since it is your first post in a forum, you are forgiven for being illiterate, or how? Literacy, my friend, happens at school and by reading books. Emphasize more that the situation is deplorable.
IN THE FORUM; Some have experienced it, etc.
You are hiding, but it is clear that you are a boy, so it is difficult to experience infidelity of the father. It is in the nature of a man to disperse as much semen as possible, so it is easier for many women to stumble. If he had received everything at home, he probably wouldn't have needed another woman. Wives often behave like saints at home, pretend to be shy and great moralists, and this deprives the man of pleasures, so he compensates outside his home. The wife should behave like a whore at home and like a saint outside the house, only then there will be no infidelity. Don't be childish, tell your mother to let him go more often, and he will stay at home!
How can you not want your father, if not the man in a family, who else would be his head? You don't think that your mother will remain an eternal widow, because if he is, you are terribly deceived. Not that I blame you, but I think that the mistake for these infidelities should be sought in the female part of the family-mother / sister. Because no man, but really no one goes out in order to find a mistress by the end of the day. (supposed) stressful situations provoked by work, lifestyle, and most importantly WIFE. If she does not know her place, then everything loses meaning and it is better not to have it.
I don't think your parents should bother you with their intimate life. Who had sex with whom is not your job, but unfortunately your parents involved you and now you are being bullied. Tell them that it is not right for you to suffer because of their mistakes and it does not matter who cheated on whom, they are both responsible for your peace of mind.
Naturally, the woman must be blood in bed and a saint in society, because the man would cheat on her, but he can afford to be a tree because he is lazy. In that case, women will also cheat. And how come you didn't remember that she could do anything in bed and he cheated again? Or can he not say what he wants? Most Bulgarian men are so limited ...
Things are not as simple as they seem to you now. I will give you an example with my family. My father annoyed my mother, and in my eyes he was the villain. Then I grew up and began to see my mother's shortcomings. Not that I justify it, but it's not easy to live with her - she has her own dogmatic thinking, she doesn't want to learn anything new or change, she has never even maintained herself especially as an appearance. She educated us very strictly and judged us all strictly, she had some straightforward way of thinking. Watching her today, many years after I left my hometown, I see that I could not live with such a person. It was all a constant drama and we children were her audience. And the real situation was that she had not worked all her life, she had always complained about housework and she did everything reluctantly. I'm a woman too, I also have a home that I maintain, and I go to work at the same time, and I've never sighed about how hard it is, just because it's not. wash, wash, cook - something that does not take more than 2 hours a day directly forces. The other time - coffee, gossiping with friends ... Well, I don't think it was who knows what, but she still claimed to be unhappy and harassed. I think if my father had found a more ambitious woman, his life would have been very different. Again, I do not excuse him for infidelity - it would have been better if they had divorced, instead of listening to their scandals. On the other hand, my father is a very naughty guy, aggressive, prone to a lot of brutality, extremely selfish - he is not a man who becomes a family. Over time, I learned one thing - that I should not interfere in their relationship. Everyone is right for themselves, but children have no place in the relationship between parents.