Hello, I decided to confess to all of you. I had a relationship with a boy for almost 6 years, he is a really good boy, hardworking .. but somehow something was lame .. he has never been kind to me, for example to give me a flower or for the holidays he always gave me money , without taking a gift from me ... he was very cold to me in front of people, he didn't show his love. We decided to separate, I met another, who is the complete opposite of the first, behaves hellishly nice to me, but somehow it's not the same, as if I don't feel the same feelings .. I'm very confused, I don't know what I want from life anymore, it's coming to commit suicide, I am constantly filled with thoughts that I ruined the life of the first, because of our separation. At the same time, I think that if I give up the second one, it will be completely ruined, I'm tired of this guilt, I have always been very concerned about people and I have put others before me. I don't want anyone to suffer. I know it won't help me at all, but I just feel like I'm going crazy already, I need to share it with someone .. I apologize to everyone for bothering you with my nonsense ...
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Another proof that there is no pleasure for women. If he's not romantic -> he's cold, if he's romantic -> he's not a man. Another proof that men should not rely on only one extreme, but when it is necessary to be firm and when it is necessary to be more romantic. But this requires an experience of feeling when, what and how much is needed. Otherwise, women either get bored or start thinking that something is wrong.
This only means that you are trying, looking ... And you will continue until you find your man, better now, before you get married, give birth and children suffer. There is nothing to feel guilty about, it doesn't happen - it doesn't happen! The other thing ... to continue not to "ruin" it is nonsense. It will happen again, but later it will be more painful. So, calmly, release the one you know is not your man, let him seek his happiness in time. And you will find yours!
Why did you lie to him for 6 years, not 6 days or months? Maybe he had serious intentions for you. Don't think that only love is needed and kind words, but support and a shoulder to lean on. I'm a man and after such a long relationship we broke up with my partner, well, I don't like it the same way, it's kind of a pot without salt and taste. It's only a matter of time before Riya realizes that you're not his big thrill.
I think it's ridiculous to formulate your title "I don't know what to do" after "doing so much" over the years. You were a jerk to your ex for some reason, well, you had a choice, but now the last thing you need to think about is just because it doesn't make sense, because he won't want to hear about you at all. You have to leave the current one, simply because he was the person who acted as a reinforcing individual to your thoughts that the old one was not for you. It was a wedge through which you had to remove the other one, which, as in most, does not work. Just dump this one, you'll live a little alone, you'll get hurt, then you'll marry a man named Hans who you won't love, but you'll be comfortable with, and whenever you're depressed you'll think of the first one, which you abandoned because of your own nonsense. ж42
I have something to apologize for relationships you know best what your heart tells you;) YES you are very loved
You sound very confused - like a young and immature girl. Over the years, you will realize that always the one who is kind to you and shows that he loves you, this is the right man for you and from him you can get support in the family and help in raising children. From men who treat you with disrespect, you can only get infidelity, beatings and broken self-esteem. Not to mention that caring for children, at home, and in some cases food will fall entirely on your shoulders. So burn your mind girl ... the bird lands on your shoulder only once, then when you let it go you will regret it. True love is created with love and support, not disrespect, the other is masochism, not love.
If you loved the first boy, why don't you look for him, just coffee, how are you, what are you. Many people consider it almost a weakness, rather with friendly intentions. I think he would be happy, although I don't know how you broke up. If it's the type give me your rags, take your trash, you better not. Still, I think he'll be glad to see you, especially if he cared about you.
When the first one gave you money, you took it away, didn't you? Then why didn't you tell him what you are writing now, why didn't you tell him that you prefer a gift, albeit symbolic, but not money? There are men who find it difficult to choose a suitable gift, so they prefer to give money and the girl to buy what will work for him, rather than fill his room with inappropriate gifts. Why don't you assume that there are also modest boys who are worried, feel awkward because they have feelings but they are ashamed to express them and in the eyes of the girls they look like crazy and clumsy (like the first one). She has seen both species, now she has to decide for herself which species to choose.
Author: Share your opinion, and what do you plan to do?
"10. The author: Share your opinion, and what do you plan to do?" - a very incomprehensible post. Is this a question from the author and to whom is it addressed? №10, clarify!
My advice is to look inside yourself and realize who you are happiest with and who deserves your attention, whether it is the good boy or the other who is cold to you. For everyone who walks the topic, it is clear who is more worthy to love, but you know what your heart wants. If you think that you do not feel feelings for the present, then you better let him look for happiness elsewhere, and you either go back to the rude person, or wait for the prince on a white horse, who will first take down your stars, and then and he will become rude and reckless like any other man (this is not an insult to men, I just have encountered and continue to encounter such, but I will be happy for normal and good men to meet still)
№12, as soon as you collide, learn to control yourself. What are your men guilty of not being able to control yourself? Apparently you only drive on broken roads, pubs and chalgoteks. Decent men don't go there, change your routes and you'll find the other kind of men.
Bravo: Most of the comments are instructive! Now to the author: There is no need to apologize to us for writing the story. Or do you think your article is the dumbest of all posted here? Here's how I see it: The first one gave you money - you were silent and you were together. What respect and kindness do you expect from him. He paid you to be with him - and you agreed? And that he was hardworking - how else, he has to pay to be with you. Where does this money come from? The second is nice - but it doesn't pay you cash. Of course, he is missing something - cash. You claim that the second one would have ruined his life - Did he? Or you want to believe that you are the best thing that can happen to him. This is not a concern - but self-love. People don't ruin their lives for someone else - they ruin them just for themselves. You are confused - stay with the current one - until you understand what you want. You were going crazy - don't worry, you'll switch to pills and you're done. You don't want anyone to suffer - most of all you don't want to suffer. Well, don't suffer, be a nepukist - or it is certain that you will always suffer, without suffering, there is no growth, which is suffering again. Interestingly, 99% consider themselves the center of the universe. And that others are a part of their lives. Almost no one sees that the other thinks the same about himself. And Objectively, not everyone can be in the center and the others are on the periphery. which again is suffering. Interestingly, 99% consider themselves the center of the universe. And that others are a part of their lives. Almost no one sees that the other thinks the same about himself. And Objectively, not everyone can be in the center and the others are on the periphery. which again is suffering. Interestingly, 99% consider themselves the center of the universe. And that others are a part of their lives. Almost no one sees that the other thinks the same about himself. And Objectively, not everyone can be in the center and the others are on the periphery.