Hello. I am a 28-year-old woman. I got married at the age of 17 to 14 years older than me. after 8 years of marriage we separated, I have 2 girls at the time of 10 and 7. The father of the children did not do his duty to me and the children, I worked, but he constantly left every job. He stole from employers, didn't like the salary, etc. He was incompetent, lazy and kept thinking about where to find money for brandy, while I was thinking how to make ends meet. Selfish great. He kept telling me how much money I had brought him, how much money I had earned. His mother and father lived with us in the same house, they were confused, I was still to blame for everything. In 2016. 03 month. When I decided to divorce, I met a man in his 40s who was of Roma origin, unfortunately he was married and unhappy like me. We fell in love! I left my husband and left my two children with him. I found a place to pay for it and he supported me. The man I met lived with his second wife (a Bulgarian) from whom he has a 3-year-old girl, and from the first (a gypsy) two boys who are currently 16 and 11 years old and at that time they were with their mother abroad. And so I went to the apartment, he and his wife. He came to me every day, sometimes he stayed until the next day.
After a month, his wife left for her city with the child (in his words), but I doubted that she found out about us and that's why she left. Anyway, after she left, she took me home, and we were both alone, we decided to live together, but we hid and I didn't go out. So that no one understands. At that time, the father of my children kept begging me to come home for the children, but I kept refusing, and he finally filed for divorce by mutual consent, and I signed. We had no intention of reuniting with the man I lived with, but we loved each other very much. From time to time we talked about this topic to get a divorce to be together and that was it. All the time I'm thinking about where to go - should I go back and stay? I was very sad for the children, their father sometimes prayed to me and sometimes threatened me that he would beat me, kill me and for that I could not go to see them, to take them for 2-3 days. One day I decided that we could not continue like this and he was upset about his daughter, at least he went to see her several times during these 3 months. I told him that I had decided to go home to my children, he obviously did not expect this and he was very sad. We both cried a lot, my heart broke, for the first time someone cried for me, we had a very hard time parting. We got together with the children's father and he with his wife, but nothing was the same as before, I wasn't with myself at all, I was crying all the time, it was still in my head, I can't describe to you what pain I experienced. Even for. my kids were so sick of me.
For 4 days I lived through hell, I couldn't stand it anymore and I went back to the apartment, which even though I wasn't there, he paid for it. And all over again, his wife is at home with me, she after a while went to her house again 4 hours away, he took her with the child. We decided to get together, he told me that one day his two boys would come home, that his daughter would stay with her mother, etc., I accepted them, of course, I loved him so much. But he was constantly talking to his wife, they were constantly writing to each other as if he had no intention of divorcing her, we were constantly arguing about it, and I kept wondering if I had done the right thing by leaving my children for him. One day he said he was going to pick up his daughter. Bring her here to us, of course his wife did not know that he was not alone and gave her. I looked after her as my child, but on the one hand I was very sick of my two, for whom I exchanged their unhappiness for my happiness. The children's father, even though he knew I was with someone else, wanted us to get back together because of the children. Sometimes he let me talk to them, but most of the time he didn't. I wondered if this was why I left my children to look after someone else's child, what my children would say, that I left them to look after other people's children, that they needed me but I was raising another child. My mother and father have been divorced for 10 years, I am of Turkish origin.
My father learned about me that I was with someone else and he was very angry with me, he constantly told me to leave this gypsy, to take the children and go to him in Varna, where he lives with another woman. My mother was in Turkey, she was not against us, but when we were arguing, I complained to her, and she kept calling me to go to her to look after my life, not to look after other people's children. But I loved him too much then, I accepted his children, but I still didn't want to be with him. I couldn't do without him, but I couldn't do with him either. I both loved him and I was very sick. And so 4 months passed and I realized that I was pregnant. And now what would I do we both have marriages with other people. I thought if I gave birth to him, my children would not want to see me. I told my mother, she told me to get rid of him. I really wanted the child, but on the one hand I didn't want him. Although, I was angry that he was writing to his wife, he kept going, I saw what he was writing, they were joking, I was jealous and we quarreled a lot about it. On the one hand, I knew he loved me, and he showed it anyway. They wrote about the child, he took pictures with his daughter, he sent the pictures, to his wife. I thought that he was using me, that he would reunite with his wife, that if I gave birth to this child with him, he would throw me out. I didn't share my thoughts with him, I just told him that I didn't want him because of my children, he wanted him, he didn't want us to remove him. I thought for days about what to do, but decided to get rid of it. So it made me sick, but I was thinking about my children. I had an abortion and told myself it was over. After 1 month I decided to go to my mother because I was fed up with his daughter.
Beue was 3 years old and he always peed on his pants, shit in the rooms, I cleaned shit and peed all day, he constantly with the phone in hand did not even notice when his daughter yelled, peed on his pants. Of course, I didn't tell him that I didn't want his daughter, I told him that I couldn't anymore, that my children would swear at me, that they wouldn't want me because of that. Tears of blood again, pain again, I didn't want to part with him, but I felt guilty for both his daughter and mine. He took his daughter, I went to my mother and sent me to the bus, but again in the same way, I could not do without him and he did not want to live without me and wrote me to return. I came back again and the old song in a new voice. From the elephant fly, we fought for nothing, but we loved each other very much. I don't know him without him. I was leaving and coming home again. He took his daughter again because she was constantly crying on the phone. He could not speak even at 3, only a few words. He always wanted his father and he couldn't stand it. Zhen taught him that he was with me, all threats of divorce, that he would not give the child again, all problems, all quarrels.
For 1 year his daughter stayed with us, then a mother and took her for 5 months, he took her again and so I looked after her, blind from love, while her mother worked because there was no one to look after her. The children's father wouldn't let me talk to them, sometimes he would. In the winter of 2016 I took them for 2 days, but we stayed in a hotel, then I took them to their father. All this time, he was still praying that we would be together and so on until 2017. I wanted to take my children with us, but he always found reasons that the boys would come, that there was no one by law to judge us, as well as f. In the summer the two boys returned here to us forever. At that time, mine were with me for the summer, I had taken them with 300 dawns, I told their father that I would be at the party with them.
And quarrels started again, me with 5 children. Mine didn't listen to us, we were constantly arguing and I took them after 20 days and I wanted them to stay for 3 months. I broke up with them just so we wouldn't fight. But again the old song in a new voice. I got pregnant again. This time I was very happy, but he did not want it, because I was married to someone else and the child would be automatically written in his name when he was born. I cried a lot, I didn't want to remove him, but he constantly insulted me and in the end I decided that it wouldn't happen. And I removed it, but I'm very sorry, I really wanted it in spite of everything. I thought I couldn't live without him. My father got hit, I didn't keep in touch with him because of the man I live with, he took a spell that I left my children because of him, but I still didn't give up on him because I didn't see the love and respect he gave me. Continued ... but I'm very sorry I really wanted it despite everything. I thought I couldn't live without him.
My father got hit, I didn't keep in touch with him because of the man I live with, he took a spell that I left my children because of him, but I still didn't give up on him because I didn't see the love and respect he gave me. Continued ... but I'm very sorry I really wanted it despite everything. I thought I couldn't live without him. My father got hit, I didn't keep in touch with him because of the man I live with, he took a spell that I left my children because of him, but I still didn't give up on him because I didn't see the love and respect he gave me. Continued ...
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You are the same one who released the previous topic "I want a child". As Vuchkov says, I read (in this case) and I do not believe my eyes. Troubled work, gypsy work. What kind of child do you want, what kind of BGN 5. Abortions, she gave birth at the age of 17, no no no ... she had a great love affair with a gypsy ... very confusedly written .... I didn't even finish reading it ... you are a tragic case dear ... your children to scratch your comb and look for the unkind ....
Safe from people who can't overcome their selfish beginnings for some emotion .. Can you leave two YOUR children charging a brazier .. they are your blood and flesh .. such people deserve only misfortune in this life !!!!
We have enough redundant gypsies in Bulgaria to feed more. Fold.
It's been a long time. I didn't read it.
You left your children for the sake of Bai x .. y. That's all I understood from this disgusting story.
Ахахахахахх ужаааас. She abandoned her children because you see she was in love. Full of rubbish and a rag, darling. This one makes you do nothing, you have an abortion, don't look after your children, look after mine. I feel sorry for you.
The author: Why, before you judge, don't you think about what I went through, I didn't write everything here. But you forced me. The father of my children decided to sell his wife, the mother of his children to have money for him for brandy. And you, who are big racists, I will tell you that this man, more precisely a brazier, as you call him, saved me from a pimp. And the children, I don't have any circumstances, even if I wasn't with this "brazier", again alone and in a room with two children. He sent me to the men for money, I was patient because of the children. He explained to me how good it would be for men, how to act, what movements to make. And before you judge, think about what could make a mother leave her children, if you were in my place, what were you going to do, stop this racism, if I had said Bulgarian, you would have given another mind, right. the father of my children because of that, that I worked hard all day, after 5 o'clock in the afternoon he sent me to clients and I ate a fight because I did not bring enough money. to see them. Thanks for the comments, they helped me a lot
Very confused and unclear story, many things do not bind me. After your husband was lazy and clumsy and gave all the money for brandy, how did you decide to leave your children with him and more importantly how did he manage to take care of them for so long alone? From the whole story, I learned that you and your lover do not know what you want and what you are doing. If you are a child of divorced parents, doesn't it weigh on you that your children can't grow up in a normal family? You get together, you separate, you take children, you bring them back. Tighten up and both gather the children and watch them and educate them to see if they are holding you. You don't like his children, he doesn't like yours and you want others to give birth. Of all the children, the children suffer the most, a great love and great love came to me, and he still writes to his ex, quarrels and problems. From everything you have written, I understand that there is only one mature and sensible person in the whole mess and that is your ex. Although you have cheated on him and abandoned them with the children, the person is ready to accept you in the name of the children, but you do not have the reason to understand it.
And what love and respect your children receive and see in you! You are very deluded and I only regret your dear children, you do not deserve them! Your hell will be a debate in which you look and realize how far you have come in digging down.
№3 said it from more precisely .... I have nothing to add
In fact, my mother left me and my brother for another man - she cheated on my father and lied to us that it wasn't because of the other, but because they didn't get along with my father (and I hadn't been so impressed by the weather, in which he cheated - she wondered how to leave). I say this for those who think it is impossible. Since then we live with my father, grandparents (his parents) and gram I do not regret that I chose to live here.
Come on, stop talking nonsense. From a mile away, it appears that the topic is fake to provoke quarrels in the comments. And every mother who leaves her children for her sake does not deserve to be like that!
You're wrong. Because of that job you abandon your children and confuse the lives of many people! You deserve to be alone all your life and have your own children spit on you. Shame on you? !!
Why don't you admit that you are a gypsy too. You gypsies do such irresponsible things in your life. These animals care more about their babies than you do. Your thinking is gypsy.
When I think of the Bulgarians, that is why we are at the bottom of this veil when we look at it and there is our place where we try to spit to blacken the other to become judges. There will be no fix as long as we are so pathetic
Author, head up. I wish you to fix your life as much as you can and do not attach yourself to these villains from the site. Come on, smart.
The author: The children are looked after by their grandparents and they are fine, the court left them with them, I have nowhere to raise them, the circumstances. At the moment, everything is fine, because their father got married and they have a child. I didn't let you yell out because of her. What was I supposed to do, to go and give my d .. for money, and did you know who I would come across. I talk to the children every night, I take them whenever I want for as long as I want. I send alimony, buy them clothes, shoes, whatever they need when I have the opportunity. I am not a gypsy of Turkish origin, but even if I were a gypsy I would be proud of that. Watch the show of Joro Ignatov, I did not see a single gypsy woman leaving her children there. Looking at everything is with you Bulgarians. In my opinion, as number 19 wrote, you are villains. There was a sequel, but I don't see the point in sharing it. I did not leave my children, if I had left them I would not have taken them, I would not have called them, I would not have sent them anything. I hope what happened to me doesn't happen to you. I wish everyone good luck in life.
N. 14, not from a kilometer, but from 10,000 kilometers (where I live) it is clear that the story is vulgarly written. This is the same author whose themes were invented by her sick head suffering from schizophrenia. What she wrote in her comment NUMBER 8 is an absolute FALSE. How many times do I have to remind you that if this author does not lie, she cannot live. She suffers from schizophrenia and grandiosity, and perhaps some other mental illness. Read her the topic: "Can I have a full life with schizophrenia" in the "Health" department and see what nonsense she says. N. 15, you ask the author: "How can you not be ashamed"? This woman has absolutely no shame. Whatever we write about, whatever we accuse her of, SHE HAS NO FEELING OF SHAME. You've heard a crazy person be ashamed, haven't you! You will not hear from her. Moderators, how long will you provide your site to this mentally ill woman. You publish all her stupid, fictional stories. She calls us men oligophrenics, and you have censored my topics for no reason. I will soon send you two topics in which I will simply ask questions and see if your censorship will allow them. Show your morals and culture. I expect you to post this comment.
You are not a Turk, you are a brazier, only the gypsies lag behind your own children, I just did not understand what advice you want. They do not leave their animals, their children. Just think what you are.