Hi, I'm a 32 year old woman. I have been separated from my husband for 5 months, we have a 13-year-old daughter. For three months I have been dating a man who is married and has a child. According to him, things with his wife are long over, from what I see is clearly not lying. She lives almost with her mother and returns to him for a week a month. He claims that he can no longer love and invest feelings in any relationship. I also don't want anything serious, I'm enjoying my freedom at the moment and I don't want to start a new relationship with him even more, he is not my man, but we have a great time when we are together. For a week now, however, he seems to be sinking. Yesterday he introduced me to his father, his sister knows about us. He wants us to go out, to the movies, on vacation. He deleted almost all random Facebook friendships with women. How do I interpret such behavior?
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Author, at 32 si. you are not 18 to justify that you still believe in fairy tales. All men say that they don't sleep with their wives, they scratch aha, aha before a divorce, but they never divorce. Don't you believe that when his wife comes home, she sleeps in the other room?
Author: Oh, no! It's not about what I believe at all, I don't trust myself, let alone trust him. I say that neither he nor I want to deepen things, and at the same time he introduces me to his father and talks about me to his sister. That's why I'm confused. Otherwise, definitely if there is a conversation that he is divorcing because of me, I will withdraw at the moment, I do not want to be responsible for such a thing.
I, on the other hand, think that man can finally make the decision he has postponed until now. Final separation from his wife. And, yes, he may have thought that he would no longer put feelings into a relationship, but he doesn't ask, he just attacks you!
He obviously wants something more from you. That's how I see it ...
Until he introduced you to his mother, do not hope for anything;)
Unfortunately, most men are like that - soft, we always interfere with feelings, we always look for someone to serve. We pretend to be matchmakers in order to be tied up, and we can't accept that the woman, even after 30, is only looking for sex and thinks only of herself ... This mold stepped on him once more, so I hope he finally comes to his senses ...
What's wrong with having love. See you. Go on vacation, but do not rush with anything else. Everything is proven over time. Give him a chance. Give yourself a chance to be happy too. I can't tell you if he has strong feelings, but you're certainly not indifferent to him or just for sex. I think he should relax and not think about him for a long time. This with "I can't put feelings" in my opinion is a protective reaction not to hurry you but to go easy.
Author: №7 I do not want to trample anyone, and he did not deserve such treatment. I understand your sarcasm, but in the next few years I will be raising a teenager and her dramas are enough for me. And the option for a man unknown to her to enter our lives is not very good. At the moment, my ex-husband and I manage to control her, despite being separated. However, the child will always be a priority for me, I put it before my feelings, needs, etc.