Tell yourself now that I'm a dumb goose and I don't know what I want from life ... that's right, you're right, I obviously don't know. I've had a serious friend for 2 years. If I forgot to mention, I'm 21. So my boyfriend and I are talking about a serious future and other things that normal serious boyfriends can talk about. I exclude stories about children and marriage because I realize that it is too early for me and I am in a child's mind. I'm still drawn to parties, etc. In short, I have not made a living. I have never cheated before, even with a thought, let alone something else. Recently, however, I met an incredibly nice man who is about 6 years older than me. From the beginning we talked only in a friendly way with him. Tell me a lot of things that I honestly don't want to know about, because the personal lives of others don't work for me. So she told me she had a serious girlfriend of 8 years, he thought about family, etc. It so happened that we got drunk one night and kissed. I admit I liked it, but I also felt great guilt towards both my boyfriend and his girlfriend, in the end the girl is not to blame for anything. The next day we went to work. At one point his phone rang and it was SHE as I guessed. Naturally, he stepped aside so as not to hear my voice, and then remarked to me to be more careful. And I reacted like a first signal light, told him not to make remarks of this type to me, because I do not carry a crystal ball with me to know who calls him when and when I should be silent, and I emphasized that there is nothing between us. However, believe me in his eyes, I read that he did not agree with me on the second part of the short tirade. He spent the evening when he had to go home with me, we got drunk, we had sex, we admitted that we liked each other (it's true and it wasn't just under the influence of alcohol), so tomorrow we will have a serious conversation, I told him that at this stage my serious relationship is a coincidence, not because I need a lot. By no means do I say that I have no feelings for mine, but what I feel for the other is somehow strong and I do not understand each other. I have plans for life and so far knocking on wood what I fought for has happened to my liking. I didn't want a serious relationship because I'm going to study abroad soon, and I don't believe anyone is sitting and waiting for me. I don't know about 2 years later, but tomorrow I will have a conversation with number 2. On top of everything, he started hinting at various things, he is in love, but something stops me from being with him and this thing is the unwillingness to break up with mine because of him. But at the same time I want to spend some time with the other. Did anyone understand me
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We understand you - you want to try with number 2, but why should you break with number 1? Just screw them both, then men don't deserve anything else. So be careful that they don't understand what you're doing and if you're cool - go!
Eh chick, it's not easy and yours! You go with one, you sleep with another, don't expect someone to praise you for it! You've already turned into a whore, but what to do, it's up to the women. You will go to study abroad and there you will forget both, there will be others who are wrapped up in you. But if you think this old man is going to dump his chick because of you, you're just wrong. He just uses you for a sex toy, so stop giving him occasions and lurking around him. Sit with your boy and that's it, and when you leave the time will show further !!!
Since I knew that most men would comment in the same way as the gentleman above, I just want to say that there is someone to judge me and label me like a "whore." I see that it has not become clear enough, so I emphasize that I do not want him to break up with the girl (I have not gone so far as to imagine such things), nor to break up with my boy. Otherwise, thank you both, you were somewhat useful to me.
I think you need to listen to your heart and be with the one you feel better with. and you have to be more patient, let number 2 tell you what he really thinks about the relationship. Number 1, keep him in ignorance for now, he will already be hurt by the outcome, as it seems. Most likely, your trip abroad will solve the "dilemma" you are currently struggling with. In fact, there is no problem here, the woman is always looking for the best man. so you too have a choice. Number 2 does not seem so sincere and open at the moment, but he is probably afraid or unsure of the events and your feelings, so he makes such an impression.
I want to give you some advice and if you listen to me you may not be wrong. Since number 2 has a serious girlfriend of 8 years, don't expect him to dump her just because he had sex with you. Your relationship with him may last for a while, but in the end you will be hurt. And if his girlfriend feels it, she and you will be hurt. I'm not blaming you, anyone can stumble sometimes, but landing is painful. So run faster than this person and the suffering will be less. It is best to drop both number 1 and number 2 and look for the right person for you. You are young and life is in front of you. Now is the time to live and most importantly to be happy.
You have to think a lot about whether what you have for nom2 is not just a short hobby. And there is no point in ruining your relationships and starting a new relationship, as you yourself say, some will not wait for you, the end will come for your relationship. If you like that boy just leave him don't cause him this relationship from a distance can't believe me I know him from my own experience. But still think about who you feel.
You have to decide who you have stronger feelings for. Don't hurt them both. And think of his girlfriend, she'll probably feel bad. You get entangled in a love triangle and be very careful how you get out of it! You are already in, and now decide how to get out. The situation is quite difficult. My advice is: stay with your boyfriend and don't ruin your relationship. Forget about the other or you will have a lot of problems and you will suffer!
I can't understand how it is possible to be with someone for 2 years and cheat on him. Whatever decision you make "You know in the first place", but think about this guy you've been with for 2 years, doesn't he deserve to know the truth, even if you end things with the other person, don't you respect that person to admit to him what it happened, do you think he deserves it with something. Think about it a bit, put yourself in his place, how would you feel if he cheated on you and would you like to know. I don't blame you for anything, everyone makes mistakes, the point is to learn a lesson, and even telling him the truth means you're breaking up makes you a better person, and it's fair to this boy.
See, as you guessed, the second one will not break up with my girlfriend and I completely agree with number 5 for everything he wrote. You better live, leave them both, you are young, you need to meet new people, to rejoice, to be disappointed and to learn something from everyone in order to find "your man". You better not tell your friend what happened, you risk hurting him like hell. Live, serious things will come when they need to. :)