I don't know why, but I haven't experienced anything in bed with my friend for a long time. We have been together for 2 years. I think I've had a good time with him before. It is possible that because I loved him and on some psychological basis that I experienced orgasms .... I don't know, the point is that now it does not give me any pleasure. I dare not tell him, and how to do it, what exactly to tell him ?? I don't think sex should be a leader in a relationship, but you can't do without it. He is never in sync with me, he doesn't do what I want, the way I want him to and right at the right moment for me he decides to change his posture, that he is drinking water, that his legs are stiff or something from similar genus. This throws me off balance. And as if that makes me more nervous and frustrated, I don't know, I might suggest. I don't know if I still love him, but I'm certainly used to him, and I don't want to leave him or cheat on him. I'm completely confused and I don't know what to do. I have no intention of satisfying myself .... Thank you for your attention, if anyone could be useful to me with advice, please.
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The option is to try to talk to him very calmly, try to tell him what you want, how you want him, how much you want, etc. If it is possible to talk to him on this issue, because there are people with whom you simply can not talk on this issue or in another, but you know him best and I'm sure you will choose the right way . I wish you luck.
Well, tell him what the problem is, talk. Try to solve it together. He should not be silent, because sooner or later he will kill somewhere.
I am married and I had a similar relationship with one for a while ........ It took me a while to get used to it. When I started to satisfy her and she reached orgasm twice, she simply put on her pants and left. He never said a kind word to me. People like you do not have hearts.
(by the author) For number 3. Please, what am I to blame for you walking with a badger without feelings. I'm always gentle with my friend, I didn't say a bad word to him, on the contrary, I always tell him how good I am, and in fact it's not. I always simulate orgasms, but in fact there are none. So, darling, don't put me under a common celebrity with your ex-mistress. I just don't feel anything with him anymore, I'm not going to cheat on him, I'm not going to insult him or in any way undermine his self-esteem. Well, I don't think that speaks of a man without a heart, as you say. I'm very sorry for your failed relationship, but that doesn't mean you can get the negative energy out of me. If you can't help with advice, just don't write a comment. If it weighs so much on you, write a story and post it here.
Talk calmly to your friend.
I have been married for 12 years and to admit my husband, when he wants, can make any woman have an orgasm, but the problem is that we started doing it very rarely. I understood what it means not to have a sex nightmare. Who wants to tell what sex is most important, if he can not give you pleasure, then you do not fit sexually and the point-LEAVE IT. When I was younger, I thought that if there were problems, I would give up and things would work out, but know that a woman, when she turns 26, matures sexually and may not have wanted so much sex until then, but after that age sex is leading, so think about the time when you will want sex, but if you are with him you will know that there is nothing to get and inevitably will come infidelity, and if you have children until then it becomes very difficult. So talk to him while watching, if you need a few porn movies, in which there is what you want, discuss them and if he does not change at least a little in bed - SAY HELLO. I don't have much sexual experience / only 5 men /, but I have come across those who have not satisfied me and I know that the one who can do it can, and the incompetent, no matter how hard he tries, cannot reach it. Some do not have enough centimeters, others phi, and others ingenuity, all these subjects must be told e.m. we do not want to be with you. A woman can't be 100% in bed and a man can just say, here you are. There is certainly a man who can satisfy women in bed and this man is only a threesome, but you have to find him. GOOD LUCK:) who have not satisfied me, and I know that he who can do it can do it, and the incompetent, no matter how hard he tries, cannot reach it. Some do not have enough centimeters, others phi, and others ingenuity, all these subjects must be told e.m. we do not want to be with you. A woman can't be 100% in bed and a man can just say, here you are. There is certainly a man who can satisfy women in bed and this man is only a threesome, but you have to find him. GOOD LUCK:) who have not satisfied me, and I know that he who can do it can do it, and the incompetent, no matter how hard he tries, cannot reach it. Some do not have enough centimeters, others phi, and others ingenuity, all these subjects must be told e.m. we do not want to be with you. A woman can't be 100% in bed and a man can just say, here you are. There is certainly a man who can satisfy women in bed and this man is only a threesome, but you have to find him. GOOD LUCK:) who can satisfy women in bed and this man is just a threesome, but you have to find him. GOOD LUCK:) who can satisfy women in bed and this man is just a threesome, but you have to find him. GOOD LUCK:)
(by the author) Number 6 thank you very much for the sincere and lifely advice you gave me. Maybe you're right, but to some extent. I love my boyfriend very much, although he does not give me the pleasure I need. Now that I'm sitting and thinking, I honestly can't imagine leaving him for that. Sometimes I think I don't love him and I'm inclined to take this step, but when I think about all our good, even wonderful moments together ... I already understood what I wanted. Even after she becomes my husband, I am ready to be dissatisfied with my sexual needs for the rest of my life, but I will be with the person I love and we may not fit in bed, but just today I realized that we are perfect in everything else. So I will overcome it somehow :) Thank you all very much for your advice and comments :)
I am 6-deluded, it is not in vain to say that love is blind, but when love passes and respect and tolerance remain, the lack of satisfaction begins to be felt very strongly. Life is yours and you only have to decide if you can live without sexual gratification, but I just want to tell you from my own experience that you think so now, but in 2-3 years you will not be of this opinion. At least promise to think about it: don't be in a hurry to have children, so when you enter the moment when you will start to need satisfaction, you can change your decision. Orgasm is a great experience - do not remove it from your life, nothing else in our rotten life can replace it. Success!
Don't ruin your life over time it will become more complicated ... family and children. You are rather attached to him and you are used to him and you love him as a friend, not as a man ...
Well done girl! Just don't leave him like that. You are for each other, if all women were like you, the word whore would cease to exist. If you live well and have fun, there is no reason to separate, and you have many more good moments to experience together. Do not think that if you replace it with another, it will be better than yours in every way! My advice is (I've been with a lot of women), rather try to adjust to his style of sex and talk separately about unrestrained sex, tell him what you liked, ask him what he likes and you will see that things will take care of itself! I wish you success and all the best !!!
Hello, I speak in your position, who has been married for a long time, and we understand each other very well, we can have a wonderful time together and have a good time. When it comes time for bed ...... for me sometimes it's poppy, it's rarely nice or very nice. At the beginning of the relationship it wasn't like that, everything was ok, after the first year things started to change for me to realize that he doesn't excite me enough, he only uses me to be satisfied, I tried to talk to him from afar without I affect his feelings and self-confidence, with one idea things got better. On the other hand, I'm just trying to adjust myself to his way and where with jokes where with tricks to boil things so that I feel good too. I won't blame myself for wanting it to be in another cell, but it can't be all right, can it? : ) I think about the moment when the children come if number 6 will not be right ..., but time will tell. If you don't want to leave him, don't do it, but think about it, if you don't talk, can you be sure that he is not in your position and wondering how to tell you? Or one day to tell you I hate you ... how will you feel? So talk to him somehow, things won't work out on their own. Useph;)
To the author: 1 / Before you do something you have to decide - do you love him, do you want to be together in the future, when and how did you stop feeling good and what do you want from sex with him. If you continue like this, sooner or later, you will end up with an affair, and you yourself say that you do not want that. Don't go with the flow because you can't be sure where it will take you. to №11: Don't talk to him from afar, with hints. Talk to him directly and if he cares about you he will change for the better. We men often forget about our partner's pleasure, and if she doesn't remind us, we delude ourselves that this is enough. Is that enough for you? If it's NO, then drive straight, and if it hurts, he won't die! Good luck to you too !
Anything is possible - but only with positive actions and thinking and mutual support. You can observe what you enjoy and like and then, by the way, include these things in your conversation with your friend. This way you will both actually feel better, because I don't believe there is at least one thing that brings you pleasure, and he will start trying to deliver it to you more and more often when he understands what it is.
My wife, when she is dissatisfied, says to herself immediately and wants French without worrying.
Well, well ... When you don't feel anything with him, do you feel anything with others? heh .. Joke ... Let me tell you, you just aren't in sync. As much as you do not want to admit sex is 50% of a relationship ... As there is no synchrony there write off the situation. Try to adjust to each other ... He needs to "look" more closely at what's going on in bed, it seems impossible for him to follow you.
The author: At № 14 my problem does not come from the fact that we do not practice oral sex on the contrary. And oral sex is not as satisfying as vaginal sex. I agree 1-2 times, but from then on it's not the same.
I had the same problem with my ex-boyfriend! Only in the beginning the sex was good, but then we didn't fit at all! We both loved each other a lot and talked about this topic, but it doesn't happen. Last year was a nightmare! When I heard he wanted sex, I got depressed and nervous! It repulsed me, but the bad thing was that I didn't know what to do with it! He behaved wonderfully and loved me very much, but just sexually we didn't seem to fit in at all (I can't explain why). We changed positions and we complied with each other, but I didn't like it and that's it! The relationship ended in separation, I just couldn't stand it because I was harassing him and myself. He had no self-confidence because of it and I blamed myself! I decided that a relationship built for 5 years should end before we have children, because then it would get even worse! So dear people,
What is a brain? AND WHY WHEN I HAVE SEX .. A white sticky secretion is constantly flowing from below? ?
I answer 19. Your brain has run out, horror! That's why you ask such stupid questions. Have you clarified now?
I have a slightly different problem, I know when I'm going to have sex, in the sense that we see each other every other day and whenever we see each other we have sex, or if I stay to sleep with him we never do it the next day, it's like I'm moving on some nasty schedule.