Hello! First I will ask the editors to at least approve this story and upload it to the site. Thanks in advance. I have a friend for 9 months. Our relationship was perfect from the beginning. Many of my close friends have told me that they envy our love because it was real. And so it was - it was real. From the very beginning, he made me trust him. I haven't felt as happy with anyone as I have with him. Most of all, I was afraid of losing him because I didn't have many boyfriends, but from the few I had, I was sure I had never seen a boy like him. Everything was great, but he had to go abroad. He left and everything has changed. We fought all the time because he never kept his promises. He promised to come home early, but he didn't. Apparently I felt abandoned, which I sincerely regret, for it was not his fault that he had to leave. I was angry with him because he left because of his parents - they made him. He is now an adult, but he does not stop listening to his parents, who really do not advise him anything good. I was angry that he always promised me he wouldn't leave, but he did. And my love weakened. He returned a few days ago. Of course, when I saw him I felt a shiver, but everything disappeared for a moment. I know I love him. I'm sure of it. The problem is that I don't love him like I used to. I may not love him as he deserves. I tried to break up with him, but I just don't want to hurt him. Some of you will probably tell me that if I don't love him, I shouldn't be with him and lie to him, and leave him in time. But believe me - I wouldn't leave him so as not to hurt him. We would only break up if he did something very bad or he asked for it himself. I realize it's not for me. We are too different. Our views of the world are different. I just want us to separate and everyone to continue their life. But I'm just afraid I'll be sorry later. Thanks to those who read my story. Even I don't know what advice to ask you for. I just wanted to pour out my soul somewhere.
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You will probably regret it at first, but in time you will realize that you have made the right decision, it will even make you feel better. Don't delay the separation, the sooner you do it the better for both of you! Once you've decided, just do it and talk in person, don't cut it off on the phone or Facebook. What are you afraid of in this way you are hurting yourself, besides you are hurting him because you are lying to him, tell him the truth that you want to separate.
You need at least another 10 years for your consciousness to mature and become human. It's still ... paw, not to say baby. Until then, don't deal with boys at all, because it will hurt them and you a lot. Ma-a-alko reduce selfishness, ego, and try to begin to understand others a little better, their opinions, not just your own. At the age of 18, even if he is an adult, he is practically a paw, a pishligar. It is no coincidence that in the United States adulthood is acquired at the age of 21 (it is true that they are stupid there, but still ...). At 18, not listening to your parents can have even more tragic consequences than not listening to them at 10. You can become a drug addict, a dealer, get involved with some scoundrels, a smuggler ... And listen to some A 15-16 year old pickle and doing what she wants, to the detriment of her parents, is the biggest stupidity in the world, which can be invented !!! Now this may burn you, but one day you will grow up, become a mother and see that this is not 100, but 1000% true!
"I just want to separate and everyone to continue their lives. But I'm just afraid that then maybe I'll regret it." - This is selfishness! You both want to separate because you don't like each other, and you don't want to because you're afraid of losing. What do you want then, to suck it without giving love !? If a new object appears, you will leave it immediately, without caring if you hurt it. Very nasty character, I hope you part in time, why waste his time in life, let him find a worthy wife.
You both love him and you want to separate .. So in life you have no right to 2 choices there is always 1 or you want him and you are with him or you don't want him and you leave him to meet a person who will love him constantly and not from time on time. You can't be with someone just for fear of what will happen without him if you don't evaluate him in time doesn't make sense and then leave him you want to continue on your own path but explain to him and continue, because if you don't love him enough at the first meeting better you will leave it and then you may be 30 years old. after which it will be too late to find a person to spend the rest of his life with. You don't do him any good by being afraid of hurting him, it's a disservice, then it'll be worse for both of you.