I hope you can give me some advice by sharing your story. I did not believe that I would fall into such a situation. I have been living with my boyfriend for about 3 years, but I don't know exactly when I lost my feelings for him. Naturally, the period with falling in love passed the first year, but love and respect remained. My problem is that I wanted a child and a marriage, and he kept postponing it, and it was the worst, because we have money problems. I agree that a child needs money, but he has been unemployed for about a year and does not work for anything, and before that he worked part-time and still did not have enough money. At first I thought it was a temporary situation, but I have already lost faith in it. I want male support, but I don't get it. What to do I'm starting to lose my respect and I don't rely on him for anything anymore. I am sorry for the lost years and for the thousands of opportunities I had. What's worse is that he's sick now and I can't leave him, and it will be like that for about a month. It is difficult for me to take care of him because I do not feel love and lately I have been accumulating a lot. I'm sick, because he still wants warmth from me, and I can't give it. A murderous situation for both of us, but I'll have to wait for him to recover and only then talk. Should I leave it or wait for it to change? I was already 26 years old and I wonder if I missed my chance for marriage, we shouldn't have lived together without an engagement, oh HORROR. What's worse is that I no longer feel love for anything, I fell into a kind of apathy, I became the ice queen, and before I was very sensitive. How to become as before? because he still wants warmth from me, and I can't give it. A murderous situation for both of us, but I'll have to wait for him to recover and only then talk. Should I leave it or wait for it to change? I was already 26 years old and I wonder if I missed my chance for marriage, we shouldn't have lived together without an engagement, oh HORROR. What's worse is that I no longer feel love for anything, I fell into a kind of apathy, I became the ice queen, and before I was very sensitive. How to become as before? because he still wants warmth from me, and I can't give it. A murderous situation for both of us, but I'll have to wait for him to recover and only then talk. Should I leave it or wait for it to change? I was already 26 years old and I wonder if I missed my chance for marriage, we shouldn't have lived together without an engagement, oh HORROR. What's worse is that I no longer feel love for anything, I fell into a kind of apathy, I became the ice queen, and before I was very sensitive. How to become as before? that I no longer felt love for anything, I fell into a kind of apathy, like the ice queen I became, and before I was very sensitive. How to become as before? that I no longer felt love for anything, I fell into a kind of apathy, like the ice queen I became, and before I was very sensitive. How to become as before?
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In my opinion, you are right to be disappointed in this person and to think about your future. I am 29 years old and I have no children, but I have been engaged for 9 years, we are engaged and in a few months we will have a wedding. We have been living together for 4 years, we are currently building our own house and as soon as it is ready we will think about a child. At 26, you didn't miss the opportunity to make a home and a family - nowadays there are a lot of women we have studied, made a career and not married so young, but if you don't change something HERE AND NOW, if you don't break with this person and you do not reorient yourself, you will soon wake up at the age of 30 and you will be in the same position. Think - you have a life. At the age of 50, your man may decide to start a family, come to his senses and be ambitious, but you are only about 10 years old to have children, and this can only happen with a reasonable man,
Now you are disappointed, you didn't have a job, you were sick, and this about the engagement, how did you determine that if you had an engagement everything would have been ok. If you love him, well, but if you just start to feel sorry for him, it won't be good. Help him with his work, find something, because a long stay without a job also affects him badly. Don't get used to the fact that only you will bring the money home, and he will be a hoyka and lazy at home. If it doesn't, dump it. It sucks, but one day you may be sorry for the time you missed.
Hi, I recently posted my question here - it's almost the same as yours. The difference is that I am almost 30 and our relationship is 7 years old. I was in a very similar situation - he was unemployed for a long time, I practically endured it. But mine fell into various depressions because of his situation and I endured all sorts of behavior on his part (including side flirtations). I tried not to hurt his male self-esteem and to show him that he was needed, even though he had no income. Maybe I didn't quite manage to suppress it at certain moments, maybe it's the other way around - I spoiled it too much. I don't know where my mistake was. But unlike you, I did not stop loving him, I believed that he would achieve what he wanted. And so it happened - he went to the job he so desired. I thought this was the beginning of our common plans for the future, but it wasn't - he changed, he refused to talk about it. So to this day he avoids it, I begged for an "engagement" ring, but it meant nothing to him - just a waste of time, I don't even wear it anymore. I really don't know what to advise you. Just be careful not to wait for my situation. I don't mean age, but the duration of the relationship - the longer, the harder it will be to change your life one day. Don't waste a few more years waiting. However, I believe that a man has the right to a weakness and a chance to deal with it. It is very important for them to achieve financial stability first and then everything else. It seemed mean to me to dump someone just because they are not financially stable (and in this country). I'm not sure if it's so mean anymore, given my current situation. You can best judge who the person next to you is, whether he really wants and tries to achieve something, and most of all, whether one day he will appreciate your patience. I couldn't judge it. Think carefully about what connects you and if you decide to give him a little more time, then I think you should encourage him, give him trouble constantly, but not to crush his self-esteem. I made sure that a woman does not always have to be tame, sometimes a man needs to be led by someone. But if you really don't have any feelings for him anymore, then what are you bothering about? Without love, your issue is easy to solve - you separate and that's it. As they have already written to you - you should not be with him out of pity. Otherwise, you did not miss the chance for marriage, of course. Even I still have a chance :) Good luck! whether he really wants and tries to achieve something and most of all whether one day he will appreciate your patience. I couldn't judge it. Think carefully about what connects you and if you decide to give him a little more time, then I think you should encourage him, give him trouble constantly, but not to crush his self-esteem. I made sure that a woman does not always have to be tame, sometimes a man needs to be led by someone. But if you really don't have any feelings for him anymore, then what are you bothering about? Without love, your issue is easy to solve - you separate and that's it. As they have already written to you - you should not be with him out of pity. Otherwise, you did not miss the chance for marriage, of course. Even I still have a chance :) Good luck! whether he really wants and tries to achieve something and most of all whether one day he will appreciate your patience. I couldn't judge it. Think carefully about what connects you and if you decide to give him a little more time, then I think you should encourage him, give him trouble constantly, but not to crush his self-esteem. I made sure that a woman does not always have to be tame, sometimes a man needs to be led by someone. But if you really don't have any feelings for him anymore, then what are you bothering about? Without love, your issue is easy to solve - you separate and that's it. As they have already written to you - you should not be with him out of pity. Otherwise, you did not miss the chance for marriage, of course. Even I still have a chance :) Good luck! to give him trouble all the time, but not to crush his self-esteem. I made sure that a woman does not always have to be tame, sometimes a man needs to be led by someone. But if you really don't have any feelings for him anymore, then what are you bothering about? Without love, your issue is easy to solve - you separate and that's it. As they have already written to you - you should not be with him out of pity. Otherwise, you did not miss the chance for marriage, of course. Even I still have a chance :) Good luck! to give him trouble all the time, but not to crush his self-esteem. I made sure that a woman does not always have to be tame, sometimes a man needs to be led by someone. But if you really don't have any feelings for him anymore, then what are you bothering about? Without love, your issue is easy to solve - you separate and that's it. As they have already written to you - you should not be with him out of pity. Otherwise, you did not miss the chance for marriage, of course. Even I still have a chance :) Good luck! Otherwise, you did not miss the chance for marriage, of course. Even I still have a chance :) Good luck! Otherwise, you did not miss the chance for marriage, of course. Even I still have a chance :) Good luck!
if you have no feelings for him, separate. there is no way you can suddenly and abruptly love a person you feel like a roommate. and waiting for it to change is a mission impossible, just forget it. the person is obviously inert, passive, you don't like his behavior and there is no point in torturing yourself. F42
Every woman is like that. When an obstacle appears to have a child, the attachment goes away. It is in every woman's gene to seek security in order to start a family. Wait for it to heal because you can't dump it right now, split up and start a family before it's too late. And with a person who is ready to give you security. Because if there is security and family - there is peace. Is there peace, is there happiness and love. Good luck.
Nasty problem of today's youth: financial problems = lack of love = disinterest. You describe it as an object to give. You want security, support, but what can you give in return? What do you think you should get in return? Just because he loves you, tries to be with you despite what he probably sees? To think that you deserve support and support. You think that if someone loves you, if you let them love you, then he owes you. On the other hand, even someone's suffering, pain, even illness can't move you, and that says how much you couldn't feel love? No I do not think so. All of the above says that your daily routine is to make pathetic attempts at a bright future, to see how other couples are and to think about how unhappy you are at the moment. When you can't feel sorry for a sick person, when you can't tell that when a person gives you or wants to give you emotions, it doesn't necessarily mean he owes you, then for dramatic effect the authors describe this as a "lost" person. Yes, you are a stupid, frigid and quite unaware of yourself woman who is not 26 but 46 will still be waiting for something to happen, looking at other people's manners, problems, shortcomings, but never in their own. I'm not whipping you, nor do I want you to learn a lesson, I'm just expressing my regret for you. waiting for something to happen, looking at other people's manners, problems, shortcomings, but never in their own. I'm not whipping you, nor do I want you to learn a lesson, I'm just expressing my regret for you. waiting for something to happen, looking at other people's manners, problems, shortcomings, but never in their own. I'm not whipping you, nor do I want you to learn a lesson, I'm just expressing my regret for you.
Fix your title by removing the word "already", because the truth is that you never really loved it. You were in love (that is, under the chemicals in the brain that are released during the first year of the relationship), then out of habit and affection you continued to be with him, thinking it was love. No, my girl, this is not love, you do not know how to love, simply because you love yourself too much, and if you understand it, it is possible to overcome it, because otherwise you will repeat the same in your future relationships. When a woman truly loves a man, she loves him forever, as he is, even if he is the most failed type. An example of such unconditional love is the second wife of the genius Dostoevsky, who loved him in his complete fall and dependence on gambling. I'm not saying every woman has to put up with a man like that, rather, I try to make some women wonder if they are doomed to misery all their lives, looking for the perfect one. There was a joke at the time that the ideal man doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, doesn't swear, doesn't look at other women and ... doesn't exist. For you women today, the most important thing is money, and that is where your unhappiness comes from, because many women who are financially insured are still unhappy because they lack other things. But continue in the same spirit, so you will make many men really give up on women and prefer loneliness to the suffering and pain caused by women. For you women today, the most important thing is money, and that is where your unhappiness comes from, because many women who are financially insured are still unhappy because they lack other things. But continue in the same spirit, so you will make many men really give up on women and prefer loneliness to the suffering and pain caused by women. For you women today, the most important thing is money, and that is where your unhappiness comes from, because many women who are financially insured are still unhappy because they lack other things. But continue in the same spirit, so you will make many men really give up on women and prefer loneliness to the suffering and pain caused by women.
Hi author, I was in a similar situation (although I loved it a lot) and so I think I can give you advice. I supported a passive man over 2 and a half years. We were miserable, and it didn't even occur to him to look for a job, while I worked 14 hours a day to pay off the loans he made with his ex-wife. If a man does not make an effort to get out of the hole (it happens to everyone to fall into one) then you have nothing to look for in him. If 1 year can drive like that and you can endure it, then it can be 10. And you are not 10 years old. These are not for family and responsibilities, they are parasites. Their power is to make you feel guilty. They are always tired, they are always sick, they are always crooked, the whole world is against them. It is very difficult to change. And they have a habit of defending each other on the forums. I got rid of my parasite and I am very happy! If he has no desire for change, if he has no desire to take care of himself, I advise you to get rid of yours. Success!
From the author for comment 6: strangely, I did not want regret, but advice, it seems to me that you are looking for a place to pour out your aggression. Thanks to the others especially for comment 3, I thought about it if I don't like it why I'm bothering. Maybe there's still something, I'm thinking of talking to him seriously and giving him one last chance.
When a person begins to wonder if he loves another - then it's too late and it's over. It's best to leave him. Well, you don't love him and he has no money, what is he for? Otherwise, well done to number 6 Especially with his formula - Financial problems = lack of love = disinterest. It is true that more and more women think so. However, you forget the most important thing - that you must be stable enough to be independent. No one will love you just because you let them do it. And the one with a lot of money will want something from you in exchange for his money, because money is not given just like that and you will still not be happy. So it's not bad to think (I mean the materialists). In return for what you are given this money, because it will turn out that you are married to a rich man and still not happy.