Over the years, I've been cornered and built up a comfort zone that I can't handle on my own. I have no confidence. That's why I worked for relatives, no matter how much they hated and mocked me. The very idea of being alone in a foreign city, let alone another country, without a friend or relative, terrifies me a lot. Am I the only one So yes, how do you manage to manage on your own in a foreign city or abroad, without anyone? I ask because I'm considering going to my girlfriend's in another big city. However, I will not have anyone, and if we leave ... I will not be able to stay there. So without friends, without anyone to ask for help, I will not be able to. It's not masculine, but it's a fact that I have a weak, unstable psyche.
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I moved abroad to be with my husband, who is a foreigner. I had never lived alone before and had never moved from home. Over time, one gets used to the new place and one finds new friends and acquaintances. If you have a girlfriend and you want a change, I think it's worth the risk. Home is where love is.
The goal is to know what you want and how to achieve it. The achievement will require some sacrifice. There was a thought about how the comfort zone is a comfortable but groundless place - nothing grows there. If you are not ready to endure, you will not get far. And if you're wondering if you're going to break up from now on, I don't know how much you've invested in that. A man must be able to live even in complete isolation, if he must. Some time ago, I also mourned lost friendships, but sooner or later you dull into the past. The lack of initiative leads to another pain, that of disappointment and the eternal question "What would have happened if I had only tried?" So decide for yourself whether your personal comfort is more important than character development.
It's great that you know your strengths, my advice is not to jump. Live as before, why spoil your comfort I do not understand?
I've done it several times. New city, new place, new beginning. The reason has always been survival - work, work and work again to stay afloat. Not for people with a labile psyche, definitely. The very feeling that you are ALONE and there is no one to rely on ... Separately if no one can help you with money and you are afraid of getting sick, because there is no way not to go to work, but you have to work for to have the means to survive. It's not for everyone, but people do it all the time. Why? Because our instinct for survival is stronger than our fears. Fight your fears, the reward is worth it.
The only way to overcome your fears is to face them. The action is the cure for this. If a certain fear is not physically dangerous for you or others, it is your goal to defeat it. Start with small victories and upgrade by reminding yourself of each one. I recommend Maxwell Maltz's book Psycho-Cybernetics, which describes techniques for overcoming misprogramming. There's also a hack I learned from a podcast (The Jordan Harbinger Show): Choose someone you admire on stage or interviews (eg Robert Downey J. or Craig Ferguson) and "get in the role." i.e. as if he were you in the situation. I hope this helps you. Success! P.P. Everyone is afraid, but the brave act nonetheless. Not "how nervous I am ..." but "how excited I am!"
More from №5. For me, cold showers do an excellent job, because in addition to physical health, they train the will and drown out the rebellious monkey in the head, which is looking for reasons and excuses why not. It's the same with fitness (HIIT) ... "Small victories - every day" lead to habits and a change in your self-esteem.
Don't listen to number 3, author. You can do much more than you think and than others tell you. I'm sure anyone can handle it. And a person MUST get out of his comfort zone, because sooner or later you will have to get out of it, but it will be the hard way. And the biggest disadvantage of man is fear. You face your fears, you will fall, you will get hurt, you will wash your wounds and move on. Once you see that it works for you, the fear will disappear, but not completely. The brave move the world, the rest just watch. Dare. F18
I had a super malicious office job as an IT specialist in Sofia. I hated this comfort zone so much that I read travelers' blogs all day. One day I saw a super beautiful photo of two cyclists boarding an Atlas in Morocco. The British. Then I had a girlfriend and I told her "let's go around the world on wheels". She was crazy, but I was still surprised when she said "yes". We both had money saved and done. We quit our jobs and sold everything. We rented the apartment. We were very enthusiastic. We caught a train to Ruse one night. We drank a coffee in the morning. As I was crossing the Bridge of Friendship, I took a photo back to Bulgaria and said to myself that there is no going back and this photo will be a memory for me. The first day we overdid it a bit. We reached Bucharest. I didn't expect it to work so well. Three months later, after many hardships, we were already in Stockholm. There the movie ended because her bike was stolen, I sold mine online and we went home. The point is that ever since it started ... I've been traveling everywhere. I have been working for two or two years for years, then I travel for 4-6 months. I don't want to tell you that along the way I met people who literally kept traveling around the world for years without stopping. There's even a crazy guy. Heinz Pike. Find it on Google and read about it. So buddy - the only way to do it is to do it. Do not think about it. Do it. You will see that it is nothing special. And to be honest, all foreigners are highly praised. Good things don't need advertising, you have to find them yourself. And in BG the Anglo-Saxon empire is desperately glorified as the Mecca of the Earth. From all countries in which I have been only Japan and Thailand I liked and would stay there for years. I would also live in Russia, but only in Moscow, nowhere else. Everything else in the world is a farce. Population of manipulated animals, living in one or another slop. I wish you success anyway!