I experienced a difficult separation after a long relationship. I vowed not to let anyone near me again. I had just recovered a little from the shock and a man appeared. In the beginning, we just talked together. Subsequently, he began to shorten the distance, wanting to say something to me, he leaned towards me, he began to touch me involuntarily on the arm. One day I noticed that he was looking at me without taking his eyes off me and I became uncomfortable, I asked him why he was looking at me like that, he replied that he liked me and did not do it on purpose. He liked my eyes, my smile, how I speak, things like that. I lost my mind and my words and did not know what to say. I smiled until then. From that moment on, he is constantly trying to get in my field of vision, to attract my attention in some way. We talked a lot at the very beginning about bad relationships, etc., it was just the circumstances ... and it turned out that he himself had been brutally injured. He told me many things about himself and continues to share them with me. Somewhere it makes me think that there are no second thoughts towards me, on the other hand it scares me that so quickly he somehow started talking to me about feelings, about wanting to make me happy, something like that. I have totally lost my trust in men and as much as I want to relax and be with this man, there is something that pulls me back. I'm terribly afraid of being hurt again, both emotionally and physically. This man does not press me in any way for anything. See you, call me, laugh, talk about everything. One day he kissed me unexpectedly and I felt my legs soften. My stomach tightened. I was both startled and happy. I find myself thinking more and more about him, but this fear that he just wants to take advantage of me does not leave me. I can't believe that someone can feel sincere feelings for me and don't want to hurt me. I'm terribly confused and I can't even organize my thoughts properly. Please advise me what to do. I don't know whether to trust this man or run away.
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Men are people like us - women and are not some scary creatures to beware of. Realize this as a start, and then understand what kind of man you want, because it means that you will have an idea, and you will not soften in front of anyone who is nice to you. Clarify one, complete image (such as character, values, ideas for life, also visual - physical), with which you think you would like to have a family and children from it, with others it is pointless to deal with, to waste time and emotions . And no, it's not too much, there are a lot of men and women, and you don't have to settle for less than you want, because every compromise you make in the beginning, be it with vision or character, it's there will be a reason for quarrels and separation at a later stage, so look for your man, not just someone, or someone nice, someone beautiful ... These are guidelines for people looking for a serious relationship, of course. So, about this man ... Find out if you have feelings for your ex, because it won't be fair to start a relationship if you have feelings for someone else. Write on a piece of paper in two columns where you have a match and where you diverge, and judge. Feelings are ... the feelings that our partner makes us feel, if you enjoy communicating with him, then you like him enough to have a relationship, but for a real relationship you need to consider the things I wrote to you. Whether it will hurt you is up to you, listen to your intuition, she is always right, does she tell you that there is something wrong - do not deal with it, but do not confuse it with fear, it refuses you action, but it is necessary to act to understand. Find out if you have feelings for your ex, because it would not be fair to start a relationship if you have feelings for someone else. Write on a piece of paper in two columns where you have a match and where you diverge, and judge. Feelings are ... the feelings that our partner makes us feel, if you enjoy communicating with him, then you like him enough to have a relationship, but for a real relationship you need to consider the things I wrote to you. Whether it will hurt you is up to you, listen to your intuition, she is always right, does she tell you that there is something wrong - do not deal, but do not confuse it with fear, he refuses to act, but it is necessary to act to understand. Find out if you have feelings for your ex, because it would not be fair to start a relationship if you have feelings for someone else. Write on a piece of paper in two columns where you have a match and where you diverge, and judge. Feelings are ... the feelings that our partner makes us feel, if you enjoy communicating with him, then you like him enough to have a relationship, but for a real relationship you need to consider the things I wrote to you. Whether it will hurt you is up to you, listen to your intuition, she is always right, does she tell you that there is something wrong - do not deal, but do not confuse it with fear, he refuses to act, but it is necessary to act to understand. which our partner makes us feel, if you enjoy communicating with him, then you like him enough to have a relationship, but for a real relationship you need to consider the things I wrote to you. Whether it will hurt you is up to you, listen to your intuition, she is always right, does she tell you that there is something wrong - do not deal, but do not confuse it with fear, he refuses to act, but it is necessary to act to understand. which our partner makes us feel, if you enjoy communicating with him, then you like him enough to have a relationship, but for a real relationship you need to consider the things I wrote to you. Whether it will hurt you is up to you, listen to your intuition, she is always right, does she tell you that there is something wrong - do not deal, but do not confuse it with fear, he refuses to act, but it is necessary to act to understand.
Stop underestimating yourself and allow yourself to be happy, it's not that complicated.
I think he's in love, and I think you're already. You can never be sure it won't hurt you. But missed love hurts infinitely more.
Give him a chance without expecting anything! Just create variety and positive emotions with this person, and time will tell if things will develop more seriously. And I went through a hard separation, I still can't recover from the shock, the many lies and everything I've been through, so I understand very well why you are not next to another man at the moment. But try, I wish you a lot of happiness and happy moments! Success!
Honey, why run? You will always have to move on and give someone a chance. Why don't you do it with this man who doesn't press you for anything and laugh together, you like him. Who will guarantee you that if you reject him, the next person you meet will not hurt you, huh? Nobody! So take your time, give it a try and see what happens. If he is conscious, he will find the right path to you and your heart. Good luck!
To number 1: look, I don't soften in front of anyone who is nice to me. I softened in front of this man because I see something in him, something I always wanted, but I wasn't lucky enough to have. Just looking at him and talking to him, I feel incredibly calm, and I've always missed the peace. At the same time, he is wild, in the sense that he is cheerful. Visually, I like him a lot. I like everything in it. I just can't explain why I'm so afraid to relax. About whether I still love my ex ... My answer is no. The only thing left of him is pain, insult and resentment. I don't think about him at all, I left this man in my past. I will try not to think so much about my fears and I will give myself a chance to be happy. Thanks to everyone who answered me, be very happy!
Listen to yourself, don't listen to us. You certainly have some sense of the situation, so trust yourself. I think it is very important to start the relationship cleanly, without the emotional baggage of the past. I strongly believe that good relationships start exactly like this, one must be aware of oneself, have found harmony and then mix one's life with another's life. This is a way to save yourself and your partner, to save pain. It is better to take the time to forget the bad memories and overcome them. It is not right to transfer problems from old relationships to new ones. As long as you're sure you won't make such a mistake, because your pain is still fresh, I don't see a problem with being the person you wrote this story about. If you can start over and feel that this is the right decision, act. You can start the relationship absolutely easily, you have already shared many things about your past, so it would not be a problem. You have both suffered, it is logical to show understanding for each other. Start slowly, lightly, have fun. Don't set too high expectations, just experience this love with all the joy you are capable of. You have already sunk, obviously, that the man also has a great desire and interest in you. No one can take advantage of you if you do not allow it yourself. Fears are unnecessary. You will never understand his intentions if you do not let him in. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain. you have already shared a lot about your past, so it wouldn't be a problem. You have both suffered, it is logical to show understanding for each other. Start slowly, lightly, have fun. Don't set too high expectations, just experience this love with all the joy you are capable of. You have already sunk, obviously, that the man also has a great desire and interest in you. No one can take advantage of you if you do not allow it yourself. Fears are unnecessary. You will never understand his intentions if you do not let him in. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain. you have already shared a lot about your past, so it wouldn't be a problem. You have both suffered, it is logical to show understanding for each other. Start slowly, lightly, have fun. Don't set too high expectations, just experience this love with all the joy you are capable of. You have already sunk, obviously, that the man also has a great desire and interest in you. No one can take advantage of you if you do not allow it yourself. Fears are unnecessary. You will never understand his intentions if you do not let him in. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain. You have both suffered, it is logical to show understanding for each other. Start slowly, lightly, have fun. Don't set too high expectations, just experience this love with all the joy you are capable of. You have already sunk, obviously, that the man also has a great desire and interest in you. No one can take advantage of you if you do not allow it yourself. Fears are unnecessary. You will never understand his intentions if you do not let him in. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain. You have both suffered, it is logical to show understanding for each other. Start slowly, lightly, have fun. Don't set too high expectations, just experience this love with all the joy you are capable of. You have already sunk, obviously, that the man also has a great desire and interest in you. No one can take advantage of you if you do not allow it yourself. Fears are unnecessary. You will never understand his intentions if you do not let him in. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain. just experience this love with all the joy you are capable of. You have already sunk, obviously, that the man also has a great desire and interest in you. No one can take advantage of you if you do not allow it yourself. Fears are unnecessary. You will never understand his intentions if you do not let him in. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain. just experience this love with all the joy you are capable of. You have already sunk, obviously, that the man also has a great desire and interest in you. No one can take advantage of you if you do not allow it yourself. Fears are unnecessary. You will never understand his intentions if you do not let him in. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain. It may hurt you willingly or unwillingly, but that shouldn't stop you from indulging in your own feelings. Don't risk your happiness for fears. We've all been hurt, it's just a part of life, but not every love story ends in pain.
Relax and let it flow. But without rushing and expecting something to happen. Whatever happens will happen. Years ago, I also had a difficult separation from a girl I cared about a lot. I had closed myself in and vowed not to allow myself to have feelings for a woman. Well, just a few months later, I accidentally started dating another girl. I had no feelings for her. We had known each other for 2-3 years, but she was not my friend, just an acquaintance. It was even visually different from my criteria. Almost a year passed, we met slowly and we liked each other. Somewhere then we went to bed for the first time. I didn't feel when I forgot about my ex and what she had done to me. We have been a family for 10 years and we have a great son. Don't miss this opportunity.
If only there could be more like this little man.
I am the author. To date, our relationship is developing more than wonderfully and I am glad that despite the fears I felt, I did not back down. For the first time I feel so sincerely happy, I feel like I am the most beloved woman in this world :) we both managed to overcome our pain from previous relationships that had disappointed us and we enjoy every single moment we are together. For the first time, I feel like I have something real. And it's really worth it.