Hello, I am writing here because my life is very confused at the moment and I have no one to share it with. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, and we have been living together abroad for a year and a half. I don't trust him at all because he lied to me many times. He cheated on me, but I keep closing my eyes. If he raised the topic after the next time I caught him, he starts to feel sorry and tell me how he wants to be only with me and the like. And I'm bonding and I think it's going to change. We work together at his request, we live together and in a lie and infidelity I have not caught him for a year. The problem is that I suffocate when we are non-stop together, and when we are not I don't believe a single word. I don't know if he has changed as he says or if he will cheat on me again. Our daily life is monotonous, after work we hurry to go home to stay at the computer. We're not going anywhere, because he is sitting at the computer. He doesn't pay enough attention to me, and when I talk to him he tells me that because we work together there is no need to do things together after work. Our sex life has declined a lot, I walk around almost naked in front of him and he only watches on the computer or phone. About a month ago, a colleague with whom the three of us live made a few hints to me, and we've been having sex ever since. He is great, he makes me feel wanted, he takes care of me, we hear each other all the time, he wants (like me) to start working somewhere else and to continue to develop. It all started with him just because of sex, but I think I'm starting to fall in love. One week we were just the two of us, we slept together, he hugs me, kisses me, the sex is amazing, he always asks me if I'm hungry, if I'm cold, he holds my hand. I told my friend that things weren't going well between us, that I don't trust him and maybe he feels it already, and he asked us to have a child to prove to me that he wants to be with me. I do not know what to do. Whether to try to save my previous relationship or to end it and what happens to the colleague.
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By no means do you have a child with your current boyfriend! Many couples before the separation think that the baby will solve their problems, but in 95% of cases it just gets worse. Neither sex will start, nor will it start to pay more attention to you, and you will be busy with the child and you will feel even more neglected. He's just used to you and you're comfortable with him, and when he sees that things are getting rough, he starts manipulating and roaring at you, blabbering on about wanting to be a father and playing with your feelings and hopes at all. Very low. Fuck him, your trust in him has been undermined to the limit and rightly so. So the family does not start, the risk is too great. To be cycles on the computer, to walk on women, alive and well! Not to mention that you slept with someone else ... I don't even know what you mean by these things. Try with your colleague, there is no way to know what will come out, but there is nothing to lose. Lies, infidelity, ignoring, etc. What is it for you, what will you save?
No wonder at all! Don't you think that having a child will make the computer help? It will get worse! Drop this one and be with the person who cares about you and encourages you to grow.
You answered the question while you were sleeping with your colleague. The relationship with your ex-boyfriend is exhausted, in my opinion. The child, if you eventually have one, will only deepen the crisis between you, will cause more problems, difficulties and troubles. This will bind you to look after a child, and he will be able to drive it freely as before. If he has cheated on you so far, the baby will not stop him from continuing, on the contrary. It's even strange how you put up with him and forgave him until now. You gave him more than he deserved, it's time to stop. What do you have to do with him, what will you save? Disrespect, coldness, betrayals to you? Your own mistrust, humiliation and dissatisfaction? Don't let him manipulate you, don't believe his promises, be firm, because nothing better awaits you with this one. Get rid of him and move on with your new partner.
He cheats on you, you cheat on him, you can't stand him, but you had to save the relationship. It is best not to bother each other and separate like adults. Be with the person who makes you happy.
Children do not save doomed relationships, do not delude yourself. If you give birth to one child, in a few years you will write on the site that you are in love with another, but you are with your friend because of the child and you do not know what to do. I'll tell you in advance. If you do not love the man and do not want to be with him or be a single parent, you do not give birth to a child. Leave it, you are a lost cause. Infidelity, mistrust, vain promises ... there is no point in harassing. Your friend may have changed, but you have also changed, now you don't trust him, you are not happy with him and you want someone else.
Just don't pretend that if mom and dad know who they are ...
Don't be attached to him, he wants you to have a child just to keep you! If he cheats on you, it's not his love at all! And you have already chosen which way to go, you feel good with this man, abandon your friend and your job and go to the new one and go! If a man lies and cheats, even after 2 years it will not change
You're no different than him when you fucked your roommate. Itching does not forgive
Author, tell us now how you caught your friend in adultery. He saw him having sex with a woman. I wonder how your eyes see through the walls of a house or hotel room. The three of you live with a colleague and you walk naked only in front of your friend or in front of both of you. This colleague has made a few hints to you and you immediately jump on him. Where were you for a week with the colleague, just the two of you, and isn't your friend asking you where you've been all week, especially since you both weren't there at the same time? I very much doubt that this story is real. The whole thing seems very clumsy to me. You like to fantasize, but this fantasy is very lame wherever you look at it. It's good that your wives believe the lies.
Author, tell us now how you caught your friend in adultery. He saw him having sex with a woman. I wonder how your eyes see through the walls of a house or hotel room. The three of you live with a colleague and you walk naked only in front of your friend or in front of both of you. This colleague has made a few hints to you and you immediately jump on him. Where were you for a week with the colleague, just the two of you, and isn't your friend asking you where you've been all week, especially since you both weren't there at the same time? I very much doubt that this story is real. The whole thing seems very clumsy to me. You like to fantasize, but this fantasy is very lame wherever you look at it. It's good that your wives believe the lies.
And I think it's all over. The child will not change things. 9'month is emotionally unstable and then birth, his body needs another year to recover. My husband is great, just to hug the baby and jump and feed him, change everything else. Yes, but he was like that before. Yours will be sitting at the computer, and you will be stroking the child, and at night he will call you, make him shut up that I work. He is used to you, he is comfortable to be cooked, clean, washed and ironed. Everything mom did for him you do.
Whatever you do, then there will be a moment when you will regret;) After that there will be another moment when you will not regret and so they will alternate. So do something that your soul wants. Set a main goal - What do you want ... sex, children, millions, a person to rely on and who to rely on you. And follow her firmly. 10 s