Hello! I recently moved to a new, big city, but I don't feel at home. I always want to go home, I can't get used to the place and I've been here before. I can't find a suitable job that is in line with my lectures (part-time). And I stay at home all day and do nothing. Somehow I feel that I am forced to stay and I want to go home to my parents and friends. Have you been in my situation, in your opinion, to give a chance to the new, even though I feel that I do not want to stay here?
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Almost every beginning is like that. I am sure that even the season at the moment contributes to your condition and intensifies the negative feelings. Be patient, don't stop looking for a job and you will see that in a few months everything will be different. And if you can't get used to it, you can always change your choice, as long as it's worth taking a step back.
I have been and still am to some extent in the same situation! In 2016 I finished school, I went to study in the capital. Although we even bought our apartment there the following year, I still can't get used to it. The problem for me is that I don't have an environment or close friends here, the distances are far. In the universities where I was / I changed several /, I still did not happen to colleagues and did not find an environment, the first time I left on my own, the second time I also chose another specialty, and the third time not only did not happen to colleagues, but they tailored and number, which is why I dropped out. I think that's your problem - you don't have an environment or friends. I know from personal experience that it is of special importance, one cannot be alone. Over time, I started to get used to the big city, I have a few fans who are not like those in my hometown, but I go out from time to time, it does not prevent me from going out alone, but it's different to have friends. Give yourself time.
Give yourself some time, I guarantee you it will show quickly. Every new beginning is like that, but sometimes one feels the situation well before it develops. When I started studying in a new city, I felt the same way. Everyone assured me that in a year I would change my mind and not want to leave. Well, they weren't right. More than a year has passed, I can't wait to leave. Here I have created a new life, I have friends, I know the streets, I know public transport, I even decorated my apartment to my own taste, but it is not my place. The city is suffocating me, I don't like the atmosphere. In other new endeavors, I still had reservations in the beginning, but I didn't even feel a strong need to share with my relatives. A few months passed, I befriended someone and everything was fine. These are both options for you. Or you'll like it in a few months, or it will not happen. Keep looking for work, meet people, give yourself some time. If you do not feel better, you can always return to your hometown and work there.