Hi, I'm an 18-year-old girl. Soon my boyfriend and I are 2 months old, but I feel that I feel almost nothing towards him. I liked him about 2 months before we left, but before that I was very hurt by my ex-boyfriend and I had a hard time overcoming our separation ... or at least I thought I had succeeded. We broke up with him 10 months ago and shortly after that he went abroad. He came back a few days ago and we are constantly spotted on the streets. When I see him, I have the feeling that my heart will jump out. Besides, he and my friend are from the same company, they see each other sometimes and that makes it even weirder. I feel really confused, I don't know what to do. My friend cares a lot about me, he didn't go to study abroad because of me, he works and sits in the same city to be together. Rare are such guys and I want to give him a chance, and also myself, but I just think of my ex, who broke up with me without blinking, given that he knew how much I loved him and how many things I had done for him. I have no hope that I can be with him again, but I feel that if I had this opportunity I would be, although I know that I can feel the pain he has caused me again. For a few days I started thinking about him for absolutely no reason, I have no idea why.
Finally he came back here and it made me even weirder, I started thinking about him even more. I don't want to be with someone while I love another, I don't know if I love him at all, even what causes these constant thoughts. I just suffocate, nothing is done to me, I just think about it and I suffer terribly. I don't want to give my friend vain hopes, who is ready for anything for me and to ruin my relationship for the sake of a man like my ex. But on the other hand, I feel like I'm even busy when I'm with my boyfriend, I don't want to be together for as long a day as it sounds. I know that my feelings do not depend on me, but I still feel terrible and I do not want to do this with a real and good person like him. He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance! that even when I'm with my boyfriend, I don't want to be together for as long a day as it sounds. I know that my feelings do not depend on me, but I still feel terrible and I do not want to do this with a real and good person like him. He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance! that even when I'm with my boyfriend, I don't want to be together for as long a day as it sounds. I know that my feelings do not depend on me, but I still feel terrible and I do not want to do this with a real and good person like him.
He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance! but I still feel terrible and I don't want to do that to a real and good person like him. He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance! but I still feel terrible and I don't want to do that to a real and good person like him. He keeps telling me that he would do anything for me, and that he always wants us to be together, and I don't even know how to tell him that I need some time and to be alone, because I know I'm going to hurt him a hell of a lot. I am extremely confused, please if anyone has been in a similar situation to advise me something, because I really do not know what to do ... Thanks in advance!
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Oh no, this must be a fake topic ... It can't be the hundredth topic of how we can't love the good boy, and whether to go after the bad one again ... Otherwise, dear, psychology is just something. Which will you appreciate more - the toy that you already have and have tossed for a year (in this case even 2 months), or the one that has slipped away from you? It's ugly to imagine that we are like a "toy" for others, if you see "love" here ... but the reality is that for most people it is just like that ... I can advise the girl to remember what his parents told him when they gave him toys ... Learn to appreciate them, not to constantly roar about what you don't have ... But of course, some things, if they don't develop by the age of 7, then hard work ...
Heh, with you obviously everything is solved in days, even hours ... If so - be with one in the afternoon, in the afternoon - with the other, and everything will be fine!
Too bad for your friend, he also had to follow his dream to study abroad. A vain self-sacrifice on his part for a girl he didn't deserve.
It's not just your feelings that don't depend on you. It is also not up to you and the fact that you are internally a typical, first-time frivolity, no matter how much you realize it and how nasty it is. Internally, you will never be able (directly and shamelessly allow myself to expand the conversation to more than half of young women (sad but true)) to love a good boy who is ready for anything for you and values you more than himself and uncontrollably. and you will instinctively run after a jerk who has you for nothing, or at least nothing more than your genitals - other organs that he can enjoy and that ignores you or abandons you at the first opportunity for something better or simple, when you get tired of him. Somehow you don't think about what you want to have with you over time, because no matter how much it seems to you, that you have hundreds behind your ass and you can always get one of them, it's not like that and it's time. Now he / she finds / chooses a partner and everyone seems to hope to stay with someone serious, loyal, caring, who cares and would do everything for you in a difficult moment (which will come sooner or later), but in general your boyfriend. And yet ... here you are, wondering if to dump him, maybe hurt him forever and deny his faith in people, turning him into a cold cynic who no longer believes in love. And all this for some ass (yes ass) who didn't care about you at all and dumped you in your words "without blinking an eye" when you got tired of him or became an obstacle / complication for his future. Well, you tell me whether to break up with your boyfriend and what to do ... PS I'm really naughty about a quality boy ... How do we always come across people like you? !?
Well, it's quite simple. Make a decision. There is always a chance that you will make a mistake, whatever you choose. There are no guarantees in life.
From the author: No, the story is not made up and it is typical for every Bulgarian to immediately feel the accusation against the other in his speech. Thank you for the advice though, but I want to add something: number 1, I appreciate his every word and every gesture, if it weren't for that I wouldn't be here right now to give you explanations. You can't blame someone for their feelings, because they are hellishly difficult to control and only to a certain extent. And I think that something like this happens in everyone's life - it is part of our development.
Do not rush. You are now captivated by emotions from a situation you have not overcome. However ... not every suffering is from love, nor is every desire. The injured ego is often confused, which we confuse with feelings for another. If you drop the current one, it is very likely that in time you will suffer in the same way, only for him. It's just that he is "sure" to you, and somehow modern society has suggested to us that love is necessarily accompanied by very bright emotions. And when you meet a person who does not create drama, he does not fit into our imposed model. And yet you have been together for two months. Give him a chance. Give yourself a chance to understand how you feel. The residual emotions towards your ex, even though you have separated so dramatically, are absolutely normal and human. But that doesn't mean you love him. I went from there, trust me :) G30
From the author: Thank you very much, number 7! Really! I thought so too, but like I said, I'm damn confused
Stay alone for now! That would be best. The boy next to you is not too late to pursue his goal of studying abroad. No one is irreplaceable, except the family, calmly, will survive you. She said she felt almost nothing. Talk to everyone along the way. “Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you!” Think! Would you like someone to deceive you that he loves you? The Little Donut